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I'm gay and have been looking for a boyfriend since forever.. I'm just scared that I would approach the wrong person in school.. And all this while all my crushes turn out to be straight!! Its so frustrating.. 
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Reply 1
Go to a George Michael concert.
Reply 3
Re: the George Michael comment..Just cos he's gay doesn't mean he has bad taste in music!!
It's really tough whilst you're still at school to date people of the same sex..well at least I found that. I'm bi but I always end up fancying the straight girls so I sympathise!
There is no one way to detect a gay person especially at a younger age when they may not want to admit or show they are gay because they aren't comfortable with their sexuality yet. I still find it hard to determine sexuality but I can usually tell when someone is interested in me..male or female. Rather than hunting for another gay guy and then going out with him, why don't you look for someone where you feel that there is an attraction on both sides and go from there?
If you want to be a bit more pro-active then maybe find out if there is a local LGBT meet-up, or go to a club which runs a gay night maybe?
Growing up as an alternative sexuality can be a bit tricky so it might make you feel better just to meet and hang out with other gay guys, even if you aren't dating them or whatever it can be nice not to feel like a social leper & to not have to hide anything.
It's really tough whilst you're still at school to date people of the same sex..well at least I found that. I'm bi but I always end up fancying the straight girls so I sympathise!
There is no one way to detect a gay person especially at a younger age when they may not want to admit or show they are gay because they aren't comfortable with their sexuality yet. I still find it hard to determine sexuality but I can usually tell when someone is interested in me..male or female. Rather than hunting for another gay guy and then going out with him, why don't you look for someone where you feel that there is an attraction on both sides and go from there?
If you want to be a bit more pro-active then maybe find out if there is a local LGBT meet-up, or go to a club which runs a gay night maybe?
Growing up as an alternative sexuality can be a bit tricky so it might make you feel better just to meet and hang out with other gay guys, even if you aren't dating them or whatever it can be nice not to feel like a social leper & to not have to hide anything.
Reply 4
stoney
on a more serious note have u tried going to gay clubs etc.?
This isn't surefire. I go to gay clubs every so often but I'm not gay.
It's just nice to spend a night in a place that is fun, good music, nice drinks and chat to some really tolerate and open minded people.
*but I do avoid the 'meat markets' of London be they the normal mostly straight venues or gay ones.
Reply 5
Anonymous
I'm gay and have been looking for a boyfriend since forever.. I'm just scared that I would approach the wrong person in school.. And all this while all my crushes turn out to be straight!! Its so frustrating..
Yo.
Look at the way they look at you. Get talking to them more and see what they're like. Music is sometimes a big give away
Saying that though i like rock so thats nto a give away!Go into a gay pub - they're very welcoming with people. Atmosphere is good and its full of gays
Also notice the way they interact with girls.
Also check if he is eying other blokes up.
Thats all i can think of.
Good luck!!!
Anonymous
I'm gay and have been looking for a boyfriend since forever.. I'm just scared that I would approach the wrong person in school.. And all this while all my crushes turn out to be straight!! Its so frustrating..
Welcome to my world!
I'm pretty much waiting til uni, my school aint that big and the only other gay guy isnt rele my type (im not sure i have a type, i just know that if i do it aint him)
Im lucky tho cos everyone knows but no1 has a prob with it at school, which is cool. although it is a liiiiitle irritating just being known 4 being gay tho, but it does mean that i can push past the lower years in the lunch queue (there has to be some benefits right)
And I'd be careful of gay clubs, I've never been to one cos they kinda scare me a little, the 'gay scene' isnt for everyone. And also you will have to look 18 (or just very good looking, it is a gay club after all!), so pubs could be out of the question for the moment (I guess you're not 18 yet?)
Anyway just try and get through the rest of school/college, it'll get better after that (theoretically lol)
Paddy
Chin up!
Reply 7
I've said it before and I'll say it again- trial by water
Reply 9
Mad Caddie
Is the poster of this thread the same guy who's claimed he's NOT gay in another thread?
It is an anonymous post... there is no way to tell
Reply 10
Flukey
Yo.
Look at the way they look at you. Get talking to them more and see what they're like. Music is sometimes a big give away Saying that though i like rock so thats nto a give away!
Go into a gay pub - they're very welcoming with people. Atmosphere is good and its full of gays
Also notice the way they interact with girls.
Also check if he is eying other blokes up.
Thats all i can think of.
Good luck!!!
Look at the way they look at you. Get talking to them more and see what they're like. Music is sometimes a big give away
Saying that though i like rock so thats nto a give away!Go into a gay pub - they're very welcoming with people. Atmosphere is good and its full of gays
Also notice the way they interact with girls.
Also check if he is eying other blokes up.
Thats all i can think of.
Good luck!!!
What kind of traits would you be looking for? like the interracting with girls...what would a gay man do? and i think many guys like pop and rock and stuff and they're not gay.
Reply 13
I sympathise with the thread starter!
Although I'm out in school (and there's also a healthy amount of other gays in the school), I haven't found anyone nice yet. There was a straight lad back in year 9, but that's a whole different ball game...
I'm 17 now, never had a bf and it's getting a bit ridiculous. When I do go out on the gay scene (now and again), I have a good time, but it's too bitchy and cliqey for my liking. I don't know whether I'm just picky, or that I'm having really bad luck, or I need to wait until uni, or what. All I'd like is a normal, down-to-earth teenage gay lad to have a laugh with who isn't incredibly shallow/stupid: is it too much to ask for?!
ALSO, how frustrating is it to see all the gorgous lads in your year having fun with girls etc? Talk about 'you can look but can't touch'... Aggrh!!
Our time will come, I'm sure
Although I'm out in school (and there's also a healthy amount of other gays in the school), I haven't found anyone nice yet. There was a straight lad back in year 9, but that's a whole different ball game...
I'm 17 now, never had a bf and it's getting a bit ridiculous. When I do go out on the gay scene (now and again), I have a good time, but it's too bitchy and cliqey for my liking. I don't know whether I'm just picky, or that I'm having really bad luck, or I need to wait until uni, or what. All I'd like is a normal, down-to-earth teenage gay lad to have a laugh with who isn't incredibly shallow/stupid: is it too much to ask for?!
ALSO, how frustrating is it to see all the gorgous lads in your year having fun with girls etc? Talk about 'you can look but can't touch'... Aggrh!!
Our time will come, I'm sure
Marcus-B
I sympathise with the thread starter!
Although I'm out in school (and there's also a healthy amount of other gays in the school), I haven't found anyone nice yet. There was a straight lad back in year 9, but that's a whole different ball game...
I'm 17 now, never had a bf and it's getting a bit ridiculous. When I do go out on the gay scene (now and again), I have a good time, but it's too bitchy and cliqey for my liking. I don't know whether I'm just picky, or that I'm having really bad luck, or I need to wait until uni, or what. All I'd like is a normal, down-to-earth teenage gay lad to have a laugh with who isn't incredibly shallow/stupid: is it too much to ask for?!
ALSO, how frustrating is it to see all the gorgous lads in your year having fun with girls etc? Talk about 'you can look but can't touch'... Aggrh!!
Our time will come, I'm sure
Although I'm out in school (and there's also a healthy amount of other gays in the school), I haven't found anyone nice yet. There was a straight lad back in year 9, but that's a whole different ball game...
I'm 17 now, never had a bf and it's getting a bit ridiculous. When I do go out on the gay scene (now and again), I have a good time, but it's too bitchy and cliqey for my liking. I don't know whether I'm just picky, or that I'm having really bad luck, or I need to wait until uni, or what. All I'd like is a normal, down-to-earth teenage gay lad to have a laugh with who isn't incredibly shallow/stupid: is it too much to ask for?!
ALSO, how frustrating is it to see all the gorgous lads in your year having fun with girls etc? Talk about 'you can look but can't touch'... Aggrh!!
Our time will come, I'm sure
Well at least there are gay peeps in your school, the only other gay guy in my school is really starting to creep me out. Meh I've never really had a proper bf, but just do what I do and pray to God that school ends soon.
I'm sure we'll look back in years to come and realise that thses are magical times (or some other bullcrap).
Paddy
Reply 15
I believe the expression is "The best days of your life" OK then...
OK then...Anonymous
I'm gay and have been looking for a boyfriend since forever.. I'm just scared that I would approach the wrong person in school.. And all this while all my crushes turn out to be straight!! Its so frustrating..
Go to a Gay Bar!!!!
Makes me wana type the lyrics out to that Electric six song, but that might look abit mean on you so i wont
Reply 18
puppy
I've said it before and I'll say it again- trial by water
**Shocked**
Surely your not suggesting peeing on someone ?
**Shocked**
Reply 19
Gay Bars ain't the greatest way to meet other gay people... for a start, loads of straight people go just for a laugh and because they might have a gay mate so you can't ensure that the person you try it on with is gonna be gay or bi, but then again I suppose a straight person would be less "put off" if you came onto them in a gay bar than a straight one. And they're most probably more likely to be accepting.
But anyway, even in the jump from school to college I found it easier to spot gay or bi people, I mean as you grow people tend to become more open about it. I know myself that once I came out in college it came as a starting block for a lot of my mates who I knew were gay but hadn't come out.
Basically just don't go too far until you're pretty sure they're into you and wait. The older a person is the more likely they are to have come to terms with and be comfortable with their sexuality, I mean I knew I was gay from a young age but was only felt pretty comfortable with it recently
You'll get there eventually, and it is frustrating and annoying but it's the same for everyone!
But anyway, even in the jump from school to college I found it easier to spot gay or bi people, I mean as you grow people tend to become more open about it. I know myself that once I came out in college it came as a starting block for a lot of my mates who I knew were gay but hadn't come out.
Basically just don't go too far until you're pretty sure they're into you and wait. The older a person is the more likely they are to have come to terms with and be comfortable with their sexuality, I mean I knew I was gay from a young age but was only felt pretty comfortable with it recently
You'll get there eventually, and it is frustrating and annoying but it's the same for everyone!
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