Getting together this xmas?

Ive been on and off with this guy for the past 4/5 years and we are really close - like best friends, and last summer we nearly got it together again - but then it never really happened as weve both just started uni (different ones) and i was really confused at the time - we never properly spoke about it...it just never actually got together if you know what i mean?!

ANyway i came to uni thinking that i should just see how i feel being around all these other guys - coz i was so confused in the summer whether i just liked him as my best mate or whether my feelings for him for real - but being here ive been thinking about him a lot... and i reaaallly miss him. i think i do have proper feelings for him - im almost sure - and id be willing to try a "long distance" relationship (our unis are only a 2 hour or so drive)...

BUT i dont know if he feels the same - i feel like i cant just assume that he hasnt realised his feelings for me arent "like that" or something... and i know the simple answer is "talk to him about it" and i will... well i plan to but im worried that itll make things awkward between us...

so basically - do you think its a bad idea me tryinf to get with him this christmas when we are both back home? i seem to be thinking about him more and more and its just playing on my mind...

thanks in advance for any advice!

xxx

Reply 1

Vixen

Meh, in situations like this I always say give it a go. I think its always worth a risk. Otherwise I reckon you will spend the rest of your life thinking ''what if'' and imagining what could have been.

Reply 2

slk999

Hmm, I'd talk to him at Christmas, and I'd let him do all the 'moves', just drop hints that you like him that way. If it nearly happened, then surely it might again- you have to be sure that he hasn't found someone else at his Uni though. If he rejects you and rules you out if you confess to him, then he never was a friend at all. He should like you WHATEVER you do. :wink:

Reply 3

elr_moran

If he's a good friend and you think you'd be able to cope with just being his friend if for some reason he didn't feel the same way, I'd say go for it. You might as well, as someone's already said, otherwise you'll spend your life wondering what if.

In your shoes I personally would at least give it a go, especially if things have "nearly happened" before.

Reply 4

luckylaura05

heya everyone
hope everyone is well and had a great christmas and new year!
just thought id let you know - if anyone is at all interested or even cares (Sorry if not!!) that ispent new years with this friend who i liked and after a few meetings/ discussions/ events we are now together :biggrin: