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No helpful comments. But i'm going to have to do the same thing if they wont give me a place in halls next year.
Hmm . . well if people are advertising for a housemate then you'll go round and have a look at the house and will probably meet the people in it, so you should be able to get a vague idea of the people living in there. If you just meet the people on the first day you move in next year then it might be a bit different. I suppose its a bit the halls im in now, 8 on a corridor sharing a kitchen but you would be more together with everyone in a house so it may be a bit difficult you dont get on.
I dont think thats very readable, but I hope you understand lol! x
I dont think thats very readable, but I hope you understand lol! x
Dont Do It!
I moved in with randoms one year. A couple of months on we had our first party. One of my housemates was drunk and depressed about losing his girlfriend. Another of the housemates was the christian sort and tried to help him out with a consoling arm and a few cheery words. All of a sudden the drunk and depressed one (good buddy of mine in the end) goes psycho and starts saying satanic stuff to the christian dude. Christian dude tells him he doesn't mean it. Drunk dude says he does. Radiator, table, lamps, tv, dvds, even the fricken taps are flying all over the place. Christian dude comes out and stuff is still flying so he does a WWJD (what would jesus do) take on the situation and calls the cops who come in an over the top fashion (3 squad cars, a van and an ambulance). What the hell did he say was going down? Anyhow living with randoms is how it is, random.
How come you have to move in with people you don't know?
I lived with randoms a few years ago - 7 of them. It was interesting to say the least - they included an aussie who went back to oz in shame after sleeping with her first cousin over here, a girl who tried to commit suicide twice in the six months I lived there, a semi transvestite gay guy who used to nick my post, a quiet kiwi computer programmer, a pakistani teacher and a drug dealing double glazing salesman.
You know what - it was never boring and compared to some of the awful situations I've lived in since (including halls lol) I'd pick it over any of them. Randoms might be strangers but it's not like they're going to kill you or anything....well no more than your mates would anyway lol.
Seriously so long as you meet them first and you feel comfortable around them, what's the worst that can happen? You're not moving in to make friends, you're moving in to live there so at worst even if they are strange you're just passing each other in the kitchen or whatever, not sitting up having chats to the wee hours. Once you keep that in mind you'll be fine.
You know what - it was never boring and compared to some of the awful situations I've lived in since (including halls lol) I'd pick it over any of them. Randoms might be strangers but it's not like they're going to kill you or anything....well no more than your mates would anyway lol.
Seriously so long as you meet them first and you feel comfortable around them, what's the worst that can happen? You're not moving in to make friends, you're moving in to live there so at worst even if they are strange you're just passing each other in the kitchen or whatever, not sitting up having chats to the wee hours. Once you keep that in mind you'll be fine.
Two of my friends moved in with random people in their second year. everything worked really well then, but this year they are living with more random people and things aren't so good. One stays in his room all the time doing drugs and refuses to do housework, the other lives with her boyfriend so is never there. It can go both ways... just try and make sure you know as much as possible about your future housemates before committing yourselves to living with them. 
It all worked out well for me!
I moved in this year with my friend from halls into a house full of 3 boys we had never met. well i met one of them once because we popped around, he seemed nice..bit plain..
But its all worked out so well.if ur not mates already u tend to make more of an effort to be tidy, and friendly- we have found, and to be more considerate.
Its workedout great for me,so great that we are having randoms take the place of the 3 ppl moving out next sept, rather than 3 mates move in.
We'll meet themfirst,ifthey look like druggies,we'll tell the landlord or just pretend to be really odd boring people and make the house sound bad.If they are nice.. well, we wont put them off ! If we have to appear to be losers to put the wrong ppl off, then so be it!!
I moved in this year with my friend from halls into a house full of 3 boys we had never met. well i met one of them once because we popped around, he seemed nice..bit plain..
But its all worked out so well.if ur not mates already u tend to make more of an effort to be tidy, and friendly- we have found, and to be more considerate.
Its workedout great for me,so great that we are having randoms take the place of the 3 ppl moving out next sept, rather than 3 mates move in.
We'll meet themfirst,ifthey look like druggies,we'll tell the landlord or just pretend to be really odd boring people and make the house sound bad.If they are nice.. well, we wont put them off ! If we have to appear to be losers to put the wrong ppl off, then so be it!!
strawberrie
p.s i would like to be friends with the people i live with whoever they turn out to be, no1 can really be such a great judge of character that they can suss someone after just having met them like i will have to..... i cant just come right out and ask them if they take drugs....... or can i?
I think you can...At the end of the day, you don't know them so you don't need to worry too much about offending them, and if they're offended/annoyed by you asking then they might not be the kind of people you want to live with anyway.
well, after living in temporary accomodation without a kitchen for 2 weeks, me and 3 of my friends moved into a student house with 2 other people, an ma student, and a mature student.
the ma student, we never really see or talk to. he does do his dishes etc, but nothing else around the house.. the other day we had a full bin, and i tied it up, and he came downstairs, ripped it open and carried on shoving rubbish into it.. WTF!
he is really quiet, but i dont mind living with him.
the mature student is AWESOME. one of my best friends here, always go to the pub with him, gives me sage advice, etc. good at housework and very friendly and funny guy.
2 of the people that i moved in with im still good friends with and the final one we have all fallen out with.
(he got this girl he knew i liked drunk, then took advantage of her. he doesnt wash, he doesnt do housework, he moans about us downloading from the internet and using the bandwidth, then downloads loads and crashes our server, he moans about us not putting money into the electric meter, and then when it was his day didnt, causing my alarm to reset itself and making me miss a lecture, 2 meetins and a book reservation)
it still doesnt really matter though, he spends most of the time in his room, i probably talk to him on average for 10 minutes a day.
it is nice to live in a house and be more free to do what i want, but then halls are fun too. food fights at my friends halls.. hehe.
so, in conclusion, go for it! if you make friends there (which you are likely too) it will be awesome, and if not no worries, you can just hang out with your other friends and not rly see your housemates.
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hmm, i dont think you should.
there is a difference between having the odd joint, and being a total stoner or doing harder drugs.
3/6 of us in the house smoke weed, and it cause no problems.
if you have a serious issue with someone smoking weed.. well why? its their choice.
the ma student, we never really see or talk to. he does do his dishes etc, but nothing else around the house.. the other day we had a full bin, and i tied it up, and he came downstairs, ripped it open and carried on shoving rubbish into it.. WTF!
he is really quiet, but i dont mind living with him.
the mature student is AWESOME. one of my best friends here, always go to the pub with him, gives me sage advice, etc. good at housework and very friendly and funny guy.
2 of the people that i moved in with im still good friends with and the final one we have all fallen out with.
(he got this girl he knew i liked drunk, then took advantage of her. he doesnt wash, he doesnt do housework, he moans about us downloading from the internet and using the bandwidth, then downloads loads and crashes our server, he moans about us not putting money into the electric meter, and then when it was his day didnt, causing my alarm to reset itself and making me miss a lecture, 2 meetins and a book reservation)
it still doesnt really matter though, he spends most of the time in his room, i probably talk to him on average for 10 minutes a day.
it is nice to live in a house and be more free to do what i want, but then halls are fun too. food fights at my friends halls.. hehe.
so, in conclusion, go for it! if you make friends there (which you are likely too) it will be awesome, and if not no worries, you can just hang out with your other friends and not rly see your housemates.
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misslibby
I think you can...At the end of the day, you don't know them so you don't need to worry too much about offending them, and if they're offended/annoyed by you asking then they might not be the kind of people you want to live with anyway.
hmm, i dont think you should.
there is a difference between having the odd joint, and being a total stoner or doing harder drugs.
3/6 of us in the house smoke weed, and it cause no problems.
if you have a serious issue with someone smoking weed.. well why? its their choice.
notts
hmm, i dont think you should.
there is a difference between having the odd joint, and being a total stoner or doing harder drugs.
3/6 of us in the house smoke weed, and it cause no problems.
if you have a serious issue with someone smoking weed.. well why? its their choice.
there is a difference between having the odd joint, and being a total stoner or doing harder drugs.
3/6 of us in the house smoke weed, and it cause no problems.
if you have a serious issue with someone smoking weed.. well why? its their choice.
Why not? Personally I don't have an issue with it, but if it matters to her, it's only going to make her unhappy and cause arguments if people are smoking in communal areas and she doesn't like it, especially given that the 'randoms' might well know each other and expect that to be ok. Some people don't like being around drunk people, some people don't like being around stoned people...
misslibby
Why not? Personally I don't have an issue with it, but if it matters to her, it's only going to make her unhappy and cause arguments if people are smoking in communal areas and she doesn't like it, especially given that the 'randoms' might well know each other and expect that to be ok. Some people don't like being around drunk people, some people don't like being around stoned people...
i think if she lives with people she can get on with, they will, and if not, they wont.
when we smoke, its almost always late at night, with only those who do it still up and about.
if the people she lives with are nice, they will be considerate, and if they are not nice, they will do other things to annoy her!
bit o/t here but:
one of the funniest things ive read, i presume you meant safe advice. im gonna start saying sage instead of safe now.
probably not that funny at all, but i dont care
notts
the mature student is AWESOME. one of my best friends here, always go to the pub with him, gives me sageadvice, etc. good at housework and very friendly and funny guy.
the mature student is AWESOME. one of my best friends here, always go to the pub with him, gives me sageadvice, etc. good at housework and very friendly and funny guy.
one of the funniest things ive read, i presume you meant safe advice. im gonna start saying sage instead of safe now.
probably not that funny at all, but i dont care
El Zofran
one of the funniest things ive read, i presume you meant safe advice. im gonna start saying sage instead of safe now.
probably not that funny at all, but i dont care
one of the funniest things ive read, i presume you meant safe advice. im gonna start saying sage instead of safe now.
probably not that funny at all, but i dont care
uhh.. no, i meant sage.
safe advice doesnt make as much sense as sage advice.
here are a few definitions
"sage
adj 1: having wisdom that comes with age and experience"
"a mentor in spiritual and philosophical topics who is renowned for profound wisdom"
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strawberrie
i know im annoying but i really cant stand ppl smoking around me....
i think its bcos of all those "u will die" adverts
i can jus handle the situation my asking if they smoke or not i dont have to bring drugs into the question
i think its bcos of all those "u will die" adverts
i can jus handle the situation my asking if they smoke or not i dont have to bring drugs into the question
fair enough, i thought you had a specific problem with drugs.
i always make my friend not smoke (cigarettes) next to me when we are at the pub.
Don't lie Notts, you meant cooking herbs advice, didn't you? Does he give you thyme and rosemary advice too?!
This thread's great. Some of these random houses sound like the set up in The Young Ones.
This thread's great. Some of these random houses sound like the set up in The Young Ones.
DanGrover
Don't lie Notts, you meant cooking herbs advice, didn't you? Does he give you thyme and rosemary advice too?!
This thread's great. Some of these random houses sound like the set up in The Young Ones.
This thread's great. Some of these random houses sound like the set up in The Young Ones.
he actually does give me cooking advice aswell. basically, he is a legend.
randoms are awesome
you don't have to ask or do a blood test to tell someone takes drugs, just look at them!
smoking weed, even small amounts can cause unpredictable and unreasonable behaviour and lead to depression later on varying from person to person
you housemates might not kill you but there are many things they can do to make your house unlivable in
so meet the guys first as already suggested and be a good judge of character!!! after that, have fun
smoking weed, even small amounts can cause unpredictable and unreasonable behaviour and lead to depression later on varying from person to person
you housemates might not kill you but there are many things they can do to make your house unlivable in
so meet the guys first as already suggested and be a good judge of character!!! after that, have fun
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