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Exactly how much do people fork out on relationships? I know some people who split costs when going out, some where the guy always pays, some where one ALWAYS buys the other presents (but gets nothin back) etc.... but where do u draw the line.... esp. considering how pooor students are....

Reply 1

Lucas

well ive been with my gf for 1 yr n a half...generally we do 50/50 but every now and then if i've take her somewhere nice then i'll pay for her

Reply 2

silly_moo_16

I split costs with my boyfriend cuz it aint fair paying for it all. at crimbo we spend the same amount on each other thou.

Reply 3

Indus1986

4

Good question. I always wanted to know.

In my relationship it is as follows:

I always insist on paying when going to dinner though she always manages to throw down a tenner. Other times she tends to pay for small things like ice cream etc. I always try and sneakly pay for tickets to movie/events. Paying for things isn't really an issue.

I am the one buying things and giving, not that she insists on it or expects it. Just because I see things that can be useful or interesting.

Reply 4

gordih6

near enough 50/50 for me and my gf, altho we dont keep tabs, one time we may go out and she will have no money or another time I will have no money, I'm sure you can work it out between you. Most relationships tend to be split 50/50 when it comes to money.

Reply 5

Evenstar

13

In my experience, I usually have to pay for everything! :mad:

Reply 6

Sheen

11

Evenstar

In my experience, I usually have to pay for everything! :mad:

thats abit mean.
my boyfriend usually pays but thats mainly because he wants too...i might buy him stuff from time to time hmm i dont know :confused:

Reply 7

viviki

14

I really am not that keen on people buying me expensive things makes me feel uncomfortable like it 50:50

Reply 8

Student_Bum

1

i prefer 50/50.
i never let my boyfriend pay for me although he tries to. The thing is , i like it how he offers to pay for me for things.
but then we'll buy each other surprise things from time to time.

Reply 9

xXMessedUpXx

15

I'm not sure, i've been with my bf..um 5 days now and have spent at least £15 on xmas present

*that said we were going out 14 months before, then had a breakup..now back together

Hmmm however much you can afford/feel comfortable with.Surely its the thought that should count anyway?

Reply 10

hippieglitter

19

With me and my boyf it really depends on who has cash, we are both students so neither of us have a lot anyway, but i get an allowance from my parents so i tend to have a little bit more than him, but really depends on who has what at the time.

Reply 11

happydinosaur

15

Money and who pays for stuff in past relationships has never really been an issue. It has just kind of happened that sometimes I would pay for things and other times he would pay for things and sometimes it would be 50:50. For example if we went to see a film I would just be first to go the the ticket person so I would buy two tickets but other times I would wait for him to go first. If out for dinner I would feel bad if I didn't contribute. Now that I am working though I tend to try and pay for more especially if it was my idea to go somewhere in the first place!!

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Ant93

With me and my boyf it really depends on who has cash, we are both students so neither of us have a lot anyway, but i get an allowance from my parents so i tend to have a little bit more than him, but really depends on who has what at the time.

Same here..

Reply 12

mangomaz

14

We dont do it 50:50, more like I'll get it one time and he'll get it another. Its quite nice treating each other. And it always seems to work out in the end, neither of us seems to be getting the worse deal :p:

Reply 13

justbrowsing

4

I think my rules are generally quite fair.

Firstly, I'd never ask a guy that I liked to go out on a date with me. therefore, if i'm invited out by a guy, i'd expect him to pay. Although, it doesn't hurt to at least buy him a drink during the evening.

Secondly, once coupled-up, surely it's fair to go halves.

As for the buying of presents outside of special occasions, that's a little too sentimental for my liking. And, well, if you find yourself buying your loved one presents only to realsise that you never get a little something in return, then more fool you.

Reply 14

Objet trouvé

1

Er...I can imagine that going out with me is quite expensive. What with cinema costs, presents, petrol expenses, bidding for stuff for me on ebay...

I feel quite guilty now.

Reply 15

pikaboo

13

About 50:50, though I'm fond of sending him random gift packages and he sometimes ends up paying a bit more when we go out. It depends who has money at the time really, and as I'm at uni and used to buying more things I've got more access to cash than he has. I wouldn't like it if the guy paid for everything - it'd make me feel too dependent!

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