When your mind has repressed something for so long

Hi, wasnt quite sure where to put this so i thought in here would be my best bet. 8 years ago something happened to me which i totally blocked out, i didnt even know that it had happened. Then about a year ago i got very drunk( the first time i had gotten drunk incidentially) and i told some people about it- they didnt tell anyone else-. As i was completely out of my head i had no recollectioon of that night and what i said so i went on my way until one of the girls mentioned it to me, in passing if you will. She didnt remember much, but it did jog my memory and i think i remember what happened, at least i have nightmares about similar things now. The real point of this is to ask whether anyone has any advice as to why/how i repressed the incident and how i can get to the bottom of the problem because it is really scary having something in your mind that you cannot access. So any ideas? Or do you think it is better to let sleeping dogs lie?
Any thoughts appreciated
xmx

Reply 1

Sophdoph

1

I blocked something out of my life so might, I did the same, didn't even think it had happened, erased all knowledge of the incidents and completely lost the truth in the jumble of nightmares that happened in my head. It only all came out when I dealt with it when I met a guy who I managed to trust. It was very scary but I feel much better for having a clear mind. I think it's something that will just come out when it comes out..

Reply 2

anjimcflanji

1

if you've repressed it and it's starting to come back I might suggest that you need to talk about it and perhaps you should go see someone about it. Your college may have someone there with whom you can talk or if you don't want to go face to face (as I don't know what happend) then there are lots of people at the end of phones who will chat until you want to see someone or maybe give you some more advice.
Hope this is helpfull and whatever it is can be sorted! take care

Reply 3

MNBStyle

9

Mazraz

Hi, wasnt quite sure where to put this so i thought in here would be my best bet. 8 years ago something happened to me which i totally blocked out, i didnt even know that it had happened. Then about a year ago i got very drunk( the first time i had gotten drunk incidentially) and i told some people about it- they didnt tell anyone else-. As i was completely out of my head i had no recollectioon of that night and what i said so i went on my way until one of the girls mentioned it to me, in passing if you will. She didnt remember much, but it did jog my memory and i think i remember what happened, at least i have nightmares about similar things now. The real point of this is to ask whether anyone has any advice as to why/how i repressed the incident and how i can get to the bottom of the problem because it is really scary having something in your mind that you cannot access. So any ideas? Or do you think it is better to let sleeping dogs lie?
Any thoughts appreciated
xmx

If your having some sort of memory of it, then its clear deep down your mind wants to get it out.
Plus if its worrying you anyway its best to sort it out.
Hypnosis is your best bet for accessing something you cant get to conciousley

Reply 4

-TMG-

9

Hmm well I have repressed a few things, ie refused to deal with or accept them. Not anything particularly devious etc, just more about my roots...which are all withered and well dodgy.

One option is to get hypnotised, they find out the 'root cause' of the memory and then they either help you deal with it or just plain stop you from thinking about it/remove it. I forget.

I've had a few 'narrative wreckages'. Latest was my nan saying I look a lot like my father...I look nothing like the father I think is my father. This, and a few other things really mess with my head...even though no one ever asks me about my parents etc.

Anyway, try hypnosis. Or CBT. Or if its not affecting your social life, your education, or your relationships then I spose you could leave it.

Reply 5

Mazraz

OP

1

hmm. the problem is that i cant access it myself- it only arose again coz i got vverry drunk and now its all buried again, i dont really trust hypnotists, a stranger messing with my mind..i dunno ill probably leave it as it is. thanks for the help though

Reply 6

Fleece

15

are you sure it actually happened? i mean if you didn't know about it and it just came to you when you got drunk?

Reply 7

Samsara

Some psychiatrists believe in dream analysis whereby they will record their dreams and analyse them. I don't think this is very helpful though due to individual differences; different people interpreting your dream differently. Some psychiatrists are hypnotists and if you form a good relationship with them first though counselling with them, you may be able to trust them enough to help you find out about this lost memory. Either that or you could just forget it never happened and don't let it bother the rest of your life.

Reply 8

anjimcflanji

1

a while back i needed help with something and hypnosis was suggested and I said' no way like i'd trust someone to effectively knock me out' and a friend said he'd tried it and said it's not like that at all. What you do is just relax to a point where you talk more freely but still have control over what you're saying and doing and it's safe. That said it might be best to start off talking to a gp or someone like that first. It's on your mind now and I doubt it will go away. If you don't find the service is working for you try something else and you will get it sorted.

When your mind has repressed something for so long

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