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Confessing to bf

My bf got me a necklace for christmas (our first christmas, so my first present from him really). I've just been out for lunch with my mum, and while I was there, I felt something in my cleavage, and lo and behold, it was my necklace. Minus the pendant. I've retraced all my steps, shaken out my clothes, etc. and still no necklace.
So when I finally stop crying, what do I tell my boyfriend? Should I tell him immediately, not tell him in case it turns up, not tell him and try and find the exact same one, tell him and offer to buy a replacement?
I just don't want him to think I've been totally careless with it because I've been quite the opposite (it's such a fiddly necklace that I was thinking of replacing the chain with a more substantial one anyway)
Sorry for the rant, but does anyone have any advice? :frown:

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Reply 1
Can you not buy another one and not say anything? Is it covered by your household insurance?
Don't worry about it! He'll understand!
Reply 3
I'm currently looking at the websites of every jewellers I can think of (what ones other than Ortak, Ernest Jones and H Samuel are there? :confused: ).
I don't know if that would be really dishonest to him though (Admittedly, I still haven't confessed that I lost a ring my mum gave me four years ago, but I think with a boyfriend it's a bit different if you keep things from someone)
Reply 4
f hinds...
Reply 5
Goldsmiths
Reply 6
post a description of it..i'll help you look
Reply 7
if the worst comes to the crunch, just own up - he'll be annoyed but if it wasn't your fault he should understand...and might even buy you another one!
oh god I cant believe you're so stressed over that! Just tell him the truth woman! Of course he'll understand....maybe it's just me though, I'm too honest..dont waste your time on that...tell him it was amazing and that you're gonna find the same one.
Reply 9
Fleece
post a description of it..i'll help you look


Small plain gold heartshaped locket with kinda texturedy bit on half of the front side (said it reminded him of the one in Love Actually :frown:).

I really am kicking myself about this :frown:
Reply 10
If the necklace was really expensive I can understand why it would be hard to tell him. However, you'll have to tell him eventually - relationships are based on trust. If you buy another one and not tell him, you'll end up living with the guilt that it's not the special one he bought you.
I think you should just tell him - it's not a confession really - he will understand. I would be touched to be honest; it clearly means a lot to you and he will see you're upset.
Reply 12
cant seem to find anything - just tell him...he'll see how upset you are!
Anonymous
Small plain gold heartshaped locket with kinda texturedy bit on half of the front side (said it reminded him of the one in Love Actually :frown:).

I really am kicking myself about this :frown:


Just tell him you lost it, No biggie. He wont pounce on you and start beating you up.
Reply 14
He knows better than to try that! :smile:

englishstudent
I think you should just tell him - it's not a confession really - he will understand. I would be touched to be honest; it clearly means a lot to you and he will see you're upset.


I hope you're right in that respect. I know from experience he hates to see me upset, and pretty much melts if I'm crying, and the way I'm feeling I don't know if I'll be able to stop crying next time I see him. :frown:

Fluffy, just talked to parents, and they reckon I could claim it on the house insurance if I want to get another one, thanks for that tip :smile:

If I do confess to him, should I ask him where he bought it and say I'll buy it again?
Reply 15
I guess it depends on both him and you.

I personally wouldn't tell my boyf (and we've been together for nearly 6 years!), I can tell him anything, but I wouldn't want to hurt his feelings in any way...
Reply 16
That's kind of how I feel. Especially since I've not had it that long, I think it would look like I've been careless with it and therefore didn't care about it or him (totally not true!)
Reply 17
Tell him, I did the same and my guy had taken out the insurance with it anyway so all we had to do was order another one :redface:
Reply 18
How did your guy take it if you don't mind my asking? :smile:
Reply 19
Anonymous
That's kind of how I feel. Especially since I've not had it that long, I think it would look like I've been careless with it and therefore didn't care about it or him (totally not true!)


Thta would be my personal concern. Completely irrational I know, but I hate hurting people...