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Is there anyone else who sometimes gets homesick or is worried about getting homesick at university and does anyone have any advice on overcoming it?
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It happens to most of us - normally with me it lasts anything from a week to a month. When my mum dropped me off in first and second year, I was sobbing as she drove off Best advice is to let it happen, don't try to fight it - it's completely natural and expected. You're not sad, nor should you feel the need to "man up". Don't allow yourself to spend time moping mind you, go out and get involved - distraction, and making uni a new home is the best way to sort it. Remember your flatmates and course mates can be excellent sources of support - everyone feels the same at first. Don't phone home too often, or go back too early as it won't help - give yourself time to get used to things first.

Take some home comforts with you - photographs, nic-nacks from your room. Make your room uniquely yours and a nice place to be.

And, as always, if you find it doesn't improve even a teeny bit in say a month or so, make contact with the right people and ask for help before it gets worse. Look into counselling, or have a chat with a tutor, student welfare, GP etc. There is support out there - you're not alone.
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Teach your family to use skype and when you get to uni go and be busy. If you're busy you're less likely to think of home and feel homesick.
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man up. Or skype as the above poster said
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Dude, I hear ya!

I'm going to Uni in September and very scared about moving away from my family! I'm going to miss them like craaaaazy! Part of me feels I might drop out but people who I know already at University have told me just to ride the storm.
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I know exactly how you feel, I went to university and was scared so much of being completely away from home. My birthday is two weeks in to term, so I had my parents come down for the weekend, which was perfect as it was soon in and it meant that when they left me on the first dreaded day I knew I only had to wait two weeks. After that, reading week was about 5 weeks after my birthday, so I planned to go home for a long weekend then, as when I came back there would be five weeks left! I would say going home or seeing family twice a term for me is what I need! It takes you away from the university bubble and it is lovely being home! Otherwise, I Skype my family! I find I can go one week where I speak to them twice, and other days where I ring home like twice a day?! Basically, keep at it! Skype, ring, text, Facebook, whatever you want to be in contact with your family. I would say try to avoid going home every weekend as you miss out on things! Sorry if this is all rambly lol, but basically, try and stick it all out as it really does get easier!!
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i hate sykpe never used it but its something il defiitely consider to combat this but tbh i just want my own privacy but if they wanna see me now and then right
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I was so homesick in my first year! I was for the first few days but then there was so much going on in Fresher's that I forgot about it, then I went home on the 5th weekend and just got really homesick from then. I went home every 2 weeks or so. After Christmas I was planning on not going home as much because it made the homesickness worse but ended up still going at least once a fortnight. I don't really know how to deal with it that well.. I don't want to be like this in my second year because I've got a job in uni so will need to be there at the weekend to work and I found that talking to my family on skype/phone just made it worse but I don't want to cut all contact with them either. But at the times when I was most distracted and had more things to do I was less homesick, I found. So this year I'm going to do volunteering, work, spend more time doing things and hope I can overcome it
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Try and start up a daily routine as soon as you can, then the whole living-away-from-home thing will seem a lot more normal and easier to cope with. Keeping busy is the best way not to think about home, and Freshers Week is a really good opportunity to dive into student life and do fun things every day. Skyping home and your old friends from home can also really help, just try not to do it all the time and miss out on making friends in your halls/on your course.
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I'll really, really miss my little sister when I go to uni, so I'm gunna get her a webcam and skype her a couple of times a week. I feel so bad, 'cause she's really upset that I'm leaving, she's used to my brothers not being here 'cause they started uni when she was like 3, but i've always been around and she's only 7 I feel proper guilty about it. Definitely be coming back for her birthday and stuff
Plus, I'll have no excuse to run around the house playing spies/Doctor Who
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(Original post by PhoenixFortune)
Try and start up a daily routine as soon as you can, then the whole living-away-from-home thing will seem a lot more normal and easier to cope with. Keeping busy is the best way not to think about home, and Freshers Week is a really good opportunity to dive into student life and do fun things every day. Skyping home and your old friends from home can also really help, just try not to do it all the time and miss out on making friends in your halls/on your course.
Yeah this is true. I was such a happier person when I was going to my lectures, going back to halls for lunch, back to lectures and then gym or something afterwards. It didn't last long though. But this year I'm definitely going to have more of a routine, and I'm living further away from uni so the walk to uni will be part of it which hopefully will make me happier too and then less homesick

I'm dreading the first few days of uni to be honest, and dreading leaving my family. That's the worst bit I remember after Christmas my whole family brought me back, we went shopping and then they all left it was really sad But the best thing to do is not mope and get out there, and if you're happy then your family will be happy and they won't worry.
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For the first few weeks yes, I think pretty much everyone does to a greater or lesser extent.

Can't say I've ever had that feeling since though. I always look forward to going home, I always get bored within a week or so, and I always look forward to going back to uni again.
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I am coping really badly with homesickness too and even though I have made some great friends sometimes that isn't always enough. I speak or try and speak to my family and boyfriend as often as it keeps my mind off things. Luckily for me I realised what badly caused my homesickness and sometimes it isn't there but it does come back. Look into things that can or will cheer you up or if things get worse speak to the wellbeing in the uni such as counselling which I have taken up use off, its honestly helping on days that I find difficult
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(Original post by HollieilloH)
Is there anyone else who sometimes gets homesick or is worried about getting homesick at university and does anyone have any advice on overcoming it?
The best way to overcome homesickness is to surround yourself with people. Socialise more, involve yourself in activities, call back home more often to check on your friends and family. Getting over homesickness does not necessarily mean that you need to detach yourself from your family, on the contrary, speak with them more, share more. But it is very important that you need to get more involved in activities, join societies or find a group with similar interest. As soon as you have your days planned out and something to look forward to, dealing with homesickness will get easier. Having a purpose is key here.
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