Pulling randoms - why?? - The Student Room

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I only ever do it when I'm completely hammered. It's not that fun, but it seems like a good idea at the time.

MB

I feel exactly the same. my friends always go on about there one nighters with all these diff guys. most of the time, they don't even know there name s :eek:

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Zerforax

Probably to feed the ego? cant understand it myself

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icedsilhouette

My (female) friend does it... I think in her case though it's to make her feel better about herself...

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schmitz

I suppose it's a bit like a game of spin the bottle really, but can have worse and more lasting consequences if things go too far in an environment like a club...

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lil_sweetie

If some guy did that to me I would kick him so hard in the balls. One of my mates got wasted on NY Eve and was trying to pull me all evening - I was literally pushing him off me. It's really cheesy behaviour, and is really degrading! Totally emotionless as well, I don't want to go round clubs kissing every random guy who's in my path and I can't understand why people do. :smile:

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*~Emma~*

I feel the same as you! I can't bring myself to do it when i know nothing about the person, not even their name - i can't feel that attracted to them when that's the case.

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Ilovepuremaths

I can't pull randoms. Most of my friends can and can't understand me. It really makes me feel quite ill. I've pulled 7 blokes in about 2 years, and all except one are people I've known really well.

The first was pretty much a random, and a really bad experience, which might have been what put me off i guess! I dunno, its different for everyone I suppose, but i dont think I'll ever change and be able to do it!

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Lady Venom

I can't pull randoms. It seems to be a majoritory bloke thing... (sorry guys!)

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InaSpin

I can't pull randoms. It seems to be a majoritory bloke thing... (sorry guys!)

Surely there is going to be roughly an equal amount of girls doing it!? :confused:

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laurenlauren

gas_panic!

Surely there is going to be roughly an equal amount of girls doing it!? :confused:

Haha either that or the hermaphrodites are about. I'd get with a random guy in a club if i liked him and had chatted to him for a bit....and it would probably be only one in one evening, but it'd only be if i liked them, not just for the sake of 'getting with' someone.

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Exoskeletal

used to do that when i was 13 / 14.
someone tried to do it to me last year and i was like WTF. how old are you?!

it just seems slightly immature.
but hey, each to their own.

you carry on pursuing your deeper connections. you're on the right path.

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emilyemily

I couldn't get off with someone I've hardly spoken two words to.

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toiletwall

I'm sure there is an equal amount of girls. Much better to kiss someone you know and like though. Probably done for a self-esteem boost.

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Mrs_F

Like everyone has said it's probably an ego boost. I have done it myself a long time ago.

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girlpants

my friends' night isnt complete unless she snogs a random, i think she does it to make her feel better, she has low self-esteem

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puppy

jeff2233

Sorry for the seedy title, but whichever way I write it it's going to sound bad!

Right. Something I've noticed since I've been back from Uni and going out with my old friends, is that nearly all of them are able to just get off with random girls at will and think nothing of it.

This is something that I've never been able to do, it's just not in my character. I find it impossible just to kiss someone in a club (or anywhere) that I've never met before, have only known for a few minutes, probably not even spoken to, have no kind of connection with and will probably never see again. I was with my mates in a club on New Years eve and between them they must have got off with at least 5 different girls each... each time it was like, **see an attractive girl, shuffle towards her, dance with her for a few minutes (maybe a bit of groping involved) whisper something that she can't even hear, kiss her and move on to the next one.**

The whole thing to me just seems completely emotionless, sterile and ultimately pointless, because you'll probably never see the person again and it's more than likely that you wouldn't have liked them anyway if you hadn't had a few drinks. I'm just interested to know if there are any other guys or girls who share my opinions, or if indeed I am the only 19 year old guy in the country (or this forum at least) who feels that way. Because at the moment, that's how it feels... :redface:

If you don't like it, don't do it- that's fairly straight forward. As to the rest, most people wouldn't do it without alcohol involved, they either wouldn't have the confidence to proposition someone or wouldn't find anyone drunk enough to find them attractive. People have hugely varying attitudes towards intimacy, there's no real reason why some people are able to do stuff with randoms and others aren't, it just depends how desensitised they are to stuff like that. If you're someone who's anxious about physical contact with others and falls for people easily then obviously you're not the ideal candidate for casual sex- everyone's different.

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Sir Joe

god tell me about it, i confirmed that i agree with you on NYE

Since June i've commited to one girl, but in december she went to South africa for a month, and told me she wasnt going to see me any more and also said dont feel bad if i got with other girls while she is gone.

On NYE i got hammered, and when the clock struck 12 everyone started pulling everyone, i tried to resist but felt like an idiot only giving 'pecks' so pulled this girl who had been following me around alot and i didn't really know, so was intregued. But then the OTHER girl who had been following me around alot looked at me like i was leaving her out, so i pulled her, then both girls started kissing my chest and another girl pulled me while this was going on. Seemed fun at the time but now i'm thinking what the hell am i doing, it was so meaningless, really makes you appreciate having a regular girl you respect and care for, hope i can get one again soon, random pulling really isn't for me. It was dirty and there was no challenge, not my thing. After it happend i ran outside and thought what the **** am i doing.

The only good thing about it was it reminded me of how ifelt in year 10 where i didn't have to worry about anything.