How to bring this up?

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My flat mate is having a casual relationship with this boy she met on a night out he has been coming round in the early hours of sun morning (after he has been out with his mates) for the last month or so they managed to wake up the other flat mate up with there 'antics' this morning and he has asked me to have 'a word' with her, cos he is to embarressed by the situation and thinks it would be better coming from me.

Any advice on how to bring this up?

Not really happy with what she is doing she is being used but doesn't want to see it, can anyone think of away I can make her see this?

Reply 1

erk

14

"Shag quietly or ill get angry"

:rolleyes:

Reply 2

Freckles

12

Yeah, I don't know. Just say it like it is. "When he comes over next week, can you be a little more quiet, we want our sleep." something like that. There's no talking around it, really.

Reply 3

Laursy

10

just ask her nicely if she doesn;t mind not making so much noice as there is other people to consider who live there and ask her to respect it!!

otherwise bang on the wall and shout out your mums on the phone half way through lol!!! thatll get them made queit or make up that a load of other people have complained and yer (i reccomend the top one)

Reply 4

potspansamy

OP

10

Thing is the last thing I want to do is make things awkward in the flat there are only three of us, plus I wasn't in so they didn't wake me up sort of feel that I shouldn't complain, though ... they did wake me up last weekend

But do like the idea of banging on the door (that would give them a shock) and telling them to keep the noise down :biggrin:

Reply 5

Laursy

10

Thing is the last thing I want to do is make things awkward in the flat there are only three of us, plus I wasn't in so they didn't wake me up sort of feel that I shouldn't complain, though ... they did wake me up last weekend

But do like the idea of banging on the door (that would give them a shock) and telling them to keep the noise down

it doesn;t seem fair i bet that she makes all the noise at the time when everyone is asleep or at least ask her if they would consider doing it when everyone else is up!
if she keeps doing it then you should make loads of noise as well!! when she is trying to sleep she will soon see what you have to put up with its seems petty but its the only way to get the message across if they don;t respect you asking nicely

Reply 6

Juno

20

You could put an anonymous note under her door?

Reply 7

potspansamy

OP

10

Will try to bring it up when we are alone, am hoping that she will be ok with it and be quiter in future. Otherwise load music might be nessesary :tongue:

Just really don't want an atmosphere in the flat, have just got rid of one and don't need another one any time soon!

Reply 8

silence

16

play music very loudly. something quite distinct though. i suggest the soundtrack to top gun or something.

Reply 9

-TMG-

9

Tell her she sounds like a squealing pig on helium and you'd appreciate it if she'd keep it down or at least go find a proper boyfriend who comes round at more normal, social times and not just to get his end away !!!!!11111111

Reply 10

Laursy

10

or just have competitions who can be the loudest lol!!

Reply 11

technik

13

tell her to: stop being a thick little bint and if she really wants an STD let her contract it at his house instead of letting everyone in the flat in on it.

that will definately suffice.

Reply 12

Poica

14

silence

play music very loudly. something quite distinct though. i suggest the soundtrack to top gun or something.

I'm liking it.

Reply 13

Objet trouvé

1

Something like "much as I enjoy listening to your over exagerrated attempts to fake orgasm early on a Sunday morning, I would appreciate a good night's sleep where I don't walk away with post traumatic stress disorder. I know sexual performance is a tricky issue but if he is faling to keep you satisfied then why don't you try toys?" might humilate her into silence.

Or, alternatively: "I feel that the Lord's day is not the time for casual sex"

Or even a yelled: "Shut the F**k up, I can hear you, you W*nkers" might work.

Reply 14

Poica

14

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Or even a yelled: "Shut the F**k up, I can hear you, you W*nkers" might work.

I'd say that due to the fact that she can hear them having sex, they are demonstrably not w*nkers...

Reply 15

hanadeka2002

Just say 'Can you keep the noise down because some of us actually want to sleep...'

If someone said that to me I'd be really embarassed that people could hear...so she'll possibly be way more embarassed than you!

Reply 16

icedsilhouette

potspansamy

My flat mate is having a casual relationship with this boy she met on a night out he has been coming round in the early hours of sun morning (after he has been out with his mates) for the last month or so they managed to wake up the other flat mate up with there 'antics' this morning and he has asked me to have 'a word' with her, cos he is to embarressed by the situation and thinks it would be better coming from me.

Any advice on how to bring this up?

Not really happy with what she is doing she is being used but doesn't want to see it, can anyone think of away I can make her see this?

It'd definately better coming from you because it'd be even more awkward for both if he had to mention anything to her. Just drop it in kinda casually (well, as casually as possible) and just say that it's keeping you awake and making you ratty or something... She'll probably quieten down then! If not she needs a slap...

Reply 17

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Poica

I'd say that due to the fact that she can hear them having sex, they are demonstrably not w*nkers...

Well, let's consider that w*nk is a verb, and that it is perfectly plausible that they enjoy what my mother would refer to as "heavy petting". Suffice to say that in common English it is acceptable to use the term "to w*nk someone off", in which case the couple would consist of a "w*nker" and a "w*nkee", the recipient of said w*nk. Thus calling the pair of them w*nkers would be perfectly appropriate.

:p: