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(Original post by fiesty_fox)
No, she is not 'whining' becasue her parents have sex, she is upset and needs help and advice becasue her parents are being ever so inconsiderate, they even carried on having sex when she was in the same bedroom as them and everyday day and night when she is completely aware of it.
No, she said this, which doesn't indicate her being in the same room:

The sound of it sickens me, and they often do it at times when I'll be awake...i.e around 11 at night, and also early mornings when I'm getting ready for work etc.
That IS a minor inconvienence. She can simply block it out.
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No, she said this, which doesn't indicate her being in the same room:
That IS a minor inconvienence. She can simply block it out.
She also said this:

On holidays where I was sharing a room with them (though obviously not sharing a bed too) when I was younger, they used to have sex when they clearly knew I was still awake, but they just didnt seem to care. When i said something like "oh i cant get to sleep" to try and interrupt, my dad would tell me to jsut go back to sleep.
That is definitely not a minor inconvenience - I'd be surprised if it didn't count as child abuse.
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She also said this:



That is definitely not a minor inconvenience - I'd be surprised if it didn't count as child abuse.
Totally agree with you
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It was a long time ago. She should forget it.
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[QUOTE=zooropa]It was a long time ago. She should forget it.[/QUO

It's not that easy to just forget it, it stays in your head forever and ever
You can just talk and think it is easy becasue you have never experienced it
Jeeezzzz some people are just so not helpful :rolleyes:
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It's not that easy to just forget it,
Anyone can forget anything.
it stays in your head forever and ever
You can just talk and think it is easy becasue you have never experienced it
Jeeezzzz some people are just so not helpful :rolleyes:
Heh, SHE said that her parents having sex in the mornings pisses her off. So what? It's her parents' house! They aren't going to forego expressing intimacy simply because she doesn't like it!
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Anyone can forget anything.


Heh, SHE said that her parents having sex in the mornings pisses her off. So what? It's her parents' house! They aren't going to forego expressing intimacy simply because she doesn't like it!
You are really disgusting, so you wouldn't mind hearing your parnets have sex everyday then
And you are not very sympathic are you, you never put yourself in people's shoes. Again, you have ignored her first post and what Trousers quoated what Brighton said, parents being inconsiderate, having sex in the same bedroom as her when she was like what, 7 or 8, and YES that IS count as chuld abuse. SO the bit where you THINK she said shes only pissed off when her parnets do it in the morning - THAT is not the only reason

No, not everyone can forget about everything! So a women who has been raped and has been traumatised for life think she can forget that experienced, NO!
Alos, when you say anyone can forget anything, so does that mean you forget who your parnets are, and what your name is? Yess? noo?
"Anyone forget anything they say", what a cacke things to say
Think before you say anything
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Oh God! It's not like they chained her upto the wall facing their hot bed's direction is it? She could have walked out of the room. About the noises, she can just go downstairs and watch TV?
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Oh God! It's not like they chained her upto the wall facing their hot bed's direction is it? She could have walked out of the room. About the noises, she can just go downstairs and watch TV?
But she is trying to sleep! At the end of the day, her parents ARE still being VERY inconsiderate!

God! ^o) alot of people who has been through this has said it so many times, even if you drowned out the noises, the sound still stuck in your mind, it is not THAT easy to forget about it. AND just to justify again that not 'anyone forget things easily'
It is a traumatic experience
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I don't know if this has already been said, but shouldn't you kids be glad that your parents still have a healthy relationship after so many years? It might be a bit embarrassing, but surely it's better than hearing them yell at each other.

Edit: Okay, it has already been said.
not when its your mums latest boyfriend who you happen to HATE
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But she is trying to sleep! At the end of the day, her parents ARE still being VERY inconsiderate!

God! ^o) alot of people who has been through this has said it so many times, even if you drowned out the noises, the sound still stuck in your mind, it is not THAT easy to forget about it. AND just to justify again that not 'anyone forget things easily'
It is a traumatic experience
Give me a break "traumatic experience" hahahha. You do realise there's much worse in this world than hearing your loving parents have sex?
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Give me a break "traumatic experience" hahahha. You do realise there's much worse in this world than hearing your loving parents have sex?

I think she is just asking on advice on how to prevent herself from listening to her parents having sex.To her, it might be a really traumatic experience.U could have been more understanding.
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We are looking at how that damages individual and how that psycholigically damages a child/ person/teenager.

You are still ignoring the fact that this is part of child abuse and trying to make it sound as if this is a positive thing, listening to your parents having sex every single day. The result of this can affect society if you really want to refer it to the society as a whole ^o) The victim (the child) might result being a rapist in the future or a criminal. You seriously don;t understand the harmful affect on child obviously becasue you haven't consider how that affects individual and society. (sociologist and psychology people will understand this more :rolleyes: )

So i guess you are one of inconsiderate sicko who let your children watch and listen to you have sex even though they are upset about it and it damages them. How selfish of you.
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Give me a break "traumatic experience" hahahha. You do realise there's much worse in this world than hearing your loving parents have sex?
I would say your parents having sex whilst you are in the same room as them (which she has said did happen) would be pretty traumatic. Wouldn't you?

You are still ignoring the fact that this is part of child abuse and trying to make it sound as if this is a positive thing, listening to your parents having sex every single day. The result of this can affect society if you really want to refer it to the society as a whole The victim (the child) might result being a rapist in the future or a criminal.
I can't agree that being able to hear your parents having sex is a form of child abuse. It happens. I go through it, and most people I know go through it. However, I can agree it's child abuse if the child is in the same room. And you can't say that people are rapists because they heard their parents having sex.

Or maybe you can. I'm not being funny, I'm asking a serious question here- is there proof to back this up, that people who hear their parents having sex can go on to be rapists or criminals because of this? I don't do sociology and have never had any real interest in it, so I wouldn't know.
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To el moran: yeh sorry im refering the child abuse bit to the bit where she was in the same room as her parents when they were having sex.

I have learn that in sociology abit of psychology that children expose to sexual material at an early age such as watching/heard people have sex, pornography etc may result having sex at an early age, or develope sexual addiction in later life, or treating other sex in an inappropriate way as an object. Small percentage will develop as criminals though, but i stated that since that xelprep really likes to link it to other things quoate from him " there's much worse in this world than hearing your loving parents have sex?" I feel that he has a tendeancy to try and say that people who got mugged are in a far worst state than a traumatised and abused child. Therefore i'm trying to link this back to individual, and try to get it back into topic

Oh, sorry however, i don;t have any material with me at the moment saying this but i watched a documentry about this perspn who has sex addicted he, was abused, and watched/heard his parents or parnets other partner haveing sex. Result - him turned into a sex addict

HOWEVER this does NOT mean ALL children who experieced that will tuen into a deviant, but SOME will, Just trying to justify my point that it does damages the child
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I would not say having sex in the same room as your kids was child abuse. It's just sex! What about back in the day when the whole family and several cows/sheep/chickens all shared a one-room house, and everyone slept in the same bed? They all had six or seven kids, so there had to be sex at some point.

If you try and hide sex from your children doesn't that just make it seem shameful and dirty, something that should only take place quietly in the dead of night so no one knows it happens?
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I would not say having sex in the same room as your kids was child abuse. It's just sex! What about back in the day when the whole family and several cows/sheep/chickens all shared a one-room house, and everyone slept in the same bed? They all had six or seven kids, so there had to be sex at some point.

If you try and hide sex from your children doesn't that just make it seem shameful and dirty, something that should only take place quietly in the dead of night so no one knows it happens?
Well those couple back in the days :rolleyes: might not had sex in the same bed as children, they might have done it whilst the kids went somewhere to play etc.

Ok i have a question, So you would let your children watch and listen to you have sex even though they don;t like it? Yes? No? Please give reasons for your answer
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I would say your parents having sex whilst you are in the same room as them (which she has said did happen) would be pretty traumatic. Wouldn't you?
Was she chained up and forced to watch? Was the room door locked?
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Was she chained up and forced to watch? Was the room door locked?
You are so ignorant
Brighton did not watch her parents have sex but she was aware that they were doing it. Thta is already inappropriate, and dont; you dare say that little 8 year old then Brighton should walk out of the room wondering around and get lost in the hotel and wait for her parenst to finish, that is just NO RESPECT FOR CHILDREN
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I think that between being an older teenager and knowing that your parents have an active sex life, or walking in on them once or twice and facing the embarassment of that, is a normal (if rather icky) experience.

However being a child, forced to share a room with two people who are having sex is not appropriate for the child. There is a reason that sexual activity, and witnessing sex is for adults - children are just not emotionally equipped to deal with it.
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