I really like him- but then I slept with someone else, what do I do?

Sorry for the length of the post and possible spelling errors, it's now getting onto 4.30 am and I've been writing this for too long.

Well, you cheated. You either tell him, or you don't.

Surely it doesn't require an anonymous, melodramatic post on an internet forum for you to figure out what to do. Why can't you figure out yourself if you want to tell him?

No need to tell him, but if you want to know if he's seeing other girls then just bring it up some time and ask him straight. He may well lie, though, either by saying yes or no. Do you know his friends? Think of other ways to judge what he gets up to.

But, be careful what you wish for - a large part of your attraction towards him may be based on that uncertainty and the assumption that he could have other girls.

I've been there (as the guy) and "she" can suddenly lose interest when it's revealed that actually I'm only seeing her.

this is true, and im a girl.

But there are ways to go about it and keep her interested.

And how does one "cheat" on someone they're not in a relationship with?

Well she was dating him, so it's almost the same thing.

If you're 12.

I am a 27 year old who has only had one girlfriend and she slept with someone else when I was 18. Never was with anyone again. And you know why?Don't tell him that you screwing around with other men? Having sex with randoms you barely know? Looking at others while dating someone else?I wouldn't even bother with anyone doing that crap. I find that disgusting and that leads to diseases. Which then you spread to the person you like. This is also why I absolutely hate alcohol. Makes people stupid. And the fact you are wanting them but are with someone else? They don't mean barely anything to you if you can do that to someone you like. If you truly like someone you wouldn't go after other guys. You wouldn't sleep around. This society and peer pressure pushers on all these types of forums, their advice is garbage. Sex matters and its one of the most sacred and intimate acts you can do with someone and people treat this like a day out or candy. For me, I date one person and that's it. No funny business or bull****. But if they are dating casually without regard to your feelings? They are not worth the time or money. Also the more one sleeps around the more they will divorce someone if they were to be married. Statistics. The more you have shared sex with others the more likely chance you are always going to have divorces. 12 or more it's ranked that those people will have 20-17% success at full long term marriages. The divorce rate is through the roof in our modern age and it's because people can't help themselves when it comes to desire, or loneliness, can be many reasons. But the more partners one has the more likely they are not worth marriage. Because they will divorce you. And I look for marriage. But seems so many woman these days like I see on the forums everywhere think sex is just candy and you shouldn't tell your partner how many people you have shared intimate feelings with. OR EVEN IF THEY SLEPT WITH SOMEONE WHEN YOU WERE DATING THEM. Just disgusting and someone has to be real about it. Not religious, but spiritual. And yes I do judge people for their past. A cheater will most likely cheat again. And someone who sleeps around is most probable going to sleep around if you have a fight with them one day. Or could be other reasons. Or if you have a break for a week and they go have a sex binge, they don't care about you at all. Cause sex is just sex to them. And I guess one can tell this stupid nonsense has happened to me. Woman can be harpies and not trustworthy at all. That's why I have high standards when it comes to looking for a partner. If you can't control your sexual urges when dating someone and sleep with someone else, you're not worth the time. I don't really care if this is insulting or offensive. It's just my experiences and what I have tallied up when dealing with the opposite sex. I have been treated like **** in relationships. And when someone says they really like you but then **** some random douche who treats them like **** for one night out they don't care about you at all. And I have realized the more you grow older the less chance you are going to ever have found someone cause sexual partners grows steadily between each person. Some rapidly. AND if you are dating someone even if it's

1) no one is gonna read this
2) 8 years late
3) if one more person revives an old ass thread like this I’ll rip my hair out

So? I can respond to anything I want. Even if it's old. People need more thoughts then a huge reposting of the same people saying "do this". I don't really see anyone having differing opinions. And literally I am seeing girls say don't tell him you slept with someone else. That is the type of woman I never want in my life. People ask for advice and I will give mine. And it may help someone in the future. Even if it's years old.

People want the best possible partner and if people can improve and be decent and patient in relationships or looking to find someone without sleeping with half the town then relationships would be far more better in the long run. Globally. People want to go fast and be fast. Like in relationships without thinking about the consequences these days. Sex leads to babies. If you have sex with a person you are with, you should of thought exactly how they would be a good father to your child and if they would actually stay in the relationship as well. And if they can actually support one if they did get you pregnant. Girls are being so stupid these days with getting into relationships with men who can't do all three. And who treat them like garbage. Vice versa as well for men being treated extremely poorly by woman. I have seen both sides. I have even been a feminist at one point, but not anymore. I see through lies from both sides. Relationships are a battleground. And I see both men and woman be absolutely irresponsible with sex.
Besides that the statistics of woman having at least one sexual partner before marriage to even being a virgin before marriage, all those marriages in successful long term forever marriages stands at over 95% to 85%. Or 5% to 10% of wanting a divorce from their partner if they were a virgin. 20% if they have at least one other sexual partner before marriage.

What are you on?