Worried about my friend

I feel like my best friend and I are growing apart and I don't like it. Basically what happened is she met this guy at a club about 3 months ago, they pulled, swapped numbers, and then he would call her really randomly after that, I'm talking like once every 3 weeks just out of the blue and they'd have long chats and stuff.

Well anyway, he's always been saying to her that they should meet up and she's been quite keen to, and he's always been blowing her off but finally on thursday they met up and went out for a drink ya da ya da. Afterwards they were kissing in the street AND she was like putting her hands down his trousers etc IN THE STREET! He went back to her house and they basically did everything except full on penetrative sex.

When she told me I was REALLY shocked cos the furthest she's been with a guy is giving him a handjob, and she says what she did with this guy on thursday was wonderful and that she doesn't regret it at all. But it was the second time she met up with him, and she hardly knew him at all, and I just have this gut feeling that he's using her. When she asked him when she was going to see him again he just said 'I dunno - probably when I'm next on holiday (he's at uni in another part of the country and she's still at school) - but the time will fly by' but to me that just sounds like he's in it for the hanky panky. She's completely infatuated with him and I just can't seem to get her to see sense. Am I being unreasonable in thinking he's no good for her?

Reply 1

Mrs_F

15

Not at all. You have your friend's best interests at heart but being at the age she is, she won't listen to a word anyone says. He might be good for her, but then again he probably isn't but sadly there isn't much you can do. You have just got to let her learn from her mistakes, and be there for her at the end of it, if and when it all goes pear shaped.

Reply 2

spoon1

13

Thanks for the advice. I'd just really hate to see her get hurt. She also says that he never texts her, only calls her 'cos he has free minutes', which I would have thought was a big flashing sign that he's no good!

Reply 3

Profesh

20

lynseyweth

Not at all. You have your friend's best interests at heart but being at the age she is, she won't listen to a word anyone says. He might be good for her, but then again he probably isn't but sadly there isn't much you can do. You have just got to let her learn from her mistakes, and be there for her at the end of it, if and when it all goes pear shaped.

Seconded.

Reply 4

Mrs_F

15

Lol, yeah but we all go through the "love is blind" phase, and no one can talk us out of it. She won't realise until she does get hurt, and if you try and say otherwise she will no doubt turn against you for saying anything bad about this "fabulous person". The best thing to do is let her get on with it, she gets hurt at the end of it, and you are there for her to get her over it.

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