GP and question of sexual activity.

Ok ive been to the GP before and she asked me if i was sexually active at the moment, I replied no. Then she asked me if i had ever had sex before, I said no. This is because i was totally unprepared for the question. I wasn't sure if she meant purely sexual intercourse or other types of sexual activities. Im bisexual and never had sexual intercourse with a man; however, i have been with women before. Also I had been with a girl within a short time of being asked that question - although at the time it wasn't on a regular basis.
Basically, I have to go back again and probably will get asked the same question as im in the process of changing doctors surgeries. Anyway, my query is should I say yes ive had sex before?! I know this is controversial and dont want to go into the debate of can two girls really have sex etc. etc. Im just not sure whether I should mention it when i get asked about it again, as i dont want to lie or withhold information, but at the same time i dont want to flaunt my sexuality.

Reply 1

lil_sweetie

1

I think you should mention it - it doesn't have to be a big deal and it's not flaunting your sexuality - it's just something your GP should probably know.

Reply 2

sr4470

15

I would think it applies to any sexual activity (certainly where body fluids are exchanged, if you know what I mean). Seeing as you've been with more than one person its possible (I'm speculating here, but better to play safe) that you may have STDs\STIs from that intimate contact.

Reply 3

Segat1

16

Better to mention it and be safe, rather than not. She/He will want to know because of Smear tests etc.

Reply 4

zooropa

It's not your GP's business whether your bisexual, is it?!

She's probably asking simply to ascertain your medical history. If she's professional, she wouldn't judge you for being bisexual anyhow.

Reply 5

El Scotto

15

Whats it got to do with the GP, i wouldnt tell them anything.

Reply 6

sr4470

15

El Scotto

Whats it got to do with the GP, i wouldnt tell them anything.

From a health point of view it has plenty to do with them. (being sexually active, that is)

Reply 7

Indus1986

4

Always answer truthfully and ask if you don't understand the question. It is your loss if you think you don't have to tell.

Reply 8

Lady_Muck

14

I've done this, I just had this subconcious reaction of saying 'No' when I didn't mean to. I don't know why as I'm not a prude, nor ashamed, just caught me on the hop!!

Reply 9

marmitebagel

OP

7

lessthanthree

if you are sexually active [with whoever] you can say so without having to go into detail.

Honest, they don't go "oooh, so how far've you gotten?" :smile:

I dont think that was quite what I had a problem with. Im not ashamed to say Ive been however far with a girl, its just when someone says have you had sex? it leaves me with well what do you consider sex to be, does it include between women? I know what I think, but other people have different views. I dont want to say yes I have when they mean full on intercourse and then to look stupid.
I think its not just about answering incorrectly as I know my health is more important than looking silly. But, also I know if i answer yes i will almost certainly be asked if i used protection. I will answer no. Then what? I will probably asked why etc. etc. I dont know whether I should just mention that it was with a girl before the whole protection thing comes up or whether I should say it if i get questioned about contraception. As I said before I dont have a problem with my sexuality and Im out, its just i dont want to make the situation more awkward than it has to be. Obviously i dont have experience with this sort of situation so not sure how to handle it.

Reply 10

marmitebagel

OP

7

Lady_Muck

I've done this, I just had this subconcious reaction of saying 'No' when I didn't mean to. I don't know why as I'm not a prude, nor ashamed, just caught me on the hop!!

Yes i know what you mean. Although i was going to the docs for a related issue which i should have known i would have been asked that kind of question, it just didnt dawn on me and i was totally unprepared.

Reply 11

dave

marmitebagel

Ok ive been to the GP before and she asked me if i was sexually active at the moment, I replied no. Then she asked me if i had ever had sex before, I said no. This is because i was totally unprepared for the question. I wasn't sure if she meant purely sexual intercourse or other types of sexual activities. Im bisexual and never had sexual intercourse with a man; however, i have been with women before. Also I had been with a girl within a short time of being asked that question - although at the time it wasn't on a regular basis.
Basically, I have to go back again and probably will get asked the same question as im in the process of changing doctors surgeries. Anyway, my query is should I say yes ive had sex before?! I know this is controversial and dont want to go into the debate of can two girls really have sex etc. etc. Im just not sure whether I should mention it when i get asked about it again, as i dont want to lie or withhold information, but at the same time i dont want to flaunt my sexuality.

Telling your doctor that you're a bisexual virgin is all the information the doctor needs to ascertain your sexually active status. That's NOT flaunting your sexuality - it's saying it how it is. :smile:

Reply 12

Lauren Hart

3

just say you havent had sex but that you do engage in sexual activity. Dont mention whether it was male, female, martian, mr blobby etc etc. They just ask to make sure that you're being sexually healthy. Best to tell them, and be prepared to answer questions about their sexual history too,.

Reply 13

mousey

2

Say you haven't had penetrative sex. Therefore your GP will know for health reasons, but it also implies that you've done other things without being too explicit. xx

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