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Why does he not want to commit?
Boys, I need your help - can you tell me why a guy who is interested in me, doesn't want to commit?
Yes, I know he's after sex, but what is it about - when its more than that, as in we've both admitted we have feelings for each other, we have a great laugh and get on very well. He's told me he doesn't have time for a relationship, which makes me think "Rubbish", as my girly brain says "He'd make time for you".
My question is - why when we have such a great time together does he not want to follow up with a relationship? To me, if i get on with someone and there are reciprocated feelings, then you'd be mad not to see what happens, but he's "just not after a relationship right now".
Yes, I know he's after sex, but what is it about - when its more than that, as in we've both admitted we have feelings for each other, we have a great laugh and get on very well. He's told me he doesn't have time for a relationship, which makes me think "Rubbish", as my girly brain says "He'd make time for you".
My question is - why when we have such a great time together does he not want to follow up with a relationship? To me, if i get on with someone and there are reciprocated feelings, then you'd be mad not to see what happens, but he's "just not after a relationship right now".
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I really just don't get that. I can't understand when you click with someone, why you wouldn't want to see how it develops? Just switching off, liek that!
*cry of pain*
I'm sorry to be blunt but maybe the feelings he has towards you are sexual only. For some guys a relationship is a huge commitment for them as they feel they have less freedom. Best way is to confront him properly about it, tell him your feelings and ask him the real reason for not commiting.
mysteryman
I'm sorry to be blunt but maybe the feelings he has towards you are sexual only. For some guys a relationship is a huge commitment for them as they feel they have less freedom. Best way is to confront him properly about it, tell him your feelings and ask him the real reason for not commiting.
I done that. Reasons are: 1) He's studying whilsts working FT 2) He plays poker every weekend 3) He'd rather ve out having fun with his mates 4) I.e. he is too busy.
History check - we were seeing each other for a bit, then we called it off. I was fine with this, we saw each other randomly and then I realised one night I was seriously head over heels for him and told him unless it was on, then it was off. if that makes sense. Unf I haven't had a connection like this with someone for a long time, and I just feel he's throwing away something that was, and could be, very very good. 
He probably hasn't hit puberty yet.
Just because you have clicked that does not mean you are the only female he likes and gets along with. He probably sees no need for sexual exclusiveness at this point in time and veiws it just like a social interaction + sex.
I have been in the exact same situation recently. Guy says he likes me, I like him, but he has no time for a relationship.
Please, please get out of this now. You have already said you're falling for him. If you carry on seeing him you will only get more and more hurt. You want something that he isn't prepared to give you.
I don't understand people like this, and I wish I did, but it hurts, and I understand what you are going through completely.
You need to sit him down and tell him it's a relationship or nothing. Why should you wait around for him when you seem like a perfectly nice person who deserves better than that?
EDIT: PM me if you want to talk.
Please, please get out of this now. You have already said you're falling for him. If you carry on seeing him you will only get more and more hurt. You want something that he isn't prepared to give you.
I don't understand people like this, and I wish I did, but it hurts, and I understand what you are going through completely.
You need to sit him down and tell him it's a relationship or nothing. Why should you wait around for him when you seem like a perfectly nice person who deserves better than that?
EDIT: PM me if you want to talk.
Sounds like he's just not that into you. He doesn't want to make the time to have a relationship with you (or possibly with anyone).
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