How to end it decently . . .

Right so I'm 'going out' with this girl at the moment - I asked her out after she dropped loads of hints. I hadn't been seeing anyone for a while before that so I thought I would give it a try, even though I was not over-attracted to her. We've been going out a couple of weeks but nothing much has happened and we're not particularly close (we weren't before either), and basically I've realised I want out; I'd rather be single. I just don't want to commit myself to her or anything now - I prefer being free and single, and I have too much to do (revision/character building/God knows - that sounds harsh!). There is another girl too, but to be honest this isn't a major factor (honest!) at all. But yeah, I guess I'm not ready, emotionally/financially/whatever, and its not the right girl. So I'm gonna break up with her tomorrow (if I conjure up enough courage). But then maybe I have just been single too long?

And also I feel like (and am) a right uuanker for asking her out in the first place and now dumping her so soon and for no reason in particular (I get the impression she is much more into the whole thing) and probably confusing her and whatnot. I haven't exactly distinguished myself here and I feel I at least owe it to her to be honest now before things get serious so we can both cut our losses. But how can I tell her this without sounding like an arrogant <insert expletive> (I really don't want to become one, even though I sound like one in this post . . .)

Sorry for posting about this silly issue :redface:

Face to face.

Just end it with her, it wont be the end of the world.

I mean its not like your getting a divorce after 5 years, just be a man and do it face to face!

Reply 3

Tarts_n_Vicars

13

If you're "not that close" like you say I doubt she's so deluded she's picking soft furnishings for your beautiful home together!

Just be to the point, you like her but you don't think it's gonna work as bf and gf and you'd much rather keep her as a mate

Reply 4

El Scotto

15

You should go for either the "its not you, its me" line, Or the "I have too much on to give you the time and attention someone as wonderful as you deserves" lol

Reply 5

Tarts_n_Vicars

13

El Scotto

You should go for either the "its not you, its me" line, Or the "I have too much on to give you the time and attention someone as wonderful as you deserves" lol

*heaves at the cheesiness*

This ever worked for you Scotto?!

Reply 6

El Scotto

15

Tarts_n_Vicars

*heaves at the cheesiness*

This ever worked for you Scotto?!

nah, I normally go for the change the sim card in my phone tactic :p:

or try to get them to dump me!

Reply 7

Tarts_n_Vicars

13

Could always just roger her sis/best mate in front of her

Reply 8

El Scotto

15

Tarts_n_Vicars

Could always just roger her sis/best mate in front of her

I generally value my testicles, They've been good to be so far throughout my life! I'm generally good and finish anything before cheating... or taking up any sis/best mate offers lol

Reply 9

silverbolt

19

its still fairly new then just tell her, if your happy being free and single then you will resent her and feel trapped and helpless which will make it worse for the both of you down the line

Reply 10

IzzTheGreat

10

Just tell her what you've told us here...it's honest, and if I were her I'd much rather hear that than some rubbish about 'it's not you it's me' etc...

Reply 11

Poica

Face to face.

Yes but look at me; I'm hiding behind the Anonymous feature!! Do you really think that face to face is preferable to a letter or card or something given that I'm hopelessly un-eloquent in these types of situations and I might end up tongue tied etc.?

I know you are right but say if it was you would you rather listen to a babble of incoherency or read a flowing piece of writing on a card?

Reply 12

username18215

0

10

El Scotto

nah, I normally go for the change the sim card in my phone tactic :p:

or try to get them to dump me!

100% brilliant!

say your gay

Anonymous

Yes but look at me; I'm hiding behind the Anonymous feature!! Do you really think that face to face is preferable to a letter or card or something given that I'm hopelessly un-eloquent in these types of situations and I might end up tongue tied etc.?

I know you are right but say if it was you would you rather listen to a babble of incoherency or read a flowing piece of writing on a card?

Babble of incoherency. Seriously, if you want to end it decently, and so she doesn't hate you forever and bad mouth you to everyone she meets - face to face or not at all.

Reply 15

tammypotato

12

dont tell ehr ur gay.. shed feel awful about it... just tell her the truth!

Reply 16

happydinosaur

15

Honesty.

It is the only way.

How to end it decently . . .

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