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Can't stand him
I already posted a while ago about this and now it's all started again. I hate my boyfriend's best friend. He is male, and he's a tw*t. I met him twice and have tried to be nice but he treats girls like crap, and it seems that's all girls, not just those he wants to shag and cheat on. I was at my boyfriend's house and he came round, I said I didn't mind because he was going back to uni. He ignored me the whole time he was there.
He stayed over in my boyfriend's more than I did in the summer - I also find that a bit weird - guys don't have sleepovers. The reason is, he doesn't drive, so my boyfriend has to give him lifts. He doesn't want to learn to drive, because any time he wants to go to the gym he calls up my boyfriend as a taxi driver. Before they went on holiday he sent my bf a text encouraging him to sleep with loads of girls (when we were going out). I really can't stand him and I don't want my boyfriend to see him.
The final straw was yesterday. Me and my bf are going to a party on Wednesday that's been planned for a couple weeks. Then he said Wednesday was the only time his friend wasn't busy before Christmas, so he was going to see his friend. I shouted at him, and then my bf dumped me for not understanding him. My bf is always putting me in second place to this guy, and he's a nasty piece of work. This is the only friend of his I've ever had a problem with.
I'm soooo tempted to make him choose. Bear in mind this guy tells me he loves me, wants to marry me, and tries to stop me leaving because he misses me so much when I'm not there...and now he's trying to ditch me for a friend who didn't so much as phone on his bday....
He stayed over in my boyfriend's more than I did in the summer - I also find that a bit weird - guys don't have sleepovers. The reason is, he doesn't drive, so my boyfriend has to give him lifts. He doesn't want to learn to drive, because any time he wants to go to the gym he calls up my boyfriend as a taxi driver. Before they went on holiday he sent my bf a text encouraging him to sleep with loads of girls (when we were going out). I really can't stand him and I don't want my boyfriend to see him.
The final straw was yesterday. Me and my bf are going to a party on Wednesday that's been planned for a couple weeks. Then he said Wednesday was the only time his friend wasn't busy before Christmas, so he was going to see his friend. I shouted at him, and then my bf dumped me for not understanding him. My bf is always putting me in second place to this guy, and he's a nasty piece of work. This is the only friend of his I've ever had a problem with.
I'm soooo tempted to make him choose. Bear in mind this guy tells me he loves me, wants to marry me, and tries to stop me leaving because he misses me so much when I'm not there...and now he's trying to ditch me for a friend who didn't so much as phone on his bday....
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I already posted a while ago about this and now it's all started again. I hate my boyfriend's best friend. He is male, and he's a tw*t. I met him twice and have tried to be nice but he treats girls like crap, and it seems that's all girls, not just those he wants to shag and cheat on. I was at my boyfriend's house and he came round, I said I didn't mind because he was going back to uni. He ignored me the whole time he was there.
He stayed over in my boyfriend's more than I did in the summer - I also find that a bit weird - guys don't have sleepovers. The reason is, he doesn't drive, so my boyfriend has to give him lifts. He doesn't want to learn to drive, because any time he wants to go to the gym he calls up my boyfriend as a taxi driver. Before they went on holiday he sent my bf a text encouraging him to sleep with loads of girls (when we were going out). I really can't stand him and I don't want my boyfriend to see him.
The final straw was yesterday. Me and my bf are going to a party on Wednesday that's been planned for a couple weeks. Then he said Wednesday was the only time his friend wasn't busy before Christmas, so he was going to see his friend. I shouted at him, and then my bf dumped me for not understanding him. My bf is always putting me in second place to this guy, and he's a nasty piece of work. This is the only friend of his I've ever had a problem with.
I'm soooo tempted to make him choose. Bear in mind this guy tells me he loves me, wants to marry me, and tries to stop me leaving because he misses me so much when I'm not there...and now he's trying to ditch me for a friend who didn't so much as phone on his bday....
He stayed over in my boyfriend's more than I did in the summer - I also find that a bit weird - guys don't have sleepovers. The reason is, he doesn't drive, so my boyfriend has to give him lifts. He doesn't want to learn to drive, because any time he wants to go to the gym he calls up my boyfriend as a taxi driver. Before they went on holiday he sent my bf a text encouraging him to sleep with loads of girls (when we were going out). I really can't stand him and I don't want my boyfriend to see him.
The final straw was yesterday. Me and my bf are going to a party on Wednesday that's been planned for a couple weeks. Then he said Wednesday was the only time his friend wasn't busy before Christmas, so he was going to see his friend. I shouted at him, and then my bf dumped me for not understanding him. My bf is always putting me in second place to this guy, and he's a nasty piece of work. This is the only friend of his I've ever had a problem with.
I'm soooo tempted to make him choose. Bear in mind this guy tells me he loves me, wants to marry me, and tries to stop me leaving because he misses me so much when I'm not there...and now he's trying to ditch me for a friend who didn't so much as phone on his bday....
erm, your bloke has a gay lover. 'Going to the gym' etc etc.
Deal with it.
MB
Have you talked to your b/f about this??? If not then do that, talk to him make him see how much this hurting you. I'd sugguest you don't make him choose but if after talking to him he still doesn't do anything about it then make him choose. He claims to be in love with you and he wants to spen the rest of his life with you, if he can't do this one thing then can you see a future with him?
Yeah MB, that has run through my mind!
I've talked to him about it. We had a big fight last night, because I don't see why I should be put in second place. He dumped me, although that's stupid, because we're unofficially engaged, and obviously we got back together half an hour later after he'd made me cry. He's lovely in all ways except this!
Now his friend isn't going to stay over and my bf is coming to the party... But now he resents me, even though that's what he'd arranged to do all along.
I don't like this guy and I don't like the person my bf turns into when he's there - he is nice to me but doesn't snuggle or anything like that in case his friend feels left out! Pah!
I've talked to him about it. We had a big fight last night, because I don't see why I should be put in second place. He dumped me, although that's stupid, because we're unofficially engaged, and obviously we got back together half an hour later after he'd made me cry. He's lovely in all ways except this!
Now his friend isn't going to stay over and my bf is coming to the party... But now he resents me, even though that's what he'd arranged to do all along.
I don't like this guy and I don't like the person my bf turns into when he's there - he is nice to me but doesn't snuggle or anything like that in case his friend feels left out! Pah!
Anonymous
He ignored me the whole time he was there.
He stayed over in my boyfriend's more than I did in the summer - I also find that a bit weird - guys don't have sleepovers.
Me and my bf are going to a party on Wednesday that's been planned for a couple weeks. Then he said Wednesday was the only time his friend wasn't busy before Christmas, so he was going to see his friend.
He ignored me the whole time he was there.
He stayed over in my boyfriend's more than I did in the summer - I also find that a bit weird - guys don't have sleepovers.
Me and my bf are going to a party on Wednesday that's been planned for a couple weeks. Then he said Wednesday was the only time his friend wasn't busy before Christmas, so he was going to see his friend.
I do not believe this guy is the misogynist he appears to be. He is probably a guy with few friends, and your BF is one of his only friends. As a result, he probably sees you as competition and wants to get rid of you.
All of that treating girls like crap and not talking to you. He probably does not know how to address girls and is nervous and feels inadequate and inept around them. I would be surprised if he has had much experience at all. His “I have had loads of success with girls and have no regard for them”, seems to be a cover for his failures and an insight into his desires as they are probably repressed.
In other words, the guy sounds like a misguided loser who probably needs your bf's friendship. You should tell your BF to give him some advice.
Dscorpio
Erm...
... He already has?
... He already has?
Learn to read child, we haven't split up.
trigger
no you "fake engaged" whaT ARE YOU 12?
whaT ARE YOU 12?Actually I'm older than you, and we're "engaged to be engaged" if you want to call it that. We have the maturity to realise we're too young to be officially engaged and I'd appreciate it if you'd leave your bad attitude at the door or not say anything; I'm looking for real help - my relationship is practically falling apart now for stupid reasons, and I can do without your snide comments.
He sounds a bit immature to me.
Anonymous
Actually I'm older than you, and we're "engaged to be engaged" if you want to call it that. We have the maturity to realise we're too young to be officially engaged and I'd appreciate it if you'd leave your bad attitude at the door or not say anything; I'm looking for real help - my relationship is practically falling apart now for stupid reasons, and I can do without your snide comments.
I can't offer much in the way of advice really. I was 'engaged to be engaged' and I think it made me and my boyfriend too desperate to stay together. It doesn't sound like the relationship's going well to be honest and however much you care about him maybe there's a time when you should just accept that things aren't going to get better. I'm maybe being a bit defeatist here but there's nothing more miserable than trying to force a relationship that's not working.
As for people like trigger - just ignore her. I know it's not easy but it's not worth getting rattled about.
Learn to read child, we haven't split up.
He dumped you but you're still 'engaged to be engaged'.. okay... my bad.
.. Anyways, making your boyfriend decide between you and his best friend isn't a good idea - as friendships generally last longer then relationships.
Maybe you're just jealous of his friend In which case, you need to realise you have nothing to be jealous of - friends hang out with each other, its sad but true. Talk to your boyfriend and make him realise you want to spend time with him as well. If what you both have is really special, you wouldn't throw it away because your boyfriend hangs out with someone you don't like.
Let me just put this to you from a guy's perspective. As a single guy, when ur best m8 finds a girlfriend you begin to despise the girl for stealing the best mate. Thats the reason the mate doesnt like you!
I think you are the one that sounds immature you can't have it your way all the time. You are the one that resents his friend, you probably make it obvious therefore is it any reason that the bloke doesn't like you. So what if his mate wants him to sleep with other girls doesn't mean he won't and if you trust him you should just ignore that.
Maybe it genuinely is the only time his friend can meet him and he'd rather be there than on a crap night out that he won't enjoy at a party with your friends. If he goes out with you now he will only resent you for the rest of xmas. I'd call him back and say he should do whatever makes him happiest and actually try to sound like you mean it.
ALso blokes do have sleepovers you are the one that sounds incredibly jealous. If you can't have it out with him in an adult way then I think that you should split because when it comes down to it you can't be unofficially engaged if you are breaking up and arguing every 2 seconds. Also if you ask him to choose between you and your friend I can 99% guarantee he'd chose the friend thats what I'd do because he'll just think of you as jealous and pathetic.
if you really want to hang onto your man then you have to tolerate the friend and not let your boyfriend know how much you dislike him its as simple as that.
Maybe it genuinely is the only time his friend can meet him and he'd rather be there than on a crap night out that he won't enjoy at a party with your friends. If he goes out with you now he will only resent you for the rest of xmas. I'd call him back and say he should do whatever makes him happiest and actually try to sound like you mean it.
ALso blokes do have sleepovers you are the one that sounds incredibly jealous. If you can't have it out with him in an adult way then I think that you should split because when it comes down to it you can't be unofficially engaged if you are breaking up and arguing every 2 seconds. Also if you ask him to choose between you and your friend I can 99% guarantee he'd chose the friend thats what I'd do because he'll just think of you as jealous and pathetic.
if you really want to hang onto your man then you have to tolerate the friend and not let your boyfriend know how much you dislike him its as simple as that.
Anonymous
I think you are the one that sounds immature you can't have it your way all the time. You are the one that resents his friend, you probably make it obvious therefore is it any reason that the bloke doesn't like you. So what if his mate wants him to sleep with other girls doesn't mean he won't and if you trust him you should just ignore that.
Maybe it genuinely is the only time his friend can meet him and he'd rather be there than on a crap night out that he won't enjoy at a party with your friends. If he goes out with you now he will only resent you for the rest of xmas. I'd call him back and say he should do whatever makes him happiest and actually try to sound like you mean it.
ALso blokes do have sleepovers you are the one that sounds incredibly jealous. If you can't have it out with him in an adult way then I think that you should split because when it comes down to it you can't be unofficially engaged if you are breaking up and arguing every 2 seconds. Also if you ask him to choose between you and your friend I can 99% guarantee he'd chose the friend thats what I'd do because he'll just think of you as jealous and pathetic.
if you really want to hang onto your man then you have to tolerate the friend and not let your boyfriend know how much you dislike him its as simple as that.
Maybe it genuinely is the only time his friend can meet him and he'd rather be there than on a crap night out that he won't enjoy at a party with your friends. If he goes out with you now he will only resent you for the rest of xmas. I'd call him back and say he should do whatever makes him happiest and actually try to sound like you mean it.
ALso blokes do have sleepovers you are the one that sounds incredibly jealous. If you can't have it out with him in an adult way then I think that you should split because when it comes down to it you can't be unofficially engaged if you are breaking up and arguing every 2 seconds. Also if you ask him to choose between you and your friend I can 99% guarantee he'd chose the friend thats what I'd do because he'll just think of you as jealous and pathetic.
if you really want to hang onto your man then you have to tolerate the friend and not let your boyfriend know how much you dislike him its as simple as that.
Another meaningful post from trigger there. Just bugger off out of this thread if you're gonna talk rubbish.
I said in my second post we got back together after talking.
Spoke to him just now and he said that I was perfectly nice to his friend, he spoke to his friend a while back and he admitted that he was trying to be awkward to me. It's not only the fact he's trying to get my boyfriend to cheat on me, he also says my boyfriend should dump me - this was before we'd even met.
My boyfriend has rearrange when he's going to see his friend, turns out his friend wasn't busy at all so he's seeing him this evening and tomorrow day. I see my boyfriend about twice a week, I don't think it's much to ask for him to not cancel on me for some loser.
My boyfriend is already well aware of how much I can't stand his friend, I asked him as soon as his friend left when I'd met him why he was so rude to me.
I said in my second post we got back together after talking.
Spoke to him just now and he said that I was perfectly nice to his friend, he spoke to his friend a while back and he admitted that he was trying to be awkward to me. It's not only the fact he's trying to get my boyfriend to cheat on me, he also says my boyfriend should dump me - this was before we'd even met.
My boyfriend has rearrange when he's going to see his friend, turns out his friend wasn't busy at all so he's seeing him this evening and tomorrow day. I see my boyfriend about twice a week, I don't think it's much to ask for him to not cancel on me for some loser.
My boyfriend is already well aware of how much I can't stand his friend, I asked him as soon as his friend left when I'd met him why he was so rude to me.
No, I'm not jealous of his friend, that's a ridiculous thing to suggest. I know what jealousy feels like and this isn't it, if it was, believe me I'd say, I'm posting anonymously on an account untraceable to me! I get on well with all his other friends and don't have a problem with him seeing them loads, whether they're male or female. It's just this one friend and that is why I am asking for your help and advice.
Thanks to all who have helped, it has given me something to think about.
Btw when I spoke to him he said he doesn't want to dump me, he was calling my bluff; I have no reason to disbelieve him here.
Thanks to all who have helped, it has given me something to think about.
Btw when I spoke to him he said he doesn't want to dump me, he was calling my bluff; I have no reason to disbelieve him here.
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