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    I feel very odd and confused today. I started a new job a month ago and my boss is quite good looking. I've been with my bf for 2 years and until recently any doubts I ever had were about his feelings, if he would cheat, if he loved me etc 'cos I'm pretty insecure in that way. But last night at work my eye was wandering far too much for my liking. Then I started getting scared that one day I might not love my bf anymore. I know it all sounds really stupid but I don't know...I just feel strange. Like I'm wondering 'what if there is someone else out there who is better?' But my bf is good looking, lovely, I've always liked him so much, we are so close...I don't want anyone else but now I've thought that stuff I can't stop worrying. I don't ever want to stop loving him, but I know couples who drifted apart and I am scared that that is going to be me! Which is weird because I always felt like I was the one who was really in it for the long run, really loved him so much. And I do, I think...?

    Sorry this is long and confusing but I am feeling confused :rolleyes: Thanks for reading if you still are!

    Anyway, I briefly chatted to my flatmate. She thinks it's cos we spend so so little time together. We've gone from entire weekends and datey things during the week when I was at sixth form and in holidays to 2 hours before bed on 1 weekend night then 2 hours when we wake up before I go to work again. He works full time, I'm at uni with a bar job. What does everyone think? Am I being ridiculous? Will my worries disappear when I meet him on Wed? Agh!
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    (Original post by sarah1987)
    I feel very odd and confused today. I started a new job a month ago and my boss is quite good looking. I've been with my bf for 2 years and until recently any doubts I ever had were about his feelings, if he would cheat, if he loved me etc 'cos I'm pretty insecure in that way. But last night at work my eye was wandering far too much for my liking. Then I started getting scared that one day I might not love my bf anymore. I know it all sounds really stupid but I don't know...I just feel strange. Like I'm wondering 'what if there is someone else out there who is better?' But my bf is good looking, lovely, I've always liked him so much, we are so close...I don't want anyone else but now I've thought that stuff I can't stop worrying. I don't ever want to stop loving him, but I know couples who drifted apart and I am scared that that is going to be me! Which is weird because I always felt like I was the one who was really in it for the long run, really loved him so much. And I do, I think...?

    Sorry this is long and confusing but I am feeling confused :rolleyes: Thanks for reading if you still are!

    Anyway, I briefly chatted to my flatmate. She thinks it's cos we spend so so little time together. We've gone from entire weekends and datey things during the week when I was at sixth form and in holidays to 2 hours before bed on 1 weekend night then 2 hours when we wake up before I go to work again. He works full time, I'm at uni with a bar job. What does everyone think? Am I being ridiculous? Will my worries disappear when I meet him on Wed? Agh!
    Don't dwell on this until you've seen him again.

    And maybe you should talk about spending some more time together? I found this happening to me and my last but one ex when he went off to uni and we barely saw each other. Sadly that's what ended it, but it's not always the case.
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    (Original post by sarah1987)
    I feel very odd and confused today. I started a new job a month ago and my boss is quite good looking. I've been with my bf for 2 years and until recently any doubts I ever had were about his feelings, if he would cheat, if he loved me etc 'cos I'm pretty insecure in that way. But last night at work my eye was wandering far too much for my liking. Then I started getting scared that one day I might not love my bf anymore. I know it all sounds really stupid but I don't know...I just feel strange. Like I'm wondering 'what if there is someone else out there who is better?' But my bf is good looking, lovely, I've always liked him so much, we are so close...I don't want anyone else but now I've thought that stuff I can't stop worrying. I don't ever want to stop loving him, but I know couples who drifted apart and I am scared that that is going to be me! Which is weird because I always felt like I was the one who was really in it for the long run, really loved him so much. And I do, I think...?

    Sorry this is long and confusing but I am feeling confused :rolleyes: Thanks for reading if you still are!

    Anyway, I briefly chatted to my flatmate. She thinks it's cos we spend so so little time together. We've gone from entire weekends and datey things during the week when I was at sixth form and in holidays to 2 hours before bed on 1 weekend night then 2 hours when we wake up before I go to work again. He works full time, I'm at uni with a bar job. What does everyone think? Am I being ridiculous? Will my worries disappear when I meet him on Wed? Agh!
    Don't worry about it, just try and make things work with your bf and try not to think about this guy at work. It's completely natural to find other people attractive even when you're in a committed relationship. As long as there's no infidelity!
    Just give it time - maybe you're relationship with your bf has run it's course? You are still very young (although that doesn't necessarily mean you won't stay together, before anyone criticises me for saying that!)
    If you still love your boyfriend then just carry on as you are. Plus it's never a good idea to get involved with someone at work.
    Good luck babe, I know you're feeling bad and confused but what's meant to be will be (I know that sounds trite but I really believe it) xxxx
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    I've been feeling the same way... Its really scary to think that even though we're so happy and in love now it could all change and we might just not feel the same way in the future....

    (Original post by sarah1987)
    I feel very odd and confused today. I started a new job a month ago and my boss is quite good looking. I've been with my bf for 2 years and until recently any doubts I ever had were about his feelings, if he would cheat, if he loved me etc 'cos I'm pretty insecure in that way. But last night at work my eye was wandering far too much for my liking. Then I started getting scared that one day I might not love my bf anymore. I know it all sounds really stupid but I don't know...I just feel strange. Like I'm wondering 'what if there is someone else out there who is better?' But my bf is good looking, lovely, I've always liked him so much, we are so close...I don't want anyone else but now I've thought that stuff I can't stop worrying. I don't ever want to stop loving him, but I know couples who drifted apart and I am scared that that is going to be me! Which is weird because I always felt like I was the one who was really in it for the long run, really loved him so much. And I do, I think...?

    Sorry this is long and confusing but I am feeling confused :rolleyes: Thanks for reading if you still are!

    Anyway, I briefly chatted to my flatmate. She thinks it's cos we spend so so little time together. We've gone from entire weekends and datey things during the week when I was at sixth form and in holidays to 2 hours before bed on 1 weekend night then 2 hours when we wake up before I go to work again. He works full time, I'm at uni with a bar job. What does everyone think? Am I being ridiculous? Will my worries disappear when I meet him on Wed? Agh!
    I am in exactly the same position as you! I thought I was the only one, I'm so glad you posted that

    Although my boyfriend and I go to universities that are quite close, he has tonnes of lectures and travel is quite expensive, so we get to see each other once a week maximum. At the moment, I've not seen him for a week, and I won't see him for another week. That's not too bad compared to last year when he was at uni and I wasn't, because then he was even further away and we'd see each other about once a month.

    The difficulty is, since coming to uni I feel like I have two lives; one life with my uni friends, and another with my boyfriend. Since I don't see him that often, I've kind of built up a resistance to missing him when we're not together otherwise I'd go crazy! However, that does mean that when I'm at uni I sometimes start to think what it would be like to be someone else's girlfriend. It wouldn't be such a problem if it was just a general "I wonder what it would be like to go out with someone else", but at the moment its more of a "I wonder what it would be like to go out with -insert name here-" (if that makes any sense at all). And the person I wonder about the most has made it very clear that he 'likes' me.

    So now I'm caught in an ugly mess of trying to decide what and who I want. I think, and hope, that my boyfriend and I are just stuck in a temporary rut brought about by not seeing each other very often and taking each other for granted. We've been together for 4 years so I suppose its natural for the spark to lessen a little bit. My plan is to give it all I've got over the Christmas break - I'm planning to take him on a little tour of all the places important to us around our home town, like the place we first kissed, where he asked me out, the little heart we carved into the wall with our names in etc etc. Hopefully that'll make us both realise how much we want to be together. And if we realise we don't, I suppose its time for us to go our separate ways.

    Sorry for the really long post, good luck with everything
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    You are just 18 and you never know may be you will have not just one BF in future but there is nth bad in that, it may happen nd you have to know that! But still, if your love for your Bf is strong and his as well, then nth can happen to your lovely couple...
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    I am in exactly the same position as you! I thought I was the only one, I'm so glad you posted that

    Although my boyfriend and I go to universities that are quite close, he has tonnes of lectures and travel is quite expensive, so we get to see each other once a week maximum. At the moment, I've not seen him for a week, and I won't see him for another week. That's not too bad compared to last year when he was at uni and I wasn't, because then he was even further away and we'd see each other about once a month.

    The difficulty is, since coming to uni I feel like I have two lives; one life with my uni friends, and another with my boyfriend. Since I don't see him that often, I've kind of built up a resistance to missing him when we're not together otherwise I'd go crazy! However, that does mean that when I'm at uni I sometimes start to think what it would be like to be someone else's girlfriend. It wouldn't be such a problem if it was just a general "I wonder what it would be like to go out with someone else", but at the moment its more of a "I wonder what it would be like to go out with -insert name here-" (if that makes any sense at all). And the person I wonder about the most has made it very clear that he 'likes' me.

    So now I'm caught in an ugly mess of trying to decide what and who I want. I think, and hope, that my boyfriend and I are just stuck in a temporary rut brought about by not seeing each other very often and taking each other for granted. We've been together for 4 years so I suppose its natural for the spark to lessen a little bit. My plan is to give it all I've got over the Christmas break - I'm planning to take him on a little tour of all the places important to us around our home town, like the place we first kissed, where he asked me out, the little heart we carved into the wall with our names in etc etc. Hopefully that'll make us both realise how much we want to be together. And if we realise we don't, I suppose its time for us to go our separate ways.

    Sorry for the really long post, good luck with everything
    wow you just described everything i feel atm!

    (Original post by Fleece)
    wow you just described everything i feel atm!
    I am so, so glad I'm not the only one! My friends at uni don't seem to understand, but then they've not been in such long term relationships. I was beginning to think I was a complete weirdo
 
 
 
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