Your Interpretations On His Behaviour Please...

Ok, i'll try and keep this short. While at college, I had a part-time job in a shop, during which time I met a guy, who also worked there. we really got, and went on a few dates etc. Then we fell out, which was all my fault, as i'd accused him of saying something which he hadn't. Needless to say, we didnt speak, and the shop closed down so we therefore didnt ge the chance to see each other.
However, I randomly bumped into him at my Uni during freshers week in Sept' as he too goes there. Here's my, admitedly rather trivial, problem. Of course it's something of a big prob to me though!
We put our differences aside and swapped numbers again. He admitted to me that I was the ''only girl he'd ever really liked and wanted to be with'' but the fact that I'd disbelieved him meant that he didnt see any point in bothering. My concern is that he texts me every night asking what i'm up to etc, and we'll invarably always end up at the same place. Somehow, everyone seems to associate me with him, and constantly have to put up with comments like ''heard all about you etc''. they arent ever nasty or anything but it bugs me that he seems to talk about me. I'm ashamed to say, that we always end up kissing during the evening, but he's lovely to me so I can't help it!
Here's the problem. we get back home for the holidays and he stops texting completely, and starts acting a bit distant. I want the flirting and messin around to stop, and would realy just like to know what he thinks about our relationship. For example, why he makes it absolutely apparent that he's unhappy with me talking to other guys. He''l even ask outright who they are and why i was talking to them!!
I'm thinking of texting him next week merely to ask him if he wants to go into town. It's just that I've made it clear that I like him (at lleast I think i have!), without actually saying it or appearing over-keen, so if he was interested would he have acted upon it?
Generaly confused but i'm not prepared to spend another semester wondering what he's thinking, even though i really dont want to give up on him!!

Thanks in advance for any replies x

p.s- I know i'm sad!

Reply 1

justbrowsing

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Could it be that he actually likes you too? Does he chat up/ talk to other girls?

Reply 2

justbrowsing

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Thank you for your reply. It's just that I get confused by the way he's gone so distant now we're back home from uni and hasn't been in touch, I was gonna use the xmas period as an excuse to conclude this sillyness! Kind of an all-or-nothing situation for me. Sometimes get the impression (excuse the rediculous wording of the phrase) that he's not interested in a relationship but doesn't want me with anyone else. Not sure if this is the case- never been in that kinda situation before or seen it happen to other people, so don't know if that actually happens?!

Anyway, i'm waffling and sounding increasingly idiotic!!

Reply 3

kimberley1987

justbrowsing

Thank you for your reply. It's just that I get confused by the way he's gone so distant now we're back home from uni and hasn't been in touch, I was gonna use the xmas period as an excuse to conclude this sillyness! Kind of an all-or-nothing situation for me. Sometimes get the impression (excuse the rediculous wording of the phrase) that he's not interested in a relationship but doesn't want me with anyone else. Not sure if this is the case- never been in that kinda situation before or seen it happen to other people, so don't know if that actually happens?!

Anyway, i'm waffling and sounding increasingly idiotic!!

Forget to hit 'Anonymous' again, did ya?! Only joking, don't be embarrased we all get probs like this. Agree with lessthanthee jus text him. if he says no then stop the kissing, texting alltogether. He wudnt bother if he didnt like u even a little bit so hes prob not gonna want to NOT have any contact with u.In my experience, guys dont tend to text/cal a girl if they arent interested.

Reply 4

justbrowsing

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kimberley1987

Forget to hit 'Anonymous' again, did ya?!

Oops- I consider myself well and truly busted on that one!! Was just trying to pus the thread higher up on the list as there was a sudden surge in new posts!

Thanks for the advice though ladies! x

Reply 5

ApeXaviour

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I agree with lessthantree, there's definitely some mixed signals coming from you and he's probably lacking confirmation of sorts. And why do you have a problem with him talking about you? It just shows he's thinking a lot about you.

Okay so you kiss, talk, text, flirt etc. There's really not much of a step there for you to ask him to go out with you. You're never gonna know 100% chance what somebody is thinking and if you did there would be no fun in life. Just put yourself out there and do it! From what you've said it he seems pretty damn likely to want this too. Have some initiative

Reply 6

Inphinite

Not meaning to cause you any offence or anything, but I'm going to be honest.

Right, you said you've sent him signs indicating you like him. Well, that might not be good enough for him, might not be a strong enough indication - for all he knows you might be flirting with him in the same way you were talking to the other guys. I hate it when girls expect the men to ALWAYS take the initiative. My advice to you is to put your feelings on the line and confess to the guy what you think about him. Many men have done it and have been turned down or are now in relationships - theres always that chance, but surely it is better than not knowing.

:smile:

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