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need help-am frustrated and confused.

hey guys, im so frustrated at moment. Rite il start from beginning. I met this guy and his mate and his mate asked me out. I wnet to his house where they r flat mates n we gt on really well but there was no attraction there watsoever.....well there was but it turns out i was attracted to his best mate. There was definitely alot of flirting between me and him 2. Anyway i was drunk one night and finally gt up the courage to tell him i liked him , he responded badly just sayin he had a gf and his mate had asked me out already. So i left it alone and now about 2months later i get a msg from him saying fancy a fling? I react with whats changed etc and he saqys hes always been atrracted to me and its only cos of his mate that he couldnt do nefing about it. I just make clear to him that i dont want to come in between him and his gf. Howver then he tells me his gf is in sweden and lives there adn they rarely see eachother. Well i still say no its nt gna happen sorta thing wer mates now thats it. So i go round for a drink or 2 and there is alot of tension. whenever his mate leaves the room the sexual tension is enormous and hes flirted and leaned into kiss me, but i move away cos i know that hes gt a gf and just couldnt do it but i like him so much its frustratin. So i txt him when i get bk sayin "r u as frustrated as me?" all he sed was "we shuldnt be havin this convo, i love my gf and thats all that matters" Shuld i ask him wats goin on even tho i wont get a straight answer or do i just forget it, stay his maet and if he tries2kiss me again just tell him2 leave it.

any other suggestions please i desperately need help here. sorry for rambling on xxxxjen xxx

Reply 1

Fleece

15

tell him to do one and dont speak to him..he sounds like a complete arse - one min hes moving in to kiss you and asking for a fling, the next he's saying he loves his gf. Loser.

Reply 2

G4ry

1

Leave him alone, let him get his confidence boost from someone else. He's not obtainable unless you fancy being "the other girl".

Reply 3

Harv616

9

Ignor him
hes a prick

And if he does this to his gf, you will never be able to trust him

Reply 4

ciara

13

Nooo. Try to avoid him, it might make you realise he is a bad person to fancy, not only cos he is messing you around, but cos even if you ended up in a relationship with him...would you really want to now you know how he seems to treat girlfriends?

Cxx

Reply 5

jen:)

OP

yeh but the thing is i dunno if he wuld kiss me if i leaned him to kiss him back whether he wuld then be the one to pull away. He is honestly a really nice guy i know its hard2believe which is why im even more frustrated and confused cos hes a genuine guy who loves his gf but i honeslty think he really likes me 2.

Reply 6

Fleece

15

from the sounds of it..if you leaned in to kiss him, he'd pull away and play the moral card like "oh what are you doing i love my gf"...

Reply 7

jen:)

OP

yeh...tht was wat i was thinkin

Reply 8

ciara

13

jen:)

yeh but the thing is i dunno if he wuld kiss me if i leaned him to kiss him back whether he wuld then be the one to pull away. He is honestly a really nice guy i know its hard2believe which is why im even more frustrated and confused cos hes a genuine guy who loves his gf but i honeslty think he really likes me 2.

Seems difficult to believe he cares about either his gf or you since he actually had the nerve to ask if you wanted a fling though :frown:

.

Cxx

Reply 9

Sheen

11

i think he only said that cos you blew him off.
hmm id just forget about him he seems like abit of a loser anyway.

Reply 10

-TMG-

9

If he loved his gf he wouldnt have asked you for a fling. I don't even notice other girls anymore, my girlfriend is all I need :smile:

Only fling I have is more like a flick (wrist flick) hehe... :wink:

Reply 11

Laursy

10

sounds like he is looking for a quick poke where he thinks he can get one!!

don;t let him get what he wants!!

Reply 12

jessiek

1

Yea that guy seems like he's just in for a confidence booster. Good that you said no though. There are a lot of guys out there..why go for him when you know he's just using/playing you?

Reply 13

jen:)

OP

ur rite guys thanks --wont let him beat me. anymore suggestions welcome :smile:

Reply 14

Philadelphia

jen:)

hey guys, im so frustrated at moment. Rite il start from beginning. I met this guy and his mate and his mate asked me out. I wnet to his house where they r flat mates n we gt on really well but there was no attraction there watsoever.....well there was but it turns out i was attracted to his best mate. There was definitely alot of flirting between me and him 2. Anyway i was drunk one night and finally gt up the courage to tell him i liked him , he responded badly just sayin he had a gf and his mate had asked me out already. So i left it alone and now about 2months later i get a msg from him saying fancy a fling? I react with whats changed etc and he saqys hes always been atrracted to me and its only cos of his mate that he couldnt do nefing about it. I just make clear to him that i dont want to come in between him and his gf. Howver then he tells me his gf is in sweden and lives there adn they rarely see eachother. Well i still say no its nt gna happen sorta thing wer mates now thats it. So i go round for a drink or 2 and there is alot of tension. whenever his mate leaves the room the sexual tension is enormous and hes flirted and leaned into kiss me, but i move away cos i know that hes gt a gf and just couldnt do it but i like him so much its frustratin. So i txt him when i get bk sayin "r u as frustrated as me?" all he sed was "we shuldnt be havin this convo, i love my gf and thats all that matters" Shuld i ask him wats goin on even tho i wont get a straight answer or do i just forget it, stay his maet and if he tries2kiss me again just tell him2 leave it.

any other suggestions please i desperately need help here. sorry for rambling on xxxxjen xxx

i dont think people should cheat on people and if you know he has a gf and you undecided whether to go out with him then i guess your not bothered about cheating

Reply 15

ehtical

its a very simple thing you have here. Suppose someone told you a secret and you kept in your mind for a day and then you met person y. You tell person y "i'll tell you a secret but promise you wnt tell anyone". This is the place when your breaking a promise, now person won't tell you his/her secret cause he knows you'll tell person z about it. Moral of the story : If he can 2 time her , he can do it to you too!

Reply 16

its a very simple thing you have here. Suppose someone told you a secret and you kept in your mind for a day and then you met person y. You tell person y "i'll tell you a secret but promise you wnt tell anyone". This is the place when your breaking a promise, now person won't tell you his/her secret cause he knows you'll tell person z about it. Moral of the story : If he can 2 time her , he can do it to you too!

Reply 17

Sheen

11

-TMG-

If he loved his gf he wouldnt have asked you for a fling. I don't even notice other girls anymore, my girlfriend is all I need :smile:

awwww so there are good guys out there somewhere even thought it doesnt seem like it....im lucky i have one :biggrin:

Reply 18

Poica

14

In my opinion the best advice is to learn how to use correct English

Reply 19

Sheen

11

Poica

In my opinion the best advice is to learn how to use correct English

ahahaha
one thing ive never understood is when people start using proper english then bring texting slang (if you want to call it that) in to it :confused:

need help-am frustrated and confused.

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