Anxiety experiences and support
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I think I have got this problem to, when I started secondary school I could easily do presentations, speeches etc easily with being the. Suddenly in year 9,10,11 i was stuttering, shaking and sweating. Also in class I get nervous in class when a teacher is about a question and get nervous putting my hand up. I simply want a solution to this, I'm going to a level and will be expected to do presentations. How can I be less self conscious and be more laid back and not care about what anybody thinks.
Original post by Trottoir
do unis provide good student support?
I assume it will be decent, I haven't used it before though.
Original post by Anonymous
I like many also suffer from social anxiety, I figured this out myself using the Internet but was them confirmed by my doctor. It was terrible at one point and wouldn't even walk the streets alone during the light hours because I always thought people were staring at me. It also made me uncomfortable at school during presentations and my retail job at Asda.
I was offered CBT and went to a couple of sessions, but it wasn't for me. I felt different and silly and didn't think it would help, so I quit. I then spent a long time on JSA, whilst looking for an apprenticeship in Admin as I never felt confident enough to go to University. I think I basically realised that while ever I am living in this anxious/scared bubble I would never get anywhere. So I threw myself into the deep end, walked to work and did the job. The worst part was answering the phones and feeling like I was been watched as I work. I always felt on edge at work and rarely relaxed, especially if my boss was in. After a year working in admin I hated it !! It wasn't for me, and I felt saddened that the job I really wanted, I didn't feel I could do.
However I have joined college to complete an Access course to hopefully go on and study Adult Nursing at Uni. I am pretty proud of myself (as sad as this may sound). I have managed to pick myself up big time. I also start a new job at Next next week so it is all change for me, and all petrifying too, but it has to be done !
I still get anxious and I know at work I will feel the same as I have at all my other jobs but I hope in time I'll become more confident at my workplace.
One question I do have is... Does anyone who suffers experience dramatic mood change quickly. One minute I can feel confident, happy and content and then say for example when I got a call saying I have the job at Next can I go for an induction, I instantly feel scared, lonely and uneasy. How can I control this ?
Thanks in advance and sorry for waffling!
I was offered CBT and went to a couple of sessions, but it wasn't for me. I felt different and silly and didn't think it would help, so I quit. I then spent a long time on JSA, whilst looking for an apprenticeship in Admin as I never felt confident enough to go to University. I think I basically realised that while ever I am living in this anxious/scared bubble I would never get anywhere. So I threw myself into the deep end, walked to work and did the job. The worst part was answering the phones and feeling like I was been watched as I work. I always felt on edge at work and rarely relaxed, especially if my boss was in. After a year working in admin I hated it !! It wasn't for me, and I felt saddened that the job I really wanted, I didn't feel I could do.
However I have joined college to complete an Access course to hopefully go on and study Adult Nursing at Uni. I am pretty proud of myself (as sad as this may sound). I have managed to pick myself up big time. I also start a new job at Next next week so it is all change for me, and all petrifying too, but it has to be done !
I still get anxious and I know at work I will feel the same as I have at all my other jobs but I hope in time I'll become more confident at my workplace.
One question I do have is... Does anyone who suffers experience dramatic mood change quickly. One minute I can feel confident, happy and content and then say for example when I got a call saying I have the job at Next can I go for an induction, I instantly feel scared, lonely and uneasy. How can I control this ?
Thanks in advance and sorry for waffling!
I can relate to everything you wrote, except I don't have social anxiety, Ijust have anxiety.
I also do get the dramatic changes of mood: one day I'm elated and feel like i can conquer the world then dramatically I will feel like the world is a big scary dark place.
I have been reading through this thread and I realise one thing: we all felt the exact same thing and we interpret situations in the same way. It's crazy how one can feel that we're alone, but everyone with the condition is feeling it. It makes me feel kind of...better? I kinda think to myself: wow it really is just in our heads.
Hi all,
I posted here in January about my failed attempt to get help for anxiety in January and I think I'm going to try again when I start back at uni. I don't know whether to go to student support or to the GP. What I want is someone with experience of my specific problem (assuming I'm not the only one in the world) to help me with ways to cope so that it affects my academic work the smallest possible amount. Would a student support counsellor be the right person or should I talk to a GP do you think?
The problems I'm having, and have been having since childhood, are that lots of things (some pretty trivial and some actually important) make me panic, sometimes leaving me in a panicky state for a day at a time, and I get scared to deal with them or think about them afterwards in case they cause panic again. I also get scared to deal with things that I think might cause panic, for example last year I was terrified to check an essay deadline in case it was earlier than I'd thought. Which is really stupid but believe me I get like that about even sillier things. I also have anxiety about using phones which has improved quite a lot in recent years but weirdly it's sort of transferred itself onto using email (I don't know why!)
So does anyone have any advice about who would be best to see?
I posted here in January about my failed attempt to get help for anxiety in January and I think I'm going to try again when I start back at uni. I don't know whether to go to student support or to the GP. What I want is someone with experience of my specific problem (assuming I'm not the only one in the world) to help me with ways to cope so that it affects my academic work the smallest possible amount. Would a student support counsellor be the right person or should I talk to a GP do you think?
The problems I'm having, and have been having since childhood, are that lots of things (some pretty trivial and some actually important) make me panic, sometimes leaving me in a panicky state for a day at a time, and I get scared to deal with them or think about them afterwards in case they cause panic again. I also get scared to deal with things that I think might cause panic, for example last year I was terrified to check an essay deadline in case it was earlier than I'd thought. Which is really stupid but believe me I get like that about even sillier things. I also have anxiety about using phones which has improved quite a lot in recent years but weirdly it's sort of transferred itself onto using email (I don't know why!)
So does anyone have any advice about who would be best to see?
Original post by Anonymous
One question I do have is... Does anyone who suffers experience dramatic mood change quickly. One minute I can feel confident, happy and content and then say for example when I got a call saying I have the job at Next can I go for an induction, I instantly feel scared, lonely and uneasy. How can I control this ?
Thanks in advance and sorry for waffling!
One question I do have is... Does anyone who suffers experience dramatic mood change quickly. One minute I can feel confident, happy and content and then say for example when I got a call saying I have the job at Next can I go for an induction, I instantly feel scared, lonely and uneasy. How can I control this ?
Thanks in advance and sorry for waffling!
You sound EXACTLY! like me, if you find any solutions, let me know :P. One minute I'm happy and excited over something, the next I feel moody, low & I'm blaming everyone for my unknown caused misery
Original post by n'entendspluslamusique
Hi all,
I posted here in January about my failed attempt to get help for anxiety in January and I think I'm going to try again when I start back at uni. I don't know whether to go to student support or to the GP. What I want is someone with experience of my specific problem (assuming I'm not the only one in the world) to help me with ways to cope so that it affects my academic work the smallest possible amount. Would a student support counsellor be the right person or should I talk to a GP do you think?
So does anyone have any advice about who would be best to see?
I posted here in January about my failed attempt to get help for anxiety in January and I think I'm going to try again when I start back at uni. I don't know whether to go to student support or to the GP. What I want is someone with experience of my specific problem (assuming I'm not the only one in the world) to help me with ways to cope so that it affects my academic work the smallest possible amount. Would a student support counsellor be the right person or should I talk to a GP do you think?
So does anyone have any advice about who would be best to see?
Hi there. I have been to the GP at aged 18 because I could not take it anymore. I hated how in a shell I was. I went to a few CBT sessions (2 to be exact) and they suggested that I come to a group session meeting as part of feeling more confident. Of course at that DAUNTING thought, along came the fight or flight response, as the anxiety kicked in - the flight won over, again.
I could not go to the cinema and ask for a ticket, I could not order in a restaurant, I had phobias of banks, post offices, libraries. (I still feeel like that now). My BIGGEST help for me was REALISING THAT ITS ALL IN YOUR HEAD!!!!! You need to push yourself in to the deep end, throw yourself in to your fear. It's what I did & I gotten A LOT better with social things. I started exercising more & feeling more confident in myself. But at times I feel SO LOW. I am 21 now, I am at University & it has taken some time to get here due to my anxiety. I was feeling pretty much low during second year and found myself booking in with one of University's counsellors, I went to about 3 sessions with her before the Term ended for summer. It made me feel a lot better. They use the same methods as the GP. (CBT, exercises) etc. So it does not matter which one you use really.
Have you ever heard of the phrase "Feel The Fear & Do It Anyway" It's a book that my counsellor advised me to read. I found it quite **** and obvious if I am honest so I skim read it. Basically, it's all about positive thinking. If you like reading though it could be for you. It has great reviews. Hope this helped
p.s I find exercise helps a lot, & shopping :P
Went to London yesterday. Had the usual bad sleep the night before, the upset tummy the morning of, feeling grumpy and nervous about it all. Got into London and had a fantastic day, only had a couple of minutes really out of the whole day where I'd say my anxiety reared it's ugly head.
I can do these things, I know that I can and I prove that I can regularly, but I don't believe that I can. It's so stupid.
Hoping to possibly go up to London again next Thursday with my BF, sister and her fiance and hopefully I'll remember yesterday and not get so stressed about it...
I can do these things, I know that I can and I prove that I can regularly, but I don't believe that I can. It's so stupid.
Hoping to possibly go up to London again next Thursday with my BF, sister and her fiance and hopefully I'll remember yesterday and not get so stressed about it...
I think ive started suffering with anxiety, i keep feeling really light headed and feel off balance and i often break down, im off to uni in a week and im so scared that it wont go, but my mums told me i have to face going or it'll eat me up, im hoping when i get there that ill feel better :/ but im not sure ive heard that some people suffer bad for years and im scared thats going to be me :/ I'm thinking of just sitting down with a friend and just telling them everything on my mind, even if i do break into tears. i dont feel stressed out but my mums said ive got a big move coming up and a huge change in my life but :/ hmmm, anyone else suffering the way i am?
I have had really bad anxiety with going for eye tests. After receiving a letter every six months as a reminder since February 2011 I have took the courage and booked an appointment for Monday. Shaking already but know the test will be over before I know it.
I definitely feel I have developed as a person. So happy with myself. Hated wearing glasses now I kinda like them. Excited to get new ones. I look better too with my new clothes. Honestly don't know what has happened for me to overcome my anxieties. Just gonna ignore any automatic fear if any occurs until Monday.
I definitely feel I have developed as a person. So happy with myself. Hated wearing glasses now I kinda like them. Excited to get new ones. I look better too with my new clothes. Honestly don't know what has happened for me to overcome my anxieties. Just gonna ignore any automatic fear if any occurs until Monday.
Original post by Flyinghearts
I have anxiety. It's mostly social anxiety - e.g. being in a situation where I have to talk in a group (Whether in a seminar, social event etc), on the phone, one on one with someone I'm not extremely close to etc. I just start to panic and then avoid the situation completely, only making it worse because I've created this dreaded idea in my head that actually facing the anxiety will be the end of the world. I thought I was just shy at first but it's definitely not that, it's a lot more severe.
I haven't really done anything about it because I intentionally avoid things that will provoke this social anxiety... so I generally spend a lot of time in my room, and I don't have depression or anything similar so I feel ok and therefore don't feel like there's a problem. It's only when I face a change of routine (a more recent example - getting a job) that panics me, causes anxiety, and makes me feel like I'm a failure when I can't face the world and want to hide in my comfort zone again where I feel content and away from the horrible gut feeling that anxiety brings. That's when I feel really down and helpless.
My first year at uni was absolutely awful because of this. I lived with 7 other people, and at first I made an effort to socialise with them because I wanted to change and break away from this isolated lifestyle that held me back for so long. I gradually started going in my room for longer periods of time though, avoiding conversation (especially with the guys - I find that it's harder for me to speak to guys) in the kitchen area and only going out to see my friends who I was comfortable around. It got so bad that at one point I hardly ate because I didn't want to go into the kitchen, since I have a thing about exiting rooms/conversations and can't find the right time to leave, so I'd have to stay in there and couldn't face it. The longer I avoided social situations, the harder it was to try and break the habit since I felt like people were forming close bonds without me and it was too late to change my ways. I felt like a complete failure.
Anyway, I'm just so fed up with this anxiety now. I want to change but I have tried so many times before and I can't break free of this horrible situation. I've tried counselling. It's hard though since I generally bottle my emotions up and don't talk about how much the anxiety has affected me. So when I do talk about it, I feel like I'm not putting across how much it has actually affected my life, because I always try to remain calm and 'normal' to people. I also tried a self confidence group thing, which did change some of my thinking patterns but the sessions were with about 6 other people and once I started to familiarise myself with them I closed off and couldn't really talk in depth about my issues.
The only other things I can think of are CBT and medication. So I went to my doctor today, just a second away from tears because of how nervous I was. I'd never spoken about my anxiety specifically before, since past counselling was for my depression in earlier years. Anyway, I told him about my anxiety and it was awful. He made me feel like anxiety was a trivial phase that I was having and that it would go away soon enough. Even though I tried my hardest to let him know how much it was affecting my life. But no treatment was offered, just advice that I needed to do it myself and change myself. Just felt like what's the point any more?
Not sure why I posted this - I think it's more a rant than anything. I'm fed up of keeping my feelings in. I guess I'm scared, my social anxiety leaves me frightened to do anything for fear of judgement from others. But I'm tired. I'm tired of feeling so alone with this. It's ruining my life.
I haven't really done anything about it because I intentionally avoid things that will provoke this social anxiety... so I generally spend a lot of time in my room, and I don't have depression or anything similar so I feel ok and therefore don't feel like there's a problem. It's only when I face a change of routine (a more recent example - getting a job) that panics me, causes anxiety, and makes me feel like I'm a failure when I can't face the world and want to hide in my comfort zone again where I feel content and away from the horrible gut feeling that anxiety brings. That's when I feel really down and helpless.
My first year at uni was absolutely awful because of this. I lived with 7 other people, and at first I made an effort to socialise with them because I wanted to change and break away from this isolated lifestyle that held me back for so long. I gradually started going in my room for longer periods of time though, avoiding conversation (especially with the guys - I find that it's harder for me to speak to guys) in the kitchen area and only going out to see my friends who I was comfortable around. It got so bad that at one point I hardly ate because I didn't want to go into the kitchen, since I have a thing about exiting rooms/conversations and can't find the right time to leave, so I'd have to stay in there and couldn't face it. The longer I avoided social situations, the harder it was to try and break the habit since I felt like people were forming close bonds without me and it was too late to change my ways. I felt like a complete failure.
Anyway, I'm just so fed up with this anxiety now. I want to change but I have tried so many times before and I can't break free of this horrible situation. I've tried counselling. It's hard though since I generally bottle my emotions up and don't talk about how much the anxiety has affected me. So when I do talk about it, I feel like I'm not putting across how much it has actually affected my life, because I always try to remain calm and 'normal' to people. I also tried a self confidence group thing, which did change some of my thinking patterns but the sessions were with about 6 other people and once I started to familiarise myself with them I closed off and couldn't really talk in depth about my issues.
The only other things I can think of are CBT and medication. So I went to my doctor today, just a second away from tears because of how nervous I was. I'd never spoken about my anxiety specifically before, since past counselling was for my depression in earlier years. Anyway, I told him about my anxiety and it was awful. He made me feel like anxiety was a trivial phase that I was having and that it would go away soon enough. Even though I tried my hardest to let him know how much it was affecting my life. But no treatment was offered, just advice that I needed to do it myself and change myself. Just felt like what's the point any more?
Not sure why I posted this - I think it's more a rant than anything. I'm fed up of keeping my feelings in. I guess I'm scared, my social anxiety leaves me frightened to do anything for fear of judgement from others. But I'm tired. I'm tired of feeling so alone with this. It's ruining my life.
I've been feeling exactly like you for about six years(i'm now 18 and begin university in a few weeks). In highschool I was treated badly and I began to limit my exposure to the bullies by cutting myself off from everyone. I'd go to the library and just stay there or stand a bit further away and just think to myself. Back then I thought I was just a more reserved person and I was happy in my own company just thinking to myself..It made me calm. I also began to realise I couldn't talk to strangers or people in groups, my chest would tighten, my voice would become higher pitched and I'd twitch and shake in some situations. I can't even speak to friends most of the time if a stranger who I feel is intimidating is there(girls affect much more than fellow guys- opposite of you
). The GP is telling you it'll pass with time right? Well that's what I've been thinking for the past few years, the worst thing is..there's a good chance it'll get worse. I don't think you made it clear to him you have social anxiety disorder, he just thinks it's a shyness phase. I finally found that what I was feeling had a proper name and I found a page on the NHS site and found that all the symptoms fit me perfectly so I decided I would see a GP. Working myself up to it was kinda hard but I was just so tired of feeling like life was passing me by. Anyway, I phoned up and set up a meeting with a GP last month, during which I told her how I was so anxious all the time- how I even tense up passing total strangers in the street and I think everyone is thinking badly of me. While talking the anxiety kicked in and I started breathing heavily but I just talked much more slowly- making sure I breathed more. The GP then set up a meeting for me with a mental health clinic which I went to, and i'm now on the waiting list for cbt on the NHS.
I'd tell you to meet a local GP and just let out everything. You're really lucky you've found out about the help available so early in your life, and I believe me- there are so many people waaaaaay worse than you. People like me and you have HAD to struggle through uni, college and things like walking through busy highstreets on a daily basis but many lock themselves away, and the anxiety just gets worse and worse to the point they can't even walk out the door. Get help ASAP and put your ALL into all the homework you get. I feel like I have lost time and I know the first year of uni- maybe the second and third will be a struggle but i'm looking forward to the future more.
Original post by Flyinghearts
Thanks for replying. I know how you feel since I spent most of my days at school alone in the library! It wasn't nice but I just got used to it and accepted my anxiety as part of who I was. Didn't think I could change it.
You're right, I'll probably see a GP at uni since I've never had CBT before and that sounds like it could help a lot. Have you ever taken medication for your anxiety by the way? Just curious since I have no idea about whether it helps a lot or not. I'll try and force myself into social situations which scare me but at times it's easier said than done. I just need to break out of the habits I get into (mostly avoiding things and staying in a place where I feel calm and away from people), since it's better to do something now rather than let it get worse.
I know how you feel since I spent most of my days at school alone in the library! It wasn't nice but I just got used to it and accepted my anxiety as part of who I was. Didn't think I could change it.You're right, I'll probably see a GP at uni since I've never had CBT before and that sounds like it could help a lot. Have you ever taken medication for your anxiety by the way? Just curious since I have no idea about whether it helps a lot or not. I'll try and force myself into social situations which scare me but at times it's easier said than done. I just need to break out of the habits I get into (mostly avoiding things and staying in a place where I feel calm and away from people), since it's better to do something now rather than let it get worse.
No problem! It's so nice seeing others who have the same problems.
Yeah, I hope CBT does help. I've heard they give you tips to cope with the situations and then work on reprogramming your brain so your brain learns that these situations are nothing to be scared of. SOO looking forward to the effects but I know it could be a while before I see changes..uni would be the perfect place to try out their tips too.
And you're speaking to the king of hiding away lol, these past two months I've spent like 90% of my time on my bed with this laptop.
Medication seems REALLY BAD. It seems like a quick fix.
1) From what i've read online it makes you super tired, dramatically reduces you attention span. Many people who take it even struggle to do things like daily chores and doing uni work would be near impossible. However I've also seen youtube videos of people who say they've had none of these effects.
2) Coming off it will be like coming off drugs like heroin. Even though the GP will slowly ease you off it by starting to reduce your doses. These drugs seem to mess up so many lives(search ssri withdrawals on youtube).
3) It is a quick fix...you come off it and you're back to the old you.
BUT idk i'm just a guy who spend his life on youtube :P
Original post by Flyinghearts
I've never spoken to anyone else with anxiety problems before, so it's nice to know that there are other people who have had similar experiences to me and can therefore relate to how I feel.
Yeah, uni is a great place to use CBT techniques I'd imagine. There are a lot of social opportunities that, if I went to more, probably would have made me a lot less anxious than I can get now. The thing is, I know I can do it since when I do expose myself to situations which scare me it does get better after a while. It's just my mind telling me that I can't do it.
Haha, you sound very similar to me. I've done the exact same thing. Quite proud of myself for getting a job over the summer though, so at least I've done something which made me extremely anxious at first but then less so as time went on.
Hmm... I think I'll use medication as a last resort then!!
Well since we're going through pretty much the same thing, if you ever feel like you need to talk to someone, feel free to PM me
Yeah, uni is a great place to use CBT techniques I'd imagine. There are a lot of social opportunities that, if I went to more, probably would have made me a lot less anxious than I can get now. The thing is, I know I can do it since when I do expose myself to situations which scare me it does get better after a while. It's just my mind telling me that I can't do it.
Haha, you sound very similar to me. I've done the exact same thing. Quite proud of myself for getting a job over the summer though, so at least I've done something which made me extremely anxious at first but then less so as time went on.
Hmm... I think I'll use medication as a last resort then!!
Well since we're going through pretty much the same thing, if you ever feel like you need to talk to someone, feel free to PM me
Apparently it's the third biggest mental health problem there is...I don't believe this because i've only seen one other guy who I suspect has social anxiety in real life, BUT most of us do just blend into the background after a while.
Do you know in classes in uni, do people expect you to be open and talkative? One of my AS classes was hell for the first week but then A2 maths I remember I felt no one cared about anyone from the first day till the last.
And, wow a job!?! Your a soldier...Plus, just doing stuff that you find anxious is apparently what CBT is mainly based on so you're working towards recovery allready.
and will do!
How is everyone doing on this lovely day?
Original post by bullettheory
How is everyone doing on this lovely day?
I've been stuck in my room all day on my laptop. I have a phobia of mice and I'm terrified I will see one because my sister said she may have saw one yesterday...so i'm hiding out in my room..
Original post by Trottoir
I've been stuck in my room all day on my laptop. I have a phobia of mice and I'm terrified I will see one because my sister said she may have saw one yesterday...so i'm hiding out in my room..
Oh no that sounds horrible
are you feeling any better and calmer today?Original post by bullettheory
How is everyone doing on this lovely day?
Not too bad. Been watching Fresh Meat (the episode where they go to the student protests in London) and marvelling at how I was there a couple of years ago and not once did I feel anxious or upset by being there. I was in London not four days ago now and yet when I think about the place, I feel anxious and sick.
Really getting het up about uni again I have Emetophobia....it seriously ruins my life. I carry travel sickness pills and mints with me wherever I go. I'm nearly physically sick every morning due to anxiety and absolutely hate to leave the house. I have to think about how long I'll be somewhere/what could make me sick/where I can be sick etc. It is seriously just a chore to get up and go to sixth form, never mind anywhere where I can't get out like lessons/exams/musicals/the cinema. I wash my hands compulsively and due to this phobia I have anxiety attacks everyday that cause me to almost throw up which makes it worse. It's a viscous cycle! This has also extended to anxiety around getting an illness of any kind/becoming ill on public transport or just generally anywhere that I'm not at home. I don't talk to anyone because no one understands and because I don't seem to show many physical symptoms of anxiety (even though I do experience a LOT of them) people dismiss it and tell me to 'calm down' which is so unhelpful and so I just keep it to myself. I struggle a hell of a lot with it at school and I know that I'm about to start struggling badly again which is annoying because I've made progress lately
Original post by kiss_me_now9
Not too bad. Been watching Fresh Meat (the episode where they go to the student protests in London) and marvelling at how I was there a couple of years ago and not once did I feel anxious or upset by being there. I was in London not four days ago now and yet when I think about the place, I feel anxious and sick. Really getting het up about uni again
Really getting het up about uni again Hey, haven't seen you in ages! I love fresh meat, its really funny!
Anything in particular bothering you about uni? Original post by lauraaaaa
I have Emetophobia....it seriously ruins my life. I carry travel sickness pills and mints with me wherever I go. I'm nearly physically sick every morning due to anxiety and absolutely hate to leave the house. I have to think about how long I'll be somewhere/what could make me sick/where I can be sick etc. It is seriously just a chore to get up and go to sixth form, never mind anywhere where I can't get out like lessons/exams/musicals/the cinema. I wash my hands compulsively and due to this phobia I have anxiety attacks everyday that cause me to almost throw up which makes it worse. It's a viscous cycle! This has also extended to anxiety around getting an illness of any kind/becoming ill on public transport or just generally anywhere that I'm not at home. I don't talk to anyone because no one understands and because I don't seem to show many physical symptoms of anxiety (even though I do experience a LOT of them) people dismiss it and tell me to 'calm down' which is so unhelpful and so I just keep it to myself. I struggle a hell of a lot with it at school and I know that I'm about to start struggling badly again which is annoying because I've made progress lately
Hey, I have emetophobia too. I've found problems too when I've talked to people about my fears. Majority of the time I get "no one likes being sick" and "it's not that bad", and it's really hard to hear that. It sounds like you've had a really hard time with your phobia
Do you get any help from your GP or a CMHT?If I were you, I would go back on Tuesday because you don't really want to miss another appointment. It may be really helpful to talk to someone before uni starts and get that sorted. Plus it may help to go back a bit before uni starts to get used to it all before you have the stresses of uni to contend with too.
Original post by bullettheory
Hey, haven't seen you in ages! I love fresh meat, its really funny! Anything in particular bothering you about uni?
Anything in particular bothering you about uni? Apart from being away from my BF and family, that one of my cats probably won't be alive when I come back next time, that I can't afford the train back due to the new fare increase (it was around £37 a return when I started at uni, it's now £65 a return), that it's so far away, that I'm going to fail the year/my dissertation/my modules, that I won't be able to control myself and will end up hurting myself, that I'll never see my BF again, that some massive world event will happen and I'll be stuck in my uni town all alone and terrified, that I will fall out with my new housemates as I've fallen out with every single person I've ever lived with, that I won't achieve the grade I need, that I won't be able to get the train back because it'll be too busy and I'll panic, that the train back will crash...
Believe it or not, I'm doing better than I was a month ago, I used to physically cry and shake at the thought of going back and now I just cry internally.
Original post by bullettheory
Hey, I have emetophobia too. I've found problems too when I've talked to people about my fears. Majority of the time I get "no one likes being sick" and "it's not that bad", and it's really hard to hear that. It sounds like you've had a really hard time with your phobia Do you get any help from your GP or a CMHT?
Hey, I have emetophobia too. I've found problems too when I've talked to people about my fears. Majority of the time I get "no one likes being sick" and "it's not that bad", and it's really hard to hear that. It sounds like you've had a really hard time with your phobia
Do you get any help from your GP or a CMHT?My GP didn't look as if she really cared and the place she told me to call said they couldn't help me so I just gave up hope tbqh. Decided that I'll try and help myself.
