just wantd advice

anna123

well basically,
theres this guy at work i really like. and we text and stuff but hes going back to uni after christmas and i really want something 2 happen before he goes. i dont want a serious relationship or anything, id just like 2 see him more when he comes to see his family and stuff. shall i ask him out somewhere after work tomorrow night? as its xmas eve? spread the love!!

So you want a fling? :eek:

Just go for it, i doubt any guy would say no :rolleyes:

Reply 4

anna123

well basically,
theres this guy at work i really like. and we text and stuff but hes going back to uni after christmas and i really want something 2 happen before he goes. i dont want a serious relationship or anything, id just like 2 see him more when he comes to see his family and stuff. shall i ask him out somewhere after work tomorrow night? as its xmas eve? spread the love!!

So you just want a pointless shag???
What if he ends up wanting more??? or if he has a girlfriend back at uni???

Reply 5

ask him if he wants to hang out before he goes back like going for a drink or something and see what happens there is always the phone and emails and mail and text and loads of means of communicating with each other,
or just go for a drink intentionally to ask him, be honest and tell him how you feel

theres no harm in a fling!
its better then the pain of long distance stuff

Reply 6

Laursy

theres no harm in a fling, its better then the pain of long distance stuff

But say due to this fling her feelings for him become stronger???
Then the pain of the long distance stuff would increase you see

Reply 7

emilyemily

MNBStyle

But say due to this fling her feelings for him become stronger???
Then the pain of the long distance stuff would increase you see

That's true.

I say go for it, but make sure you realise that you might change your mind about wanting a relationship. Also make sure he understands exactly where he stands.

Reply 8

lorrybeep

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go get yourself a 'love actually' dvd

you'll know how to do it

Reply 9

But say due to this fling her feelings for him become stronger???
Then the pain of the long distance stuff would increase you see

ive had long distance fling once kind of fling kind of realtionship etc and it just didn;t work out for other reasons yer it was hard but it didnt work out for not that reason

Reply 10

Laursy

ive had long distance fling once kind of fling kind of realtionship etc and it just didn;t work out for other reasons yer it was hard but it didnt work out for not that reason

That didnt really answer my question, but ok :p:

Reply 11

yer if the feelings got stronger then surely they would dicuss weather they want relationships like adults, and work it out the chances are the guy may feel sometheing as well to carry on with the fling

unless he is totally heartless and nasty!!

Reply 12

Laursy

yer if the feelings got stronger then surely they would dicuss weather they want relationships like adults,

Thats not going to make the long distance pain any easier :p:

Reply 13

i know that but then again you would have thought about what if it goes wrong its going to hurt bad and still go through with it

like they say its better to have loved then never loved at all or somthing like that!!

i would think giving it a try is the best option!! if thats what you really want to do!!

Reply 14

Laursy

i know that but then again you would have thought about what if it goes wrong its going to hurt bad and still go through with it

You would be surprised at how many people dont think about it thoe before hand.
You know all that going with the flow thing :rolleyes:

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