i need some advice (quite random!)

Hi,

I know this is quite random, but I'm not too sure what to do and its driving me crazy, so I thought I'd see if any of you had anything to suggest.

Basically a long-life friend of mine died when we were 13 (4 years ago). To cut a really long story short, it was my 18th last week and for the past few weeks I can't stop thinking about her.

I'm not too sure what to do, all this stuff keeps going around in my head and I don't feel depressed or anything.. I don't know how to explain how I feel. I don't want to forget about her, but I don't want this to carry on. I don't feel I can talk to my parents about it and I don't really want to bring up the subject to my friends. At the end of the day, what can they say? I don't want to drive them mad about it.

I thought of perhaps driving to the cemetry and seeing her. Its about 40mins away, I drove there in July when I passed my driving test. But I'm not too sure if thats the right thing to do. I don't want it to make things worse and although I want to go on my own, I don't know if thats a good idea (I don't want to get lost either!!).

Has anyone else had any similar experiences or has any suggestions on what I can do? Theres just so much stuff wizzing about in my head I just cant keep up with it or make much sense of it.

Thanks

Reply 1

Little Girl Red

1

Go to the cemetry and talk to her, maybe that would help? I'm not really sure. I guess just get some time on your own, go and be with your friend, be peaceful. Are you a christian? If you were, I would say pray and just ask God to put your friend's soul to rest and look after her, and pray for peace for yourself and release.
That's all I can really think of to do though.

Reply 2

~*Sweetness*~

Do you have any close frineds who were also friends with her? Maybe you could talk to them and all do something together in honour of her memory. Try to make it fun so that you don't get too upset but just remember that you're doing it for her. I hope you feel better about things soon and are able to get some sort of release. xx

Reply 3

WhiteLily

yeah maybe it would be a good idea to go to the cemetry,you will be able to talk to her then,but as someone mentioned try to make it fun.

Reply 4

Segat1

16

You're prolly thinking what it all would have been like if they were still here, cos 18 is a milestone year. I v much reccommend you go to the cemetry, tell your parents you're off to the cemetry so they know where you are and jsut have some time there.

Reply 5

xXMessedUpXx

15

When my grandad died (4 years ago now) i thought i'd "gotton over it" and that i was ok about it. but truth be told i still gt upset now, and there are times (especially xmas/his birthday/anniversary of death) that i always think about him.

in a way for me going to teh cemetary and talking to himhelps me so much. it just gives you a chance to get all these thoughts and feelings off your chest.

are there any other friends you have who were friends with the both of you? mayeb they feel the smae way? can you talk to any of them? maybe they could go with you?

Reply 6

one of my friends died in a car accident about a year and a half ago, and altho im now 'over it' to the extent that i can carry on my life as normal and not get upset about it every day, i still have times were i wont be able to think about anything other than him for days. Nothing particular seems to trigger it, but once its started i know it wont stop for a while. I generally try to look at it as a positive thing, and remember good stuff etc

i need some advice (quite random!)

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