I'm self-conscious about the way I talk

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I know this may appear a whingey kind of problem, but I do sometimes get self-conscious about the way I talk.

I HATE the Liverpool acent with a passion, and long to talk more 'Southern'. Not only do I think it sounds much nicer, I do think that people take you more seriously / show you more respect if you talk nicely. I know this shouldn't be the case, but I think it's true.

I don't consider myself to have a 'strong' scouse accent (people I know say I don't have one at all), but that's because these are people who are used to hearing the accent all the time in their home city. I find once I step outside the city, people say 'ohh, you're from Liverpool' and it really annoys/even upsets me.

I then find myself consciously trying to talk better which makes me feel awkward because a) it doesn't sound right and b) I don't think it allows me to get accross my personality.

I'm kinda not looking forward to going to uni because there will be a lot of people who do talk nicely, and I want the accent to match any intelligence I have! I've heard students say that after a few terms in a good uni, you end up talking like that anyway, but at the moment it's just bugging me.

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If you're going to a uni where people 'talk nicely' as you put it, your accent will probably become more 'neutral' quite quickly.
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(Original post by Marcus-B)
I know this may appear a whingey kind of problem, but I do sometimes get self-conscious about the way I talk.

I HATE the Liverpool acent with a passion, and long to talk more 'Southern'. Not only do I think it sounds much nicer, I do think that people take you more seriously / show you more respect if you talk nicely. I know this shouldn't be the case, but I think it's true.

I don't consider myself to have a 'strong' scouse accent (people I know say I don't have one at all), but that's because these are people who are used to hearing the accent all the time in their home city. I find once I step outside the city, people say 'ohh, you're from Liverpool' and it really annoys/even upsets me.

I then find myself consciously trying to talk better which makes me feel awkward because a) it doesn't sound right and b) I don't think it allows me to get accross my personality.

I'm kinda not looking forward to going to uni because there will be a lot of people who do talk nicely, and I want the accent to match any intelligence I have! I've heard students say that after a few terms in a good uni, you end up talking like that anyway, but at the moment it's just bugging me.

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It's not a problem- it's just you're shallow :p: . So, sorry- i have no suggestions!
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and I want the accent to match any intelligence I have!
Why??? Anyone who judges you based on your accent rather than your intelligence doesn't deserve your friendship anyway..
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That's another point. In general, people don't judge others on their accent anyway... of course there are exceptions, but there are exceptions to everything.
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Thanks for words of comfort

I know it's pretty shallow of me, just a niggling concern though

Oh, and there's another thing: I also talk *slightly* camp, which probably doesn't boost my confidence in the talking stakes either
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liverpool accent isnt that bad
i thought the southern accent's quite annoying..especially the low-end cockney accent..
the one goes ' yah? %$#%$#^ ya? %#%$#[email protected] yah? ' just tells me they are high school drop outs.

anyway back to you, if you want the Queen accent, go hang out with the people that have it.
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Elocution.
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Thanks for words of comfort

I know it's pretty shallow of me, just a niggling concern though

Oh, and there's another thing: I also talk *slightly* camp, which probably doesn't boost my confidence in the talking stakes either
I doubt people really notice.
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Don't worry Marcus-B. I think the scouse accent is really very sexy on guys.

I wouldn't judge someone based on their accent, and anyone who does isn't worth the time of day
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only the shallowest of people will think badly of you becuase of how you talk,

im not particualry posh and i am common as muck as they say today i got called a chav as i don;t tak poshly,
i just talked common even worse after they said that i am not changing something that is me to suit other people,
you shouldnt have to people get used to accents really quickly and sometimes like having mates with different accents!!
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Oh, and there's another thing: I also talk *slightly* camp, which probably doesn't boost my confidence in the talking stakes either
Same as i said before, anyone whos going to judge you based on if you talk abit camp, doesn't deserve your friendship.
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I'm from Liverpool. I have friends with all varying degrees of accent and i treat them all as individuals. i wouldn't worry.
If anything, a slight scouse accent is fairly fashionable these days...
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When you get to Uni there will be people from all over the country and all over the world and they will have more interesting things to think about than your accent. Everyone's accents kind of blend together anyway.
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That's another point. In general, people don't judge others on their accent anyway... of course there are exceptions, but there are exceptions to everything.

people do get judged by their accents and the way that they speak in most aspects of life. People judge other people on areas that they live, on their names... On anything....

But the main thing is, other people will judge things differently,
Just what is the set of people 'marcus B' is most wanting to impress anyway?
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But the main thing is, other people will judge things differently,
Just what is the set of people 'marcus B' is most wanting to impress anyway?
Right you are there El Scotto. Rep. for you !!

Why do u have to really be bothered I dont know, but if you want it changed then you can, all you have to do is think about it and keep it in your mind all the time you are having a conversation with yourself or anyone else
Try to focus on the accent you like the most and eventaullay get the hang of it, just like that!!
Even i used to be bothered about my accent and well, it keeps on varying all the time :p: . So really, you can change it whenever you want to whatever you like, not that hard is it?
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people do get judged by their accents and the way that they speak in most aspects of life. People judge other people on areas that they live, on their names... On anything...
Well yeah, what I really meant is that most people don't judge others on accent in particular. If you want others to judge you differently, you'll have to change more than just your accent.

And like I said, it doesn't take long to change your accent. When I was younger my accent changed depending on who I was with. If I was with my mum I would speak how I do now (quite well spoken). If I was with my mates I would talk more like a farmer. If I was with my dad my accent would be 'toned down' a bit (eg I would say 'glass' instead or 'glarss' and 'cassle' instead of 'carsle'), because he's northern. Of course it wasn't something I did on purpose.
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You should be proud that you have such a nice accent! People sometimes judge though, however shallow it may seem, at least at first. Before I went to uni I'd never heard most northern regional accents spoken face to face and we should celebrate this unique diversity that our country has.

As for the 'camp' thing? Just be yourself, whatever you sound like/however you speak, dont try to be something you're not, its absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
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Right you are there El Scotto. Rep. for you !!

wow, my second bit of rep ever that'd be... (apart from neg rep!)

I think theres more important things to worry about than accent though,
BUT I am guilty of changing mine depending on the target audience of whom I'm speaking to,

If I'm being interviewed for anything by anyone upperclass, I'll totally correct up my language and use my best public-school accent!

Changing your dialect/accent can be a very useful tool in making people feel comfortable around you for trust gaining and all that sort of stuff...
from anything from sales to counselling.

Anyone half worth their salt, wont care what you sound like though so remember that.
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^ Ditto
I can speak Arabic and I know almost all the dialects, which always comes in handy as it makes the other people comfortable around me and vice versa
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