Is it odd to keep a pets ashes in your room

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Is it odd to keep a pets ashes in your room? I only ask this because I was reading the thread of putting pets down ( :frown:

) I myself, keep my dogs ashes in my bedroon, it'll be two years without her new years eve this year. All my friends think its 'sick' and 'odd' and say that I should 'get over it' as she was just 'a dog'. To me, she wasnt just a dog, she was like my sister. if that makes sense. Losing her was to me, like losing a parent. I don't feel ready to 'put her away' (as my friends call it :mad:

) so for now, I love the fact that shes near me.

What do you all think?

Reply 1

The Mudman

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It depends if you do anything with them. If you talk to them or get them out of the urn of anything, I'd say you could do with a visit to a medical preffessional, but if you just keep them on the side or something, that's not a major thing. In my opinion, it doesn't change who you are any more than your height does, or whether you get up at 7 am, or 3pm... It's just part of who you are. Love you, love your dog. :smile:

Reply 2

Steve Stifler

I would more worried about drunk friends trying to snort the ashes than anything else lol.

Reply 3

Hayley_2k4

OP

12

The Mudman

It depends if you do anything with them. If you talk to them or get them out of the urn of anything, I'd say you could do with a visit to a medical preffessional, but if you just keep them on the side or something, that's not a major thing. In my opinion, it doesn't change who you are any more than your height does, or whether you get up at 7 am, or 3pm... It's just part of who you are. Love you, love your dog. :smile:

I talk to her all the time, just like I used to when she here. it makes me feel better in a way

Reply 4

Chickadee

Hayley_2k4

Is it odd to keep a pets ashes in your room? I only ask this because I was reading the thread of putting pets down ( :frown:

) I myself, keep my dogs ashes in my bedroon, it'll be two years without her new years eve this year. All my friends think its 'sick' and 'odd' and say that I should 'get over it' as she was just 'a dog'. To me, she wasnt just a dog, she was like my sister. if that makes sense. Losing her was to me, like losing a parent. I don't feel ready to 'put her away' (as my friends call it :mad:

) so for now, I love the fact that shes near me.

What do you all think?

I dont think its weird. I know what its like to lose a dog - its so hard :frown:

Some people dont understand about dogs and the relationship some people have with them. Dont let your friends make you doubt yourself. If keeping her ashes makes you feel better and thats the way you cope with her death thats the only important thing.

I totally understand how you feel :smile:

Good luck xx

Reply 5

The Mudman

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You're not expecting any answers back from her though are you? I mean it's one thing talking to a plant, or writing your feelings down, or in your case talking to your dog, but it's a whole new ball park if it starts answering you...

Reply 6

musicbloke

17

you gonna eat them at some point?

MB

Reply 7

blissy

15

I didn't know they did pet cremations and then put the ashes in urns :confused:

I thought you just took them to the vet, had them injected and that was it

Reply 8

Trousers

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I don't think it's any odder than keeping a relative's ashes.

However, even if it was your mum who'd died, I would tell you that you need to try to move on, and having the ashes in your bedroom is preventing you from doing that. I can understand that you're still very upset, but it would probably be good for you to scatter or bury the ashes somewhere, give your dog a proper send-off and get some closure.

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blissy

I didn't know they did pet cremations and then put the ashes in urns :confused:

I thought you just took them to the vet, had them injected and that was it

I did my work experience at a veterinary hospital. They will return the body to you if you like, but any bodies that they keep will be cremated anyway, for health reasons.

All of the ashes that were returned to the pets' owners were actually a mish-mash of the ashes collected that day - they don't have time to separate out the animals and give the correct ashes back to the correct people.

Btw, Hayley, I'm not saying that this is what happened to your dog - I'm sure different vets do it differently.

Reply 9

Chickadee

Trousers

I did my work experience at a veterinary hospital. They will return the body to you if you like, but any bodies that they keep will be cremated anyway, for health reasons.

All of the ashes that were returned to the pets' owners were actually a mish-mash of the ashes collected that day - they don't have time to separate out the animals and give the correct ashes back to the correct people.

Btw, Hayley, I'm not saying that this is what happened to your dog - I'm sure different vets do it differently.

I took my dog to a pet cemetary and they cremated her there. The woman that runs in goes to pick up the pet from the vets and puts them in a nice room there so you can say goodbye if you want. Then they are cremated and put in a little box.

Reply 10

lazydays

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I've never understood the whole cremation thing anyway. That applies to humans and pets. But whatever suits you.

Reply 11

~nat~

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As an earlier poster pointed out, its no more odd than keeping an urn of ashes of a parent beside you. Obviously, you were very attached to your dog, and your not the only one to have been so: although not a pet owner myself, I know a lot of people who love their dog, cat, to bits!

You mention that it is approaching two years since your dog died... perhaps in order to help you move on slightly, maybe bury the urn in a particular favourite spot, e.g. a quiet part of your garden, near a park where you used to walk your dog, and visit often, instead of having the urn as a constant presence?

Reply 12

Hayley_2k4

OP

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Trousers

I don't think it's any odder than keeping a relative's ashes.

However, even if it was your mum who'd died, I would tell you that you need to try to move on, and having the ashes in your bedroom is preventing you from doing that. I can understand that you're still very upset, but it would probably be good for you to scatter or bury the ashes somewhere, give your dog a proper send-off and get some closure.

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I did my work experience at a veterinary hospital. They will return the body to you if you like, but any bodies that they keep will be cremated anyway, for health reasons.

All of the ashes that were returned to the pets' owners were actually a mish-mash of the ashes collected that day - they don't have time to separate out the animals and give the correct ashes back to the correct people.

Btw, Hayley, I'm not saying that this is what happened to your dog - I'm sure different vets do it differently.

I paid extra to have her cremated on her own.

Reply 13

the sand man

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yes very

Reply 14

Philadelphia

Hayley_2k4

I talk to her all the time, just like I used to when she here. it makes me feel better in a way

Don;t worry about talking to her you are talking to her soul.
It's not silly why should it be. Don't worry about it it's natural.

Reply 15

musicbloke

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I personally wouldn't get cremated. Being jewish, it's slightly too close to recent history.

MB

Reply 16

technik

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blissy

I didn't know they did pet cremations and then put the ashes in urns :confused:

I thought you just took them to the vet, had them injected and that was it

the vet usually cremates the bodies though...and if they are a decent vet they'll ask you if you want the ashes or not.

Reply 17

Howard

5

Hayley_2k4

Is it odd to keep a pets ashes in your room? I only ask this because I was reading the thread of putting pets down ( :frown:

) I myself, keep my dogs ashes in my bedroon, it'll be two years without her new years eve this year. All my friends think its 'sick' and 'odd' and say that I should 'get over it' as she was just 'a dog'. To me, she wasnt just a dog, she was like my sister. if that makes sense. Losing her was to me, like losing a parent. I don't feel ready to 'put her away' (as my friends call it :mad:

) so for now, I love the fact that shes near me.

What do you all think?

Have you lost a parent?

Reply 18

kikzen

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s'wierd.

even if it was a parent, keeping their urn would just remind you constantly, and so you wouldnt be able to get over it.

(i only say its wierd cos youve had it for 2 YEARS! 6 months i could understand, but thats just me talking..)

Reply 19

dave

Hayley_2k4

Is it odd to keep a pets ashes in your room? I only ask this because I was reading the thread of putting pets down ( :frown:

) I myself, keep my dogs ashes in my bedroon, it'll be two years without her new years eve this year. All my friends think its 'sick' and 'odd' and say that I should 'get over it' as she was just 'a dog'. To me, she wasnt just a dog, she was like my sister. if that makes sense. Losing her was to me, like losing a parent. I don't feel ready to 'put her away' (as my friends call it :mad:

) so for now, I love the fact that shes near me.

What do you all think?

If you're comfortable with what you're doing, then it's not odd at all. It's right for you. And that's all that matters.
All of my deceased dogs were cremated and have a little plot in my garden complete with their own little headstones. If that makes ME odd - then sobeit.

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