Proud to be a VIRGIN!!

It seems that most of the threads here are discussions related to sex. I'm just wondering if there are still virgins around or everyone had their share of sex? What I meant by sex is pure penetration, heterosexuals or homosexuals. Anyone here one still believes in sex after marriage? And what does your parents think of pre-maritual sex? Do they even know? :eek:

I'm sorry for asking such questions but I come from the East and sex before marriage is a taboo and seen as a moral crisis. :cool:

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Reply 1

cheesecakebobby

I am afraid that in the West virginity is a mark of shame rather than pride. And where I put my penis has nothing to do with my parents.

Reply 2

Lady Narcissus

Ok well I am no virgin, but good on you for following what you believe.

Reply 3

cheesecakebobby

Well yes, unless I put it too close to them in which case it has got something to do with them, hmm...

note* I'm not actually from the Isle of Man where that sort of thing passes

Reply 4

Fire Point

I'm a virgin at 17 and male but I choose to weight for a decent piece of action, not the stuff put on my place thus far.

Reply 5

icedsilhouette

Anonymous

And what does your parents think of pre-maritual sex? Do they even know? :eek:

I tend to figure because my nan and grandad only got married because my nan was pregnant (ooooh - the scandal!) my mum can hardly say anything about sex before marriage!

Reply 6

Dekota

Do you all know who invented virginity?

If you did, you all wouldn't make a big deal outta it.

Reply 7

Anonymous

I'm sorry for asking such questions but I come from the East and sex before marriage is a taboo and seen as a moral crisis. :cool:

I still believe in sex after marriage. Not many do now, unfortunately, and I am also shocked how people seem to rush into sex so quickly. I believe it should be a treasured activity to be done only with your spouse, to show your utter commitment and love for him/her.

Reply 8

dimexi

cheesecakebobby

And where I put my penis has nothing to do with my parents.

I would hope not, Except if you choose to put it in the christmas pudding :p:

Reply 9

jayne87

i am christian and up until very recently believed in no sex before mariage but that has all changed now i have met my first boyfriend

i am still unsure about how i feel about having sex with him (only have twice) in one way i am glad because i really do love him and it was perfect in everyway

otoh tho i feel a little disappointed in myself for abandoning my beliefs

i did think about it for a long time (4 months!!) so i didnt rush into anything

i am glad with the way things are between my partner and i know, however i do wish things would have happened in different circumstances (e.g. met him later in life and at least got engaged)

Reply 10

ciara

There was a time where I thought maybe waiting until marriage was a good idea, but I've never believed it very strongly. I think a long term relationship is good enough for me... My parents I'm sure know that I'm sleeping with my boyfriend - we've been together for over a year and in the West it is very exceptional to be abstaining in my situation. I'd be mortified if they ever brought it up in conversation with me though!

Plenty of people sleep around and have one night stands and I'm not sure how I feel about that - I used to think it's just a form of insecurity but I don't think that's always the case. I guess sex is what you make it - a big deal or not.

Reply 11

Silhouette

I'm a virgin and I'm no much proud of the fact I am one, but more so that I'm just waiting for the "special" person. I look at the topic in what is, as some people say, an old-fashioned sense, but there has been nobody that I have been going out with so far that have justified losing it. To be perfectly honest, I don't think it matters either way. There are positives and negatives.

The morals that Ciara have are the fundamentals in what I believe in I guess.

Reply 12

Lady_Muck

Just because you've had sex doesn't automatically make you a wanton hussy :rolleyes:

I've slept with my long term bf, who when we were 'on a break' from June - xmas eve has enabled me to 'see' other guys. I didn't sleep with any of them, mainly because I don't like rushing into sex. I was seeing LT BF for nearly 18 months before we slept together (I was 16, by then) because I wanted to. I would sleep with someone once I knew them, but after being with current BF for so long (3 years) I have found trying to have sex similar to losing your virginity all over again.

I know my mum has only ever slept with 5 men and I know she definitely encourages the same behaviour in me. She has made it clear she wouldn't let them stay in my room if I'd known them less than a month - poss more than that. Depends if she likes them. She has also said she wouldn't like it if I started sleeping around' so to speak.

I respect her wishes as much as I respect myself. I don't desire to be like my 17 year old friend who has slept with 25 guys. I'm no prude, but I just don't like sex to be the be all and end all of a relationship. It's great when it's there and you can't live without it...But you have to maintain a decent level of self respect. I couldn't give a toss if I was still a virgin. I despise peer pressure and those who succumb to it. Be yourself and stand up for what you believe - any guy who won't agree isn't worth the bother IMO. If he respects your wishes then you'll have more respect for him etc.

Then again, if I started seeing a guy who I was ready to sleep with and he didn't want to, I'd get a bit adgy!

Reply 13

Michelin Man

Remember theres a big difference between sleeping around, one night stands etc and between sleeping with a long term bf/gf. Not everybody sees the need for marriage these days as divorce is unfortunately common. As long as they actually love and care for the person being married or not should not be an issue.

Reply 14

blurboy

Lady_Muck

I don't desire to be like my 17 year old friend who has slept with 25 guys. I'm no prude, but I just don't like sex to be the be all and end all of a relationship. It's great when it's there and you can't live without it...But you have to maintain a decent level of self respect.

hear! hear! :redface:

Reply 15

AT82

I don't believe in not having sex before marraige(sp) but I do think its important to wait for the right person rather than just getting off with anything that is free (or even not so free).

I just don't see any big deal about being a virgin or otherwise, I am not proud of nor I am ashamed of it.

Reply 16

-TMG-

My parent has never said anything about sex, except to use protection. All my family keep telling me that, which is good. If I had wanted to wait til marriage for sex, I would have. It just didn't appeal to me. I don't put it about at all. I never had any negative thoughts about my virginity, I was no longer a virgin at age 19. I have had sex with two people, one was half sex and drunken, the other all times I was sober. My mate is 20 (21 tomorrow) and has had sex with 8 people. I think all one night stands. He's the most promiscous of all of 'us'.

I know -someone- who is a virgin and they are not thought of any less of a person for not having given themselves away so easily :P

I don't value virginity as much as I value intelligence, common sense and a strong sense of morality; standing by your values. Which are all linked.