Would you prefer to stay near your parents home for university or move away?

Id always thought its beter to stay near parents incase you have problems with flatmates or housemates, or if you find yourself in a difficult situation living wise and find yourself becoming depressed at university. The closer you are to your parents the more they can support you should such problems ever arise.

In my final year of university, I was faced with a situation where I could no longer live in the flat I had paid for (my flatmates turned out to be bitches) but because I was in the same city as my parents I was able to commute from home for the rest of the year.

Had I gone miles away from home I dont know what Id have done in such a situation.

But some people still choose to move far away from home for university.

How do they cope in such situations?

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Reply 1

Liam_G

I'm not going to limit my University choices just in case something like that happened.

If a situation like that does present itself to me, I'll just have to work out a way to resolve it. I'll either stick it out, put up with the bitchiness and live in the flat that I'd paid for, or I'd contact the University people and see if they couldn't do something about it.

It would be a life lesson. I don't want to be on a permanent tether to my family, I want some freedom and to be responsible for myself.

The world's tough sometimes, and you can't always rely on the fact that your Mum's around the corner.

Reply 2

Pi!

I plan on moving out. I don't want to go to any unis in London, anyway.

Reply 3

Goody2Shoes-x

Moving away. When you're an adult living in your own home, you won't be able to rely on your parents to solve everything. Now is a good time to start.

Reply 4

DanLorenzo

Im only going to move like 2 hours away. I dont need to 'escape' my parents. I can live a perfectly independent life without having to move a million miles away. Their not exactly going to follow me around or anything so whats the big problem.

Reply 5

miser

I stayed near my parents' home for university, but honestly I regret it. I've made some brilliant friends at my university, but now I think I would have been better to apply for a more respected uni further away (mine's a former polytechnic).

Reply 6

obviouslystudying

Original post by flowers101

Had I gone miles away from home I dont know what Id have done in such a situation.

Everyone wants to know how they'll cope.

Reply 7

rhiam

away, far far away, where they cant find me

Reply 8

jameswhughes

Definitely move away. Durham was the only university 'close to home' which I applied to and I didn't particularly want to go there (70 miles away), while the other 4 choices are 150-225 miles away. :smile:

Reply 9

jameswhughes

To explain my previous post, it's a combination of these being some of the best universities for maths, and I've become quite bored of living in Yorkshire-I greatly look forward to a fresh start a long way away :h:

Reply 10

ssssam

I go to Sheffield and I'm from near York so its an hour away; close enough to go home if I have a problem but far enough to have some independence.

Reply 11

flowers101

Original post by Goody2Shoes-x

Moving away. When you're an adult living in your own home, you won't be able to rely on your parents to solve everything. Now is a good time to start.

When you're an adult in your own home I doubt you'd be sharing a kitchen with 4/5 other people your age. Having your own house is completely different to living at uni

Reply 12

tory88

I decided I wanted to be quite far away, as I really don't like London (which is where I live) and I don't like my family and friends mixing. In fact I actively prevent it (only one exception). I still agree I was right to choose a university a fair distance away from home (2-2.5 hour drive) but am less definite. It would have been nice to still have a few old friends around, as I'm sure I'll loose contact with most people once I've been at university for a while.

Reply 13

Goody2Shoes-x

Original post by flowers101

When you're an adult in your own home I doubt you'd be sharing a kitchen with 4/5 other people your age. Having your own house is completely different to living at uni

And uni prepares you for that - you buy your own things, make your own food, do your own washing, ironing etc.

Reply 14

chinaberry

My parents complain about my being too independent and I know how to make food and iron (it's pathetic that people go to uni to learn those things- yes, often that's half the reason) so I don't think living at home would ruin me or anything. I don't really want to leave.

Reply 15

Dizziebird

Original post by rhiam

away, far far away, where they cant find me

SAME. same. Same. I'm going to go far away...hopefully!

Reply 16

Besakt

I want to live far enough to gain some independence but close enough to come back and visit and not be very costly.

Reply 17

socialworkertobe

I'd rather move away to be honest. Not too far but far enough! I just want to move out of my parents home and have a total fresh start. I'm applying to 2 unis in Glasgow (about 30 mins away) and I suppose I could move there but I don't think it would be the same as move 3 or 4 hours away.

LMx

Reply 18