3 weeks too soon?

Ok, I'm 17 and have been with my boyfriend for just over 3 weeks and I was friends with him for 3/4 months before we went out. I feel like I know him really well. I slep with him the other day and it was my first time. I'm now worried that 3 weeks is too soon. What do you all think?

Reply 1

hugatree

11

Why are you worried now? Did sth change between the two of you? If it hasn't then you shouldn't be worrying/regretting this.

Reply 2

Nothing's changed between us, everything's great. Just worried that other people might see me as a slut and it being too soon.

Reply 3

hugatree

11

Nooo it's fine. :smile:

If you were 15 and be having sex after 3 weeks it would seem slutty but you're fine. Good luck in keeping things nice between you too and I hope the sex was ok too. :wink:

Reply 4

shinytoy

18

according to www.durex.com one month is the global average, and you did know him for a while before. i think its prob that you wanted your first time to be special. if he is still with you and loves you then he doesnt think you are a slut

Reply 5

Thanks

(And yes the sex was good :wink:

)

Reply 6

hugatree

11

It's all good then. :wink:

Happy Christmas to the both of you.

Reply 7

sr4470

15

Well said.

(edited 4 years ago)

Reply 8

Thanks everyone :smile:

Reply 9

Lady Narcissus

14

Yer do not worry too much, some times these things happen. If it was good, then fine

Reply 10

technik

13

Anonymous

Ok, I'm 17 and have been with my boyfriend for just over 3 weeks and I was friends with him for 3/4 months before we went out. I feel like I know him really well. I slep with him the other day and it was my first time. I'm now worried that 3 weeks is too soon. What do you all think?

simply. you dont.

3 weeks probably was too soon.

Reply 11

shinytoy

18

time is irrelavent.

Reply 12

puppy

technik

simply. you dont.

3 weeks probably was too soon.

How can you possibly judge what is too soon for someone based soley on timescale and nothing else? They've said already that they don't regret it and that it hasn't effected the relationship negatively in anyway, so how can you possibly say retrospectively that it was too soon?

You can't possibly measure things like 'too soon'- it's a ridiculous concept, the only thing you need to worry about is how you feel. And obviously make sure you're having safe sex! (look at me being all maternal)

Reply 13

technik

13

puppy

How can you possibly judge what is too soon for someone based soley on timescale and nothing else? They've said already that they don't regret it and that it hasn't effected the relationship negatively in anyway, so how can you possibly say retrospectively that it was too soon?

You can't possibly measure things like 'too soon'- it's a ridiculous concept, the only thing you need to worry about is how you feel. And obviously make sure you're having safe sex! (look at me being all maternal)

its called an opinion. you clearly disagree with it. perhaps i'll slag you off for it.

the person is clearly mulling over it enough to create an anonymous thread about it and saying things like "im worried it was too soon". clearly, had they been completely sure and ready this thread wouldnt exist.

Reply 14

iGirl

stop fighting kiddie winks.

Reply 15

puppy

technik

its called an opinion. you clearly disagree with it. perhaps i'll slag you off for it.

the person is clearly mulling over it enough to create an anonymous thread about it and saying things like "im worried it was too soon". clearly, had they been completely sure and ready this thread wouldnt exist.

Now I remember why I haven't been on this site for months.

Why slag me off for it? I'm giving my opinion too.

Reply 16

lorrybeep

13

dont look back dont look back

whats done is done

Reply 17

lirael

7

3 weeks isn't a long time but given the circumstances with you beeing friends, I don't think you acted like a slut.

Reply 18

IzzTheGreat

10

If it feels right and you trust him then it's fine :smile:

As other people have said, no point worrying about it now. I regret my first time like crazy but it's in the past now.

Reply 19

rosetinted

2

Anonymous

Ok, I'm 17 and have been with my boyfriend for just over 3 weeks and I was friends with him for 3/4 months before we went out. I feel like I know him really well. I slep with him the other day and it was my first time. I'm now worried that 3 weeks is too soon. What do you all think?

There isn't a set time limit on these things. It's just whatever you feel comfortable and right with. At the end of the day you are the only one who needs to feel right about this. Doesn't matter how soon or not any of us ppl would sleep with someone else. This is a personal decision and we can't judge a relationship that we know nothing about. How do you feel about the relationship? If you're happy with it then stop worrying over something to which there is no right or wrong answer and just enjoy yourself. Oh and protected sex is a good thing for both of you..as I'm sure you know! :wink:

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