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If no, why? What puts you off a person from back home, guy or girl?
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If no, why? What puts you off a person from back home, guy or girl?
I would not get married to someone 'back home'. Im a guy, and for me i would prefer someone who would be on the same wavelength as me in terms of lifestyle. Living here and back home is quite different and if the person back home cannot speak english and is unable to work here purely due to qualifications and education, i find it difficult to want someone from back home.
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i wouldnt for the only reason that, i doubt they would find it very easy to fit in here, job wise, speaking wise, and just in general they'd hate the weather. Theres nothing wrong with them, but its better to marry someone from here since they will already know how to get around, how the system works and all that crap, where as you will have to educate the back home person, its just too complicated unless you want to settle back home lol.
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My family come from South Asia, Pakistan to be exact, and I know for certain that I will NEVER get married to anyone from there.
The reason being is I don't like nor agree with traditional mindsets, this is a generalisation but I don't like the way most of them treat and view woman.
Again generalising but I don't have anything in common with them, I'm liberal in terms of values and morals and society in Pakistan is very much not.
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For the same reasons given above, I wouldn't want to marry from Pakistan.
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Noooo, I'm a guy. I want someone familar with the society I grew up in
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Hmmm... I wouldn't marry a complete freshy but an educated girl from back home would not be so bad. I'am the type of person who socialises a lot with my English friends, goes to the cinema etc. with them but I definitely need a degree of freshiness in my life which is why I would prefer someone who is like me: Can speak both English and Urdu/Punjabi and understands the cultures of both countries.
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If no, why? What puts you off a person from back home, guy or girl?
Nope. I think its mainly the difference in the way you've been brought up. Things are incredibly different here and 'back home'.

As a girl, it would be quite hard to have a husband who couldn't drive/speak fluent english etc.
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Nope. I think its mainly the difference in the way you've been brought up. Things are incredibly different here and 'back home'.

Tbh I don't think anyone would willingly marry someone from back home, unless they actually knew them or perhaps as a last resort :dontknow: I may be wrong.
I agree there. Tbh, I'd be better of on my own than with a man from back home. I wouldn't marry someone just so I have someone to live with.
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If no, why? What puts you off a person from back home, guy or girl?
OP why even ask this?
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If no, why? What puts you off a person from back home, guy or girl?
There will inevitably be conflict between western and eastern tradition and culture. Although, if she is fluent in english and not shackled by the demands of her society, why not?
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I know this is a generalistion but back home they are incredibly racist, narrow-minded, judging, *****ing, their views on women being inferior and confined to the home, there obession with money, greed...I could go on.

I sound so sad, but that's how I feel having had first hand experience not only from people from back home, but also immigrants who have come from there recently. sorry. There mind set to me is incredibly offensive. But I'm making a massive generalisation, but that's how they come across to me.
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I wouldn't mind marrying someone from Lahore as long as their views match with mine.....
The language problem would be a barrier though....=.=
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My family come from South Asia, Pakistan to be exact, and I know for certain that I will NEVER get married to anyone from there.
The reason being is I don't like nor agree with traditional mindsets, this is a generalisation but I don't like the way most of them treat and view woman.
Again generalising but I don't have anything in common with them, I'm liberal in terms of values and morals and society in Pakistan is very much not.
Would you rather marry a non-Pakistani from Britain or a Pakistani from back home though?
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OP why even ask this?
Just really. No, before you ask, I'm not contemplating the idea.
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Would you rather marry a non-Pakistani from Britain or a Pakistani from back home though?
What do you mean non-Pakistani from Britain?

I've already said I would never be with someone a Pakistani from Pakistan, we'd be faaaaaar to different and I'd end up killing them with my bare hands.
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I've already said I would never be with someone a Pakistani from Pakistan, we'd be faaaaaar to different and I'd end up killing them with my bare hands.
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From the threads I have seen around here OP, I imagine a whole lot of people to not want to be part of certain traditional views.
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:teehee:

From the threads I have seen around here OP, I imagine a whole lot of people to not want to be part of certain traditional views.
Damn straight, why should one conform to rigid traditonal values that I frankly don't care about.
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Hmmm... I wouldn't marry a complete freshy but an educated girl from back home would not be so bad. I'am the type of person who socialises a lot with my English friends, goes to the cinema etc. with them but I definitely need a degree of freshiness in my life which is why I would prefer someone who is like me: Can speak both English and Urdu/Punjabi and understands the cultures of both countries.
I like how you said you need some freshiness in your life, I shall quote that.

But surely your family will meet your freshy needs?
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If no, why? What puts you off a person from back home, guy or girl?
i wouldn't mind... i spend a lot of time "back home" (and i'm still pretty much a coconut!) and no disrespect to british/non-"back home" guys, but there is a greater variety, plenty of "talent" AND many of them are pretty well educated/"hip" and "with the times" so as long as they're willing to compromise where they live and shift their bootay here, i don't mind

however in saying that i would prefer to get married to someone from here, but if someone who's very eligible pops up and hes from "back home" i don't think i'll be put off by it
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