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At my new sixth form there is this one guy in 2 of my classes who is very strange and I have to sit next to him, and whenever I go into the classroom and sit down he's always there first and stares at me. I brushed it off, but we had to do partner work in English and when I was writing, I looked at him to say something and he was already staring at me, but he looks scary (in an intimidating way) and I tried to talk to him, but it's as if he didn't hear me, and he just stares back, but the teacher doesn't notice but whenever she walks nearby, he starts writing in his book, so it's kinda awkward... I then thought maybe he's deaf and lip reads, but I dropped my pen one time and he wasn't looking because he was too busy writing, but he went and got my pen and gave it to me, so he's not deaf. I said thanks, and tried to take it but he held on to it, and I said can I have my pen, and he just dropped it on the floor again, and I was like that's not fair, and he just ignored me. Outside class when I see him in the corridors he blocks me from getting past and usually that's when there's not many people around, and I try to walk around him but he gives that creepy smile and stare and when I see it, he just looks away and continues walking down the corridor. I might be over paranoid but also he doodles creepy cartoons of beheading and they're funny cartoons, but looking at his overall creepiness, I just think the cartoons are not meant to be funny or something...http://thestudentroom.co.uk/images/s...new/afraid.gif
Whenever he does speak, it's at weird times, like when i was talking to my friend about whether or not ghosts (if they exist) could be harmful. I said something about them not being able to harm you because otherwise you'd hear a lot about that and I'm not sure whether ghosts really existed or not anyway. After that, I went back to doing my work and he just randomly muttered "don't be too quick to say that." and I said pardon? and he said "nothing". I'm sure he said that, but I got a bit freaked out and I don't know why. I think I'm getting really paranoid! Once I saw him in the local library at the checkout place and he seemed like he didn't see me, so I went to another section (far away from him) in the far corner and hoped he'd get his books and go out, but weirdly enough he took out a book but came back into the library again, and went straight to where I was! I tried to look like I was looking at books and he went right up next to me and it was very awkward and I thought I'd better just go because he's very creepy and makes me feel sick, but he did that blocking thing again! After another few more horrible seconds I ran out of the library (almost literally) and felt sick and upset for the rest of the day. Anyone else know what it feels like? What did you do about it? Am I just being paranoid? He really does look at me creepily, and something else I noticed, he always hangs around after my other lessons (the ones he's not in) and he doesn't have any friends in my class, so what's he doing outside my classes? I don't really have any particular friends I can talk to about it, just random accquaintances, so I just wanted to put it on here because I don't know what to do..
Sorry about the length and I didn't use paragraphs, anyway can anyone tell me what to do?
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Looks like a complete creep.. I think you should stay away from him. He looks like one of those Angsty teenagers prowling the streets nowadays. Try talking to him in a decent manner, if he ignores you then avoid him.
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Do you have to work with him? Why not just sit on the other side of the room, work with other people, ignore him. Tell the teacher not to partner you with him.


If he's still the same despite your efforts to keep away from him, then he obviously as a problem with you for some reason, and that would need sorting.

EDIT: I missed that bit about you having no real friends... do you not have someone even a little bit close who is decent enough to keep anything you confide to him/herself?
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Freak him out. Ask him something like "are you into decapitating ladybugs" and then just stare at him with a vacant look on yout face, try and drool if you can.
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I do have to work with him. Our teachers are strict and I no way want to say that I have a problem with working with him because the teachers already think I'm some sort of depressed person who wants everyone to feel sorry for me, but I'm really not.

People won't take me seriously, they'll just go, oh stop being paranoid, you attention seeker. Other people think he's just quiet and because he's a "super genius", they don't think much of his behaviour as something you wouldn't expect, do you know what I mean?

I have confided in one other person but she just thinks he's a little strange and I shouldn't worry about it because it's nothing... She said to me to try and tell the teachers if I care so much, but what do I say? "Hi Mr/Mrs X, there's a creepy guy who looks at me all the time and co incidentally met me in the library which I thought was very scary" ............ :wtf?: They'll not take me seriously.
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Freak him out. Ask him something like "are you into decapitating ladybugs" and then just stare at him with a vacant look on yout face, try and drool if you can.
lol, as funny as that sounds, I think that would provoke more creepy behaviour from his side. :afraid:
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I do have to work with him. Our teachers are strict and I no way want to say that I have a problem with working with him because the teachers already think I'm some sort of depressed person who wants everyone to feel sorry for me, but I'm really not.

People won't take me seriously, they'll just go, oh stop being paranoid, you attention seeker. Other people think he's just quiet and because he's a "super genius", they don't think much of his behaviour as something you wouldn't expect, do you know what I mean?

I have confided in one other person but she just thinks he's a little strange and I shouldn't worry about it because it's nothing... She said to me to try and tell the teachers if I care so much, but what do I say? "Hi Mr/Mrs X, there's a creepy guy who looks at me all the time and co incidentally met me in the library which I thought was very scary" ............ :wtf?: They'll not take me seriously.
This guy seems like the genuine depressed teenager here.. He probably goes and watches Donnie Darko till 4AM and attracts attention by being weird. He knows that it interests people if he acts that way (Look? he's got your attention). Just avoid him, and if he does the blocking thing again push him out of the way.
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he seems dangerous could you confide in a teacher?
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This guy seems like the genuine depressed teenager here.. He probably goes and watches Donnie Darko till 4AM and attracts attention by being weird. He knows that it interests people if he acts that way (Look? he's got your attention). Just avoid him, and if he does the blocking thing again push him out of the way.
I hope that's true, not that I want him to be depressed or anything, but he doesn't do it to anyone else, from what I've heard, just me... (not in a self centered way)
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It's possible he fancies you. And is a weird guy anyway who is a bit of a creep and has no idea how to deal with the opposite sex (I think you're female from what you've said).
There are plenty of weird creeps who are willing to fancy random people.
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I hope that's true, not that I want him to be depressed or anything, but he doesn't do it to anyone else, from what I've heard, just me... (not in a self centered way)
He probably likes you.
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he seems dangerous could you confide in a teacher?
The problem is, he hasn't done anything worthy of being reported ..yet :afraid:

What do I say?
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Couldn't you just take your teacher to one-side and say that you find him really difficult to work with, and would it be possible to split the two of you up?

Failing that, also check out what other people think of him? just say to one of your accquaintances, "what do think of X? I'm finding him quite hard to get on with, have other people had the same problem with him?"
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just say he is displaying strange behavouir
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It's possible he fancies you. And is a weird guy anyway who is a bit of a creep and has no idea how to deal with the opposite sex (I think you're female from what you've said).
There are plenty of weird creeps who are willing to fancy random people.
http://thestudentroom.co.uk/images/s...new/afraid.gif yeah but it really really really seems like it's more like psycho killer rather than fancy... http://thestudentroom.co.uk/images/s...new/afraid.gif
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http://thestudentroom.co.uk/images/s...new/afraid.gif yeah but it really really really seems like it's more like psycho killer rather than fancy... http://thestudentroom.co.uk/images/s...new/afraid.gif
I know, believe me, to some boys that's a display of affection.
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I know, believe me, to some boys that's a display of affection.
:ditto: Poica is a girl with brains..
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It sounds like what he's doing is genuinely and quite seriously affecting you. If you talk to your teachers they should understand. Tell them it's affecting your concentration and your school work.
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Couldn't you just take your teacher to one-side and say that you find him really difficult to work with, and would it be possible to split the two of you up?

Failing that, also check out what other people think of him? just say to one of your accquaintances, "what do think of X? I'm finding him quite hard to get on with, have other people had the same problem with him?"

OK I'll try so that I don't have to work with him anymore, but I know she'll say "We don't do much partner work anyway, and why do you want to move? You've been fine from what I've seen since the beginning of term.."
Also, my teacher somehow thinks I'll do better sitting next to him because I'm the "weak person" out of the pair... (she puts us in seating plan next to someone who is more clever and can help the other person, and he's dead clever)...

But I'll try to get moved, or get him moved..

I've talked to other people but most guys think he's cool in a weird way, which is sad because it would be a lot better if they found him creepy so what I say is more believable. As I said, he's a genius (so to speak) and people think his slightly odd behaviour is because of his "genius gene" or whatever so just don't think of his strangeness to be of any significance.
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I'm a female btw, and females I've talked to have not got a problem with him, mainly because they ignore him or don't notice him :s:

Also, to the other poster, I haven't got any issues that need to be sorted out between me and him, because he's a complete stranger from the start of term and I didn't do anything to offend him... I think...
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