My Ex :(

he's an arsehole.

By my standards i'd label you a very respectable girl

You dont sound like a slag at all to me, but did you say you got off with someone who already had a girlfriend??

he's bitter, he's jealous and he's pathetic and he's a bloody hypocrite. don't waste your time worrying. you're no such thing. cut him out.

Not as far as I'm aware! My ex has a new girlfriend, if that's where it's getting confused.

Oh ok im with you now, i just read that part wrong my mistake
I think hes just showing alot of jealousy, your clearly not a slag if you only slept with 2 people, and im presuming your not someone to lead a guy on either.

I don't think I do. I try and make my stance pretty clear if things look like they're getting too heavy. Made that mistake with the guy I am/was/ish seeing. He started refering to me as his girlfriend, and that's when we sat down for a chat :P:

It can't be too abnormal to not want a relationship within the first few months of uni? I've had a tough year, and have just built myself back up to being a whole person, I'll be darned if I want to become part of a double again.

Therefore you dont lead people on, if you intended to you wouldnt of gone i dont think so
Of course its not abnormal to not want to rush things, but you say you are/was/sort of seeing someone, be carefull being in a situation like that dont get you into some problems

and he said he wants the same thing - just some non-commital, non-exclusive, occassional fun - but the guilt is nigh-on killing me. Tried to "dump" him once and he said no, basically.

So you wanted to end it and he said no??? Are you honestly sure hes not just using you for some no strings fun, even if you have only slept with him once

Well, the thing is, before we slept together, he was a virgin (which he didn't tell me till it was too late ) and I told him it was a bit weird that he didn't tell me, and i really wish he had cause it was rushed, and can't have been all that plesant for him. Whenever we're together now he doesn't try anything except kissing me. But he keeps pestering me with texts

I don't really know what to do about him

1st rule sometimes guys pretend there a virgin so its a excuse if there poor in bed.
If hes pestering you and you really dont want a relationship then it might be best to break it off with him, otherwise i can see you being stuck in this were sort of with eachother thing for ages.

No, I'm pretty sure he was... lasting a matter of seconds otherwise surely needs medical interferance?

I'm going to tell him I'm not interested anymore. He lives a fair way away so it shouldn't be too hard to lose him I suppose!

Either that he suffers from premature ejaculation, either way it seems to me it would be best to say your not interested.
Of course its upto you good luck thoe xxx

Im off to bed nowall night night xxxx

Thanks for all your help

x

Right, I split up with my last bf 10 months ago. I've got with (ie. got off with) a few guys since, and have been kinda seeing a guy non-committally for about 2 months. Me and my ex had been getting on ok, and had remained fairly good mates, but just before xmas he decided that I was a slag (for seeing the guy, even though hes got a girlfriend now) and hurtfully told me so in an email. Moreover, he said I was no better than my mother ( who has just torn my entire family apart by cheating on my dad and kicking him out).

He's really upset me, and it's got me to thinking that maybe I am a slag, or at least on my way. I'm 19 and I only had my first kiss two years ago (with said ex). I've slept with two guys in my life, and only kissed a handful more.

What does constitute a slag? Am I totally right to be so peed off with him for saying what he did for me to never want to speak to him again?

Bit confused - if anyone has any comments, please. Just need to let it out and get some feedback I think