Some guy!

This is another one of those really daft (possibly verging on mad!) scenarios!!

I have just spent the last four weeks with this amazing guy . We got talking and seemed to get on quite well.
After a few days i realised i liked him more than in just a friendly way.

Anyway, after a week, I realised I had developed feelings for him and as each day passed, I grew closer to him and my feelings deepened. (The feelings were oviously not mutual - hes straight!!). I really wanted to tell him how I felt, but I knew it would make things awkward and difficult between us, and he would almost definately feel uncomfortable around me.

Anyhow, as the days passed, I began to dread the day he was to leave, as I wouldnt see this guy as much as I had done over the last month.

I think about him all the time, and each day, I think about him more and more and wish we could still be together all the time! The thoughts get more intense and i just cant seem to stop! Whats worse, is that after Thursday, I will probably never see this guy again as he is moving back to Ireland for good! I feel really down by this and it is driving me crazy. I know I've only known him for a few weeks but i have never felt like this about anyone!!

I have (in a moment of madness) thought about booking a flight to Ireland to see him!! Lol

What the hell is wrong with me?!?

Dan

Reply 1

Glow

Wow, you really have a crush on this guy. But look, if he's moving back to ireland you should really try to hook up with this guy before he leaves. It's like the scenario when you find a guy you like on a vacation, and people tend to be less tense when they know it's just a temporary thing. So go for it; if it'll screw up you know you'll might never see the guy again and if everything goes as it should you'll have a beautiful memory. You have more to win than to lose here. Good luck.

Reply 2

Dekota

Dan3274

What the hell is wrong with me?!?

Possibly that you're gay?

Reply 3

Enfalas

V.P. Keys

Possibly that you're gay?

That doesn't answer the question because there's nothing wrong with that. Unless you're part of the BNP that is. Who's with me? :tsr:

Reply 4

34253

You had better get used to this happening because almost everybody is straight in the world, i think you will just make a fool of yourself if you come onto him.

Reply 5

Dan3274

V.P. Keys

Possibly that you're gay?

Really?!? lol, i know i'm gay!

What i meant when i said 'what the hell is wrong with me?' - i meant 'why do i have all these feelings for him when i know he is straight!!

Reply 6

Dan3274

Elipsis

You had better get used to this happening because almost everybody is straight in the world, i think you will just make a fool of yourself if you come onto him.

Exactly!

I mean, he doesnt know im gay (never managed to drop that line!!) and i dont have the balls to tell him how i feel!! Haha

I dont think he would have a problem with me bein gay, because he has a lot of gay friends but rather, telling him i cant stop thinkin about him 'in that way', may just freak him out a bit!!

Reply 7

Enfalas

That's normal... I've done that before.. It was painful...

Reply 8

rosetinted

Dan3274

'why do i have all these feelings for him when i know he is straight!!

Cos nobody gets control over who they fancy. Crushes just spring themselves upon you and then you start deeply analysing whether they said hello in a moody way to you this morning and if there was deep meaning behind an offhand comment!

If you feel like you're going to be kicking yourself then say something. That way you won't regret never having spoken up. It's always flattering to be told that someone really likes you, even if you're not interested. It's a toss up between telling him you like him..and him potentially being a bit freaked..or saying he's a decent guy and you'd like to stay in touch as friends. Which is more important, keeping this guy in your life just as a friend or telling him your feelings for him?

Reply 9

xemilyx

V.P. Keys

Possibly that you're gay?

you can be exceptionally mean

your not crazy or anything hun so dont worry about that, your obviously driven by your emotions, but you alread know nothing is going to happen as he is straight, embrace the friendship, why not suggest getting mobile numbers etc. so you can stay in touch?

Reply 10

Dan3274

Thanks for all your comments guys! lol

I do keep analysing most things he says - dear me, i'll be a stalker next! nah seriously, i suppose i'll get over it. Its just one of them things i suppose.

I'm 19, he's 26 - i doubt he'd want a friend who's a teenager neway!!!! or is that just me being naive?

Reply 11

ApeXaviour

Are you certain he's not gay? I'd check it out subtely if i was in your position.. If you're sure then you're sure. Don't convince yourself that you're not. You'll only delude yourself into thinking something can happen when it can't. Get over it and move on, harsh? maybe but necessary

rosetinted

If you feel like you're going to be kicking yourself then say something. That way you won't regret never having spoken up. It's always flattering to be told that someone really likes you, even if you're not interested.

If you do do this, please make sure to say you realise he's straight and that you know/accept nothing can happen. Or something very much along those lines. It removes the "OMG what's he gonna do" from his mind and makes him feel flattered.
I once had a crush on a lesbian, years ago. Well at least that's what she said :wink:

. Ah no she was. I think this is the same thing. It couldn't happen and I just had to come to terms with it. Seriously though, maybe moving away is a really good thing, crushes go very fast. Being dumped from a relationship however tends to take one whole lot longer.

rosetinted

It's a toss up between telling him you like him..and him potentially being a bit freaked..or saying he's a decent guy and you'd like to stay in touch as friends. Which is more important, keeping this guy in your life just as a friend or telling him your feelings for him?

Agreed, that's very good advice. You need to take a step back and think coolely and logically what you really want / what would be good for you. Keeping in mind that it cannot happen between you.

Reply 12

Dan3274

Thanks once again!!

I just needed someone else to share their views to help me understand and make a realistic decision

Reply 13

Indus1986

Dan3274

Really?!? lol, i know i'm gay!

What i meant when i said 'what the hell is wrong with me?' - i meant 'why do i have all these feelings for him when i know he is straight!!

Wanting something you know you can never have. Your madness seems to be stemming from the fact that you are willing to pursue this pointless task in the hopes he may magically turn or be gay.

Don't bother.

Reply 14

Dan3274

Indus1986

Your madness seems to be stemming from the fact that you are willing to pursue this pointless task in the hopes he may magically turn or be gay.

Madness?!? Lol Wouldnt have called it that myself!!

I started this thread for a bit of advice...not plain insults and criticism!

Reply 15

Dan3274

Just an update for those people that offered their advice!!

Been in touch with him and he has since moved back to the UK and we have hit it off!!
I have just left home and we have got a place together in Salford!

Turned out he was gay afterall lol.

Thanks everyone! xxx

Reply 16

Introspecktive..

This Aint Kosher... Smh