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Help Help Help ...aghhhh!

Like some advice if anyone can help?

Asked a girl 4 lunch last night and told her that i'd liked her 4 a while despite almost getting involved with her mate i met first. She said she knew and agreed, but couldn't make it this week but would definitely do it in Jan on her return from hols. Got a lot of flirting, hugs, kiss on the lips etc and her no. so i think shes interested ...also gave her enough opportunity to say no, and she said that i couldn't get rid of that easily.

Trouble is, i really really like this girl ...and i usually mess things up at the getting nos to taking the girl out stage. So bearing in mind shes at her works do on Thur (when I'm away on mine) and i won't see her until 2006 at the earliest (4 weeks!!) when should i text her and what do i say?

she is hot ...she will get hit on ...and i would guess she'll pull too, which is fine as she's single ...but i need to know how best to lodge in her brain and not come off desperrate so i can take her out in Jan ....lol!

NB - her birthday is near xmas, is that too long to wait?

Help!

MJ

Reply 1

have ya got her number? text her on her way home (fri) and tell her u lookin forward t seein her when she gets back or just say have a nice xmas...ya got plenty of reason to text her without lookin desperate x good luck

Reply 2

Text her on you way home, as Steph says, on her birthday, at Christmas and at New Years. Gives her contact reminding her that you're there, but only at points where it won't make it look like you're desperate

Reply 3

BAD advice.

Seriously.

Tell her in a text in a few days that you look forward to making her come shopping with you.
In any event you should be communicating the idea that she has to come to you to do something convenient for you.

Dont come off needy.

Reply 4

Phonicsdude

Dont come off needy.


Ever.

Say something like "help me with my Christmas shopping and I might buy something for you."

Girls are big ones for cupboard love.

Reply 5

Phonicsdude
BAD advice.

Seriously.

Tell her in a text in a few days that you look forward to making her come shopping with you.
In any event you should be communicating the idea that she has to come to you to do something convenient for you.

Dont come off needy.


Personally, if a guy said that, I'd just feel annoyed because he was trying to order me around, but hey...

Reply 6

Poica
Personally, if a guy said that, I'd just feel annoyed because he was trying to order me around, but hey...


Right! That's it! Go to your room!

Reply 7

Phonicsdude
Right! That's it! Go to your room!


Ha ha ha, unfortunately I'm already in my room...

Reply 8

If she likes you 4weeks isn't gona make a difference to her to wait. She would wait for you, and if there are other men, they would still be there even if you were together. I think you should just text her being friendly, but don't pressure her otherwise she will run off!

Reply 9

Poica
Ha ha ha, unfortunately I'm already in my room...


So this is he second time youve heard a "bossy" chat up line today then is it?

I spose if the first guy got you into your room he had more success. :rolleyes:

OP - I am right. Full. Stop.

Reply 10

cough xanthe cough...............your useless with women!

Reply 11

trigger
cough xanthe cough...............your useless with women!


Despite fairly strong signals from one side, I wasnt sexually or mentally attracted to her.

You on the other hand are useless at spelling "you're". :wink:

Reply 12

Phonicsdude
Right! That's it! Go to your room!

Shouldn't that be, "Go to my room"?

Reply 13

blissy
"Go to my room"


You saucy minx. But Im busy getting distracted by TSR instead of revising, so I cant right now.
Besides, you have a boyfriend!


:p: :biggrin:

Reply 14

Okay, Dr. Ball is here to help, the World Renowned Relationship Agony Uncle.

Just send her a txt message saying.

"lol hiya mateits, MJ hre, i kno u r really hot + i tnk we wuld get iton big time!!! i dnt kno wht else 2 say but dnt wrry, i psted a mssge bout u on tsr (its gr8!!!) + hopeflly smeone will tll me wat 2 do. till thn dnt pll 2 mch lol, see u in jan (i kno when ur b-day is lol), bye lv MJ XoXoXoXoXo"

Got it? She'll be yours by tomorrow.

Reply 15

Woe Ball
Okay, Dr. Ball is here to help, the World Renowned Relationship Agony Uncle.

Just send her a txt message saying.

"lol hiya mateits, MJ hre, i kno u r really hot + i tnk we wuld get iton big time!!! i dnt kno wht else 2 say but dnt wrry, i psted a mssge bout u on tsr (its gr8!!!) + hopeflly smeone will tll me wat 2 do. till thn dnt pll 2 mch lol, see u in jan (i kno when ur b-day is lol), bye lv MJ XoXoXoXoXo"

Got it? She'll be yours by tomorrow.


Repped. Blatently.

Reply 16

I dont even know what that means

Reply 17

Woe Ball
Okay, Dr. Ball is here to help, the World Renowned Relationship Agony Uncle.

Just send her a txt message saying.

"lol hiya mateits, MJ hre, i kno u r really hot + i tnk we wuld get iton big time!!! i dnt kno wht else 2 say but dnt wrry, i psted a mssge bout u on tsr (its gr8!!!) + hopeflly smeone will tll me wat 2 do. till thn dnt pll 2 mch lol, see u in jan (i kno when ur b-day is lol), bye lv MJ XoXoXoXoXo"

Got it? She'll be yours by tomorrow.


You...are...a...legend.