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Decision ?!?!
Right, well i have been wit my boyfriend for 2 years this Xmas, and i have always said that I wanted to go to Uni single, however, that didnt happen. (We jus decided we had too much together and I couldnt face losing him). It has been difficlt whilst being a Uni but we managed despite only seeing each other once dring the 1st semester. I love him so much and i know we could have a future together, but he was my 1st proper boyfriend, and i dont want to hae spent my life only being with one person. I feel I need to just meet some other people, (not wanting to sound slaggy here) and have some fun. I just cant bare to leave him, and i realy cant decide what to do b4 we go back to uni. Not sure wat im gettin at but any feedback would be very much appreciated!!!
Reply 1
If you love him as much as you say, I wouldn't leave him. It's a lot to give up just for a few flings with people who might not mean nearly as much, is it really worth it?
Reply 3
i wouldn't say it sounds slaggy! i think it would probably do you good to be with some other guys for a bit, and then you would realise how much being with him means to you. so maybe hint at making the relationship a bit more casual, possibly try having a break. hopefully he will understand!
Anonymous
Right, well i have been wit my boyfriend for 2 years this Xmas, and i have always said that I wanted to go to Uni single, however, that didnt happen. (We jus decided we had too much together and I couldnt face losing him). It has been difficlt whilst being a Uni but we managed despite only seeing each other once dring the 1st semester. I love him so much and i know we could have a future together, but he was my 1st proper boyfriend, and i dont want to hae spent my life only being with one person. I feel I need to just meet some other people, (not wanting to sound slaggy here) and have some fun. I just cant bare to leave him, and i realy cant decide what to do b4 we go back to uni. Not sure wat im gettin at but any feedback would be very much appreciated!!!
I think you should go for it, have a break or something, the time apart with other people will help you work out what you really want in a person, and after a period of time you feel like he is the one for you, i'm sure you could try and give it another go, but I think its unfair of you to stay with him how you're feeling now.
Anonymous
Right, well i have been wit my boyfriend for 2 years this Xmas...etc
I don't mean this in an offensive way, but IMVHO, if you feel this way about him then you don't actually love him. You may think you do, but it is obvious from what you have said that you don't properly. Unless my brain works differently to everybody elses
nikk
I don't mean this in an offensive way, but IMVHO, if you feel this way about him then you don't actually love him. You may think you do, but it is obvious from what you have said that you don't properly. Unless my brain works differently to everybody elses
I agree with you, I think shes just comfy with him, like shes comfy with an old sofa or a pair of shoes/slippers. You get used to things dont you.
El Scotto
I agree with you, I think shes just comfy with him, like shes comfy with an old sofa or a pair of shoes/slippers. You get used to things dont you.
I agree with you, I think shes just comfy with him, like shes comfy with an old sofa or a pair of shoes/slippers. You get used to things dont you.
Yep and when you get into a routine, it is easier to stay like that than to change it. I know quite a few people in that situation.
Reply 9
xx hannah
If you love him as much as you say, I wouldn't leave him. It's a lot to give up just for a few flings with people who might not mean nearly as much, is it really worth it?
I felt a bit like that with my ex, but we ending up having to split up and a few months later i met a great guy, who i'm still with now.
have a good long think, and maybe talk it over with him, it would help to have his views right?
good luckEl Scotto
theres not much to persuade you to get out of the routine in cornwall though to be fair..... (from cornwall myself) lol
theres not much to persuade you to get out of the routine in cornwall though to be fair..... (from cornwall myself) lol
I was all set to get patrotic and defend Cornwall until then. But since you're from Cornwall as well you're allowed to slag it off
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xXMessedUpXx
resenting him for missin gout
Reply 12
Anonymous
Right, well i have been wit my boyfriend for 2 years this Xmas, and i have always said that I wanted to go to Uni single, however, that didnt happen. (We jus decided we had too much together and I couldnt face losing him). It has been difficlt whilst being a Uni but we managed despite only seeing each other once dring the 1st semester. I love him so much and i know we could have a future together, but he was my 1st proper boyfriend, and i dont want to hae spent my life only being with one person. I feel I need to just meet some other people, (not wanting to sound slaggy here) and have some fun. I just cant bare to leave him, and i realy cant decide what to do b4 we go back to uni. Not sure wat im gettin at but any feedback would be very much appreciated!!!
If you love him and can't bear to leave him, then don't. I think there's an expectation that you can only enjoy university if you're single, but it's not true, and it would be crazy to sacrifice what you have with this guy because of that.
Reply 13
Anonymous
Right, well i have been wit my boyfriend for 2 years this Xmas, and i have always said that I wanted to go to Uni single, however, that didnt happen. (We jus decided we had too much together and I couldnt face losing him). It has been difficlt whilst being a Uni but we managed despite only seeing each other once dring the 1st semester. I love him so much and i know we could have a future together, but he was my 1st proper boyfriend, and i dont want to hae spent my life only being with one person. I feel I need to just meet some other people, (not wanting to sound slaggy here) and have some fun. I just cant bare to leave him, and i realy cant decide what to do b4 we go back to uni. Not sure wat im gettin at but any feedback would be very much appreciated!!!
lordy, you could be describing my situation exactly, ..i look forward to replys on this subject
i love my boyfriends to bits too, i was about to call it quits for the above reasons you mentioned and some other issues, but as soon as it got close to us actaully breaking up (ie the break up discussion) neither of us could handle it and had to kiss and make up
i know how you feel...im planning on sticking it out until i cant see it working anymore..i have a feeling that we'll just 'know' when its time, or if its Ever time...i know judging from that near-break up experience that im just not ready to say goodbye yet.
i wish there was someway of just having a break...and having a bit of 'fun' as you put it....and coming back assured that things will be the same..alas things dont work like that
xxxhope it works out for us eh?xxxx
Reply 14
Anonymous
Right, well i have been wit my boyfriend for 2 years this Xmas, and i have always said that I wanted to go to Uni single, however, that didnt happen. (We jus decided we had too much together and I couldnt face losing him). It has been difficlt whilst being a Uni but we managed despite only seeing each other once dring the 1st semester. I love him so much and i know we could have a future together, but he was my 1st proper boyfriend, and i dont want to hae spent my life only being with one person. I feel I need to just meet some other people, (not wanting to sound slaggy here) and have some fun. I just cant bare to leave him, and i realy cant decide what to do b4 we go back to uni. Not sure wat im gettin at but any feedback would be very much appreciated!!!
lordy, you could be describing my situation exactly, ..i look forward to replys on this subject
i love my boyfriends to bits too, i was about to call it quits for the above reasons you mentioned and some other issues, but as soon as it got close to us actaully breaking up (ie the break up discussion) neither of us could handle it and had to kiss and make up
i know how you feel...im planning on sticking it out until i cant see it working anymore..i have a feeling that we'll just 'know' when its time, or if its Ever time...i know judging from that near-break up experience that im just not ready to say goodbye yet.
i wish there was someway of just having a break...and having a bit of 'fun' as you put it....and coming back assured that things will be the same..alas things dont work like that
xxxhope it works out for us eh?xxxx
Reply 15
You guys are soo right. It is a comfort change, i am probably scared of change. I think i am scared that I won't meet anyone better. (which sounds really really harsh, i know.). Im just soo confused, but i am scared what iwill do if i dont do break it off, i ont want to hurt him.
Before Uni (dat b4 i left) we practically split but it became apparent that we hadnt. He said "maybe the only way this relationship will work would be to split, and get back together afer X years". We just couldnt do it, but now we are there, at Uni,things are different. The problem i have is that the relationship is better than it has ever been b4.
Before Uni (dat b4 i left) we practically split but it became apparent that we hadnt. He said "maybe the only way this relationship will work would be to split, and get back together afer X years". We just couldnt do it, but now we are there, at Uni,things are different. The problem i have is that the relationship is better than it has ever been b4.
Reply 16
I do believe that im going to be in the same position when me and my boyfriend have to go university. Good luck with things!
Anonymous
You guys are soo right. It is a comfort change, i am probably scared of change. I think i am scared that I won't meet anyone better. (which sounds really really harsh, i know.). Im just soo confused, but i am scared what iwill do if i dont do break it off, i ont want to hurt him.
Before Uni (dat b4 i left) we practically split but it became apparent that we hadnt. He said "maybe the only way this relationship will work would be to split, and get back together afer X years". We just couldnt do it, but now we are there, at Uni,things are different. The problem i have is that the relationship is better than it has ever been b4.
Before Uni (dat b4 i left) we practically split but it became apparent that we hadnt. He said "maybe the only way this relationship will work would be to split, and get back together afer X years". We just couldnt do it, but now we are there, at Uni,things are different. The problem i have is that the relationship is better than it has ever been b4.
Well if you aren't happy then I don't think it is fair to keep him in the dark really. I'm not saying split up, because that is obviously a decision only you can make, but if you talk to him about it, you may feel a whole lot better. If you keep this to yourself then it is only going to build up and end up being destructive to your relationship anyway. If you talk about it then who knows what will happen. IMO, communication is the key to solving any problems! Anyway, good luck with it all
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