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Boyfriend changing when he's around his friends
Are a lot of guys like this?
He's so nice when it's me and him, and actually behaves like a boyfriend should. Yet when we are in school and he's with his friends, he's totally different and I feel a bit left out as he's really unfriendly. 2 of his mates have already commented on the fact that he's a bit crap boyfriend, 1 of them more indirectly, but I don't think he's actually got the hint. I actually hate him when he's like that and it leaves me feeling angry.
Do you think I should talk to him?
Are any other girls in this situation? Or boys for that matter?
Cheers.
He's so nice when it's me and him, and actually behaves like a boyfriend should. Yet when we are in school and he's with his friends, he's totally different and I feel a bit left out as he's really unfriendly. 2 of his mates have already commented on the fact that he's a bit crap boyfriend, 1 of them more indirectly, but I don't think he's actually got the hint. I actually hate him when he's like that and it leaves me feeling angry.
Do you think I should talk to him?
Are any other girls in this situation? Or boys for that matter?
Cheers.
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Reply 1
just dont hang o9ut with him at school?
you need some space anyway
you need some space anyway
notts
just dont hang o9ut with him at school?
you need some space anyway
you need some space anyway
I hardly hang out with him anyway in school as we aren't in the same lessons. But when we pass each other, he can just about say hello. Sometimes we go to lunch together, with his friend of course who is like a sheep
and I feel totally uninvolved due to the fact all they talk about is cars and technology. He's just not nice to me in public!Reply 3
A lot of boys change when they are with their friends. He is probably embarassed that his friends should find out what a softie he really is. Try and remedy this by calling him "sweetykins" "schnickums schnuckums" and "shmunky" when you are both around them. Is they laugh, tell them that "ours is a love that is beyond ridicule" and proceed to give him a big smacker, and, on your departure, throw in "By the way, my mum really enjoyed it when you came round to tea last week, and says thank you for helping her with her embroidery". Sorted.
Reply 4
I hardly hang out with him anyway in school as we aren't in the same lessons. But when we pass each other, he can just about say hello. Sometimes we go to lunch together, with his friend of course who is like a sheep and I feel totally uninvolved due to the fact all they talk about is cars and technology. He's just not nice to me in public!
Then he'd probaly get really annoyed and give me weird looks and call me "weird" and him and his friend would both laugh at me. Lol, but might try it if he really ****** me off anymore.
and I feel totally uninvolved due to the fact all they talk about is cars and technology. He's just not nice to me in public!Objet trouvé
A lot of boys change when they are with their friends. He is probably embarassed that his friends should find out what a softie he really is. Try and remedy this by calling him "sweetykins" "schnickums schnuckums" and "shmunky" when you are both around them. Is they laugh, tell them that "ours is a love that is beyond ridicule" and proceed to give him a big smacker, and, on your departure, throw in "By the way, my mum really enjoyed it when you came round to tea last week, and says thank you for helping her with her embroidery". Sorted.
Then he'd probaly get really annoyed and give me weird looks and call me "weird" and him and his friend would both laugh at me. Lol, but might try it if he really ****** me off anymore.
Reply 5
Objet trouvé
A lot of boys change when they are with their friends. He is probably embarassed that his friends should find out what a softie he really is. Try and remedy this by calling him "sweetykins" "schnickums schnuckums" and "shmunky" when you are both around them. Is they laugh, tell them that "ours is a love that is beyond ridicule" and proceed to give him a big smacker, and, on your departure, throw in "By the way, my mum really enjoyed it when you came round to tea last week, and says thank you for helping her with her embroidery". Sorted.
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Reply 6
leave him alone when he's around his friends. He'd probably appreciate it too.
most guys are like that i bet he thinks the same when you are with your mates its some insecrutity thing i think
my ex was nice when it was me and him not that often, and when he was with his mate and my brother and other people he would say something nasty and everyone even my mates and brother and everyone around us would egg him on, only when i started crying in the middle of the pub as he went off his head about something stupid did someone want to say something so now, i told him where to shove his relationship and told the others to hop it as well,
now i don't talk to those people anymore the ones who made 4 months of my life a living hell by egging him on they egged him on so much that he slapped me in front of them across the face,
but it sounds like your bloke just wants to be macho around the guys, it is perfectly normal!!
my ex was nice when it was me and him not that often, and when he was with his mate and my brother and other people he would say something nasty and everyone even my mates and brother and everyone around us would egg him on, only when i started crying in the middle of the pub as he went off his head about something stupid did someone want to say something so now, i told him where to shove his relationship and told the others to hop it as well,
now i don't talk to those people anymore the ones who made 4 months of my life a living hell by egging him on they egged him on so much that he slapped me in front of them across the face,
but it sounds like your bloke just wants to be macho around the guys, it is perfectly normal!!
Reply 8
Anonymous
leave him alone when he's around his friends. He'd probably appreciate it too.
You make it sound like as if i'm like clinging to him, but i'm not. He always asks me to come with them! So I do. I won't next time though.
But that's not really the point. The point is the fact that he shouldn't be 2 faced and should be nice all the time.
Reply 9
Laursy
most guys are like that i bet he thinks the same when you are with your mates its some insecrutity thing i think
my ex was nice when it was me and him not that often, and when he was with his mate and my brother and other people he would say something nasty and everyone even my mates and brother and everyone around us would egg him on, only when i started crying in the middle of the pub as he went off his head about something stupid did someone want to say something so now, i told him where to shove his relationship and told the others to hop it as well,
now i don't talk to those people anymore the ones who made 4 months of my life a living hell by egging him on they egged him on so much that he slapped me in front of them across the face,
but it sounds like your bloke just wants to be macho around the guys, it is perfectly normal!!
my ex was nice when it was me and him not that often, and when he was with his mate and my brother and other people he would say something nasty and everyone even my mates and brother and everyone around us would egg him on, only when i started crying in the middle of the pub as he went off his head about something stupid did someone want to say something so now, i told him where to shove his relationship and told the others to hop it as well,
now i don't talk to those people anymore the ones who made 4 months of my life a living hell by egging him on they egged him on so much that he slapped me in front of them across the face,
but it sounds like your bloke just wants to be macho around the guys, it is perfectly normal!!
That's awful. What a ******. Mine isn't quite as bad, no. But he does sometimes make fun of me to "show off." There's a stupid pic of me on his laptop and he likes to show it so they can all have a laugh. Or another example, I was saying how my bag was heavy and so don't like to walk home so he said that's lazy so his friend said "well he walks home and he has a laptop" so I go "well you're a guy" (and is thus stronger) so my "boyfriend" goes "wow, well done for noticing" or something really sarcastic in a horrible way. ARGH!
Reply 10
Firebird
Wow Laursy your ex was a ****!
Most guys are NOT like that. Sure, they won't give you all their attention, but that is because you're not the only person there. He should treat you like he does normally, and you should make an effort to speak to his friends.
I understand if you don't get on with some of his friends though, I can't stand one of my bf's friends.
If you're upset, try talking to him. Alternatively, give him a taste of his own medicine and tease him in public by saying "what? Won't kiss me in front of your friends? Ashamed of me or something?". He could just be shy though...
Most guys are NOT like that. Sure, they won't give you all their attention, but that is because you're not the only person there. He should treat you like he does normally, and you should make an effort to speak to his friends.
I understand if you don't get on with some of his friends though, I can't stand one of my bf's friends.
If you're upset, try talking to him. Alternatively, give him a taste of his own medicine and tease him in public by saying "what? Won't kiss me in front of your friends? Ashamed of me or something?". He could just be shy though...
I am friendly with his friends though, that's the thing.
His closest friend even said at the picture thing "he's not a very good boyfriend is he" so I go "no, he's crap." I don't think he heard, unfortuantely.Reply 11
notts
um....
Worry not, my tongue is firmly in my cheek.
Reply 13
Firebird
Meh. Stupid boy. Talk to him. He might be shy or he might be embarrassed or he might just be crap, plain and simple.
I think I'll go with crap. I'll talk to him tonight. He'll probaly just go in a soft way "awwww im sorrrry." And then the stupid gal I am will forgive him and forget all about it until next time.
Most guys are NOT like that. Sure, they won't give you all their attention, but that is because you're not the only person there. He should treat you like he does normally, and you should make an effort to speak to his friends
oh boy yer i was specking to one of his mates the whole evening while he was playing pool with another one, after he was specking to me the mate i was talking to kept mucking around and that made my ex go mad, and then he hugged me and renamed me Kate saying i look like kate and my ex was like oh my god what are you playing at specking to him, im like ok do you want me to sit in the corner and look at the wall with a bag over my head id rather do that then spend another evening with him,
after i finished it his mates were really pleased and glad i had finished it and were bitching worse then gals about him lol
just make chit chat with his mates and get to know them, its alot better if you get on with the mates as well!!
Reply 15
Laursy
most guys are like that i bet he thinks the same when you are with your mates its some insecrutity thing i think
my ex was nice when it was me and him not that often, and when he was with his mate and my brother and other people he would say something nasty and everyone even my mates and brother and everyone around us would egg him on, only when i started crying in the middle of the pub as he went off his head about something stupid did someone want to say something so now, i told him where to shove his relationship and told the others to hop it as well,
now i don't talk to those people anymore the ones who made 4 months of my life a living hell by egging him on they egged him on so much that he slapped me in front of them across the face,
but it sounds like your bloke just wants to be macho around the guys, it is perfectly normal!!
my ex was nice when it was me and him not that often, and when he was with his mate and my brother and other people he would say something nasty and everyone even my mates and brother and everyone around us would egg him on, only when i started crying in the middle of the pub as he went off his head about something stupid did someone want to say something so now, i told him where to shove his relationship and told the others to hop it as well,
now i don't talk to those people anymore the ones who made 4 months of my life a living hell by egging him on they egged him on so much that he slapped me in front of them across the face,
but it sounds like your bloke just wants to be macho around the guys, it is perfectly normal!!
What a *****!I'm so sorry that happened to you
Reply 16
Laursy
oh boy yer i was specking to one of his mates the whole evening while he was playing pool with another one, after he was specking to me the mate i was talking to kept mucking around and that made my ex go mad, and then he hugged me and renamed me Kate saying i look like kate and my ex was like oh my god what are you playing at specking to him, im like ok do you want me to sit in the corner and look at the wall with a bag over my head id rather do that then spend another evening with him,
after i finished it his mates were really pleased and glad i had finished it and were bitching worse then gals about him lol
just make chit chat with his mates and get to know them, its alot better if you get on with the mates as well!!
after i finished it his mates were really pleased and glad i had finished it and were bitching worse then gals about him lol
just make chit chat with his mates and get to know them, its alot better if you get on with the mates as well!!
You're well rid of him!! I sure hope you have someone better now!!! Boys..
I do get on with his mates, well there's only really one that he spends most of his time with. The friend knows he's crap, but I don't think he pays any attention. Sometimes I think he's going out with his friend, not me.
I hate it how boys try and show off to their mates and look "tough." At the end of the day, it's spose to be the girl you're impressing, no?!
Reply 19
Laursy
yer totally but thats just their way of trying to impress you by being all macho macho hard man with the boys!!
just join in lool be one of the lads as well i have done that before and had such a laugh lol!!! its abit strange but well funny!!
just join in lool be one of the lads as well i have done that before and had such a laugh lol!!! its abit strange but well funny!!
lol, well if there's any guys like this reading, THIS DOESN'T IMPRESS GIRLS! well, at least, most of the time it doesn't. Can't speak for all girls.
How would I be one of the lads? By punching each other? Or by saying how "sick" some cars are. I don't know my Ford Fiesta from my Fiat Punto.
MattG
where the hell do you find these guys?
School! And my school is decent!
Did I mention he wants to be a policeman when he's older? He's kinda obsessed with guns too. Geez, what kinda guy have I got myself here?!
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