Boyfriend Uses a Rubber VaginaWatch
I sort of don't know what to think. He's got a masturbator already that graces our 'sex drawer' and I use it on him sometimes (and I'm sure he uses it himself when he's on his own), but I don't mind that. He told me he was buying it and it was something we could use together.
This new one though..............it looks like real lady-parts and I'm pretty sure he bought it for the ass-entrance. This bothers me cause I know he gets turned on by anal porn, and we've tried anal several times very slowly and all that...but it just feels horrible to me and really painful.
Not sure why I feel kind of upset about it..half of me couldn't care a less but the other half is really bothered by the way he's kept it all secret, the way it looks real and does a job I can't. I want to talk to him about it but I don't want to invade his privacy :/
Girls...how would you feel/what would u do?
This is jokes.
Hmmmm don't say anything.
And no, I don't have one
However the fact he has kept it secret means you need to respect him and his odd pleasures
Why are you upset? It's not you found his secret texts with the slut next door about their happy anal times, you've found a toy ... which means he's respecting what you don't want to do and indulging what he does want to do without cheating.
1. It's either the replica's arse or yours, which would you prefer?
2. At least he uses that instead of cheating on you!
He's probably just embarrassed, I wouldn't say anything to him.
Listen, right: he wants anal, but you don't like it. So he uses a toy so that it feels like he's getting anal. Which means that he's getting what he wants, you're not having what you don't want to have, and everyone should be happy.
Where's the problem in that? He's respecting what you want. Why's that so hurtful?
Also, it's not a bad thing that he had this toy. It shows he's willing to compromise by not making you doing it, and finding someTHING (and not someONE) else to do it if that's what turns him on.
Just say you found it, but don't be upset. He obviously doesn't want to hurt or upset you by forcing you to do anal
You feel threatened by it simply because it undermines the traditional relationship: you got the pussy, you make the rules. Now he not only has the pussy, but the ass. Face it, you're just around to make sandwhiches.
I would show it to him and let him know that it is ok. Or you could leave him be and let him enjoy himself? Hes probably just embarrassed, poor guy.