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Threesome Issues
Yes, yes, yes... I had a threesome on Saturday night with a good friend (female) and her boyfriend. It was actually amazing, and we are all really keen to do it again sometime... probably over New Year 
Thing is, since then I've been thinking about it so much... it's taking over my head! I'm bisexual and it was my first time with a girl, and he watched for a while and then joined in...
I'm just worried because she is quite a good friend (only known her since September, but will be living with her next year) and I don't really want to complicate things between us, between them, or between me and her boyfriend. We went out as a big group last night and there was a lot of eye-contact between me and both of them... it's really exciting and sexy but I'm starting to feel a tiny bit confused - where are the boundaries!?
Anyone had any similar experiences or have any advice?? Any opinions appreciated!!
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Thing is, since then I've been thinking about it so much... it's taking over my head! I'm bisexual and it was my first time with a girl, and he watched for a while and then joined in...
I'm just worried because she is quite a good friend (only known her since September, but will be living with her next year) and I don't really want to complicate things between us, between them, or between me and her boyfriend. We went out as a big group last night and there was a lot of eye-contact between me and both of them... it's really exciting and sexy but I'm starting to feel a tiny bit confused - where are the boundaries!?Anyone had any similar experiences or have any advice?? Any opinions appreciated!!
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Please, I need advice!! 
Anon reply - OK, you need to sit down and sort out some boundaries. Talk to them and find out what is comfortable to everyone, I am sure the bloke will not want to feel left out, or have you run off with his girl !! Decide rules like no-one left out, unless they want to watch, one hand on someone else at all times, everyone getst o come three times etc etc. Theres a lot of info on the net, but as I am at work I dont wish to be caught looking up "how to have a 3 way" info.
In my experience, these things are best if left unplanned. Once you've done it, then the opportunity is there for it to happen again but it doesnt seem to work if you say "COme over and we'll do it" Its far more fun for it to happen randomly.
How old are you?
PM me if you have any more questions.
I too am a scaredy cat so will be anon here too!
I'm no expert on this matter, but remeber to think abut your sexual health too.
In my experience, these things are best if left unplanned. Once you've done it, then the opportunity is there for it to happen again but it doesnt seem to work if you say "COme over and we'll do it" Its far more fun for it to happen randomly.
How old are you?
PM me if you have any more questions.
I too am a scaredy cat so will be anon here too!
I'm no expert on this matter, but remeber to think abut your sexual health too.
Your sort of in it now, their relationship will never go back to normal and neither will theirs. Either keep as **** buddies, or friends. Don't ever mix the two, it will end up in your friend wondering whether you fancy her or her boyfriend, or both. And its not going to be comfortable for anyone else in your house next year.
Quit it now or abandon the idea of friends.
Quit it now or abandon the idea of friends.
Haha - I can't PM you if you are anonymous!! Anyway, thanks for your reply, and I'm 20. I've only actually slept with one guy before... and I didn't have 'penetrative' sex with him the other night (he got serious stage-fright 
) but I did pretty much everything else to them and they did to me...
Ahhhh... just can't get over how good it was
) but I did pretty much everything else to them and they did to me...Ahhhh... just can't get over how good it was
ice_cube
Good it might have been, but doesn't mean it is a good idea to get involved with a good friend! If you really have to do it, find someone who you aren't going to mind falling out with.
But why would I fall out with her?? I like them both equally... and I have no desire to be in a relationship with either of them. I'm happy to be 'shared' between the two of them
Our other friends do find it a little strange... and they say they feel left out!! But I really want to do it again, even if it's only once so I can make the most of it!!
Because at some point its going to get more complicated than that. At what point does it stop being something you do occasionally, and something you do frequently, every time you meet? What happens if someone other than you wants to pull out?
And its a very very bad idea to tell other friends about it. Someone is going to get seriously pissed off at having their bedroom details spread.
And its a very very bad idea to tell other friends about it. Someone is going to get seriously pissed off at having their bedroom details spread.
ice_cube
Because at some point its going to get more complicated than that. At what point does it stop being something you do occasionally, and something you do frequently, every time you meet? What happens if someone other than you wants to pull out?
And its a very very bad idea to tell other friends about it. Someone is going to get seriously pissed off at having their bedroom details spread.
And its a very very bad idea to tell other friends about it. Someone is going to get seriously pissed off at having their bedroom details spread.
Well, if one of them wants to pull out then fair enough... but we're only likely to see each other about once every month/every other month...
Afterwards we agreed that we didn't mind other people knowing.. we are all very open about sex anyway...
Poica
Meh - this is absolutely beyond my area of understanding or interest. I don't know how people can do this or why they would want to, but hey. Each to their own.
All it requires is open-mindedness really with regards to sex
Poica
Ah, but as far as I'm concerned sex is too important to have an open mind about. I would only have sex in a long term relationship with someone I loved.
How does that make it important?? To me sex is an aspect of life that is related to, but isn't necessarily exclusive to, love.
I personally wouldn't have sex with a stranger... I know this couple quite well and I like and respect them and we all find each other sexually attractive - I really don't see the harm. Plus, this was the first weekend they haven't had a silly argument... so it can't be that bad!
Sounds fun!!! As long as you make sure you know how the other two are about it then I can't seem the problem. I am sure the guy won't cause a fuss, he probably is still in shock at his dreams coming true!! lol!!
The issue would probably be with the other girl. Just try to make sure she understands your not trying to steal her man and are just in it for the fun!
The issue would probably be with the other girl. Just try to make sure she understands your not trying to steal her man and are just in it for the fun!
Anonymous
How does that make it important?? To me sex is an aspect of life that is related to, but isn't necessarily exclusive to, love.
I personally wouldn't have sex with a stranger... I know this couple quite well and I like and respect them and we all find each other sexually attractive - I really don't see the harm. Plus, this was the first weekend they haven't had a silly argument... so it can't be that bad!
I personally wouldn't have sex with a stranger... I know this couple quite well and I like and respect them and we all find each other sexually attractive - I really don't see the harm. Plus, this was the first weekend they haven't had a silly argument... so it can't be that bad!
And I respect your position. I would request that you respect mine.
However, I doubt many people on here have had threesomes.
SciFi25
Sounds fun!!! As long as you make sure you know how the other two are about it then I can't seem the problem. I am sure the guy won't cause a fuss, he probably is still in shock at his dreams coming true!! lol!!
The issue would probably be with the other girl. Just try to make sure she understands your not trying to steal her man and are just in it for the fun!
The issue would probably be with the other girl. Just try to make sure she understands your not trying to steal her man and are just in it for the fun!
Hey.. thanks for that!! Made me feel a little more positive about it!! I don't think I have anything to worry about with the girl... we get on really well and have very similar views on sex. Plus, I probably find her more attarctive than him anyway - so if anything it should be him worrying!! In fact, she told me she was scared that she seemed to be enjoying it so much because she didn't want him to feel threatened by me.. (and this my first time with a girl
)Anonymous
Hey.. thanks for that!! Made me feel a little more positive about it!! I don't think I have anything to worry about with the girl... we get on really well and have very similar views on sex. Plus, I probably find her more attarctive than him anyway - so if anything it should be him worrying!! In fact, she told me she was scared that she seemed to be enjoying it so much because she didn't want him to feel threatened by me.. (and this my first time with a girl )
)Hehehehe!! PM me if you want some more encouragement!! I can speak more freely on that, as my gf has been known to monitor these pages for 'evidence' to use against me lol!!
I'm just madly jealous you've had one with a girl, all I have had is two boys which was FAAAAB, omg just too damn good for words, you lucky thing!
and yeah, you can't PM me, god I am so blonde
and yeah, you can't PM me, god I am so blonde
SciFi25
Hehehehe!! PM me if you want some more encouragement!! I can speak more freely on that, as my gf has been known to monitor these pages for 'evidence' to use against me lol!!
LOL!! The reason I am anonymous is because of my ex-boyfriend who has turned slightly psycho and may kill the guy if he finds out!!
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