confused!!

cutie_catty

Well its a love problem!!! Im sorry if this is boring

But I have a boyf who I have been going out for bout 18 months and I do love him to bits!! N he really cares and looks after me!!!

But on new years eve night I got really really friendly with an old friend who is away at uni and we v v nearly got off and did other stuff. We would have, had my friend not dragged me away! N hes also a lovely lovely guy and v hot!

I really dont know what to do some1 please help!! xx x x x

Well you didnt do anything in the end so theres no reason to tell your boyfriend but ask yourself this
Why was you going to do it?? and dont go because the guy is nice and v hot because im sure theres more do it than something that shallow

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OP

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Originally Posted by cutie_catty
Well its a love problem!!! Im sorry if this is boring

But I have a boyf who I have been going out for bout 18 months and I do love him to bits!! N he really cares and looks after me!!!

But on new years eve night I got really really friendly with an old friend who is away at uni and we v v nearly got off and did other stuff. We would have, had my friend not dragged me away! N hes also a lovely lovely guy and v hot!

I really dont know what to do some1 please help!! xx x x x

Well you didnt do anything in the end so theres no reason to tell your boyfriend but ask yourself this
Why was you going to do it?? and dont go because the guy is nice and v hot because im sure theres more do it than something that shallow
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Ye i know, but since I've been with my boyfriend I've never had feelings for another guy!!

Ye its not just becuase this guy is hot!!! He makes me feel soo special and is just sooo lovely and we've always kind of clicked but arghhh its sooo annoying, why cant he just be a mate

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cutie_catty

Ye its not just becuase this guy is hot!!! He makes me feel soo special and is just sooo lovely and we've always kind of clicked but arghhh its sooo annoying, why cant he just be a mate

He cant be that great if he knows you gota boyfriend and yet is still making moves on you, you got to think of things like that, if he does it to you he will do it to other girls to.
and yet theres your boyfriend who makes you feel special and lovely to yet he isn't a player

Reply 4

OP

He cant be that great if he knows you gota boyfriend and yet is still making moves on you, you got to think of things like that, if he does it to you he will do it to other girls to.
and yet theres your boyfriend who makes you feel special and lovely to yet he isn't a player/QUOTE]

He didnt know I had a boyf. He is great but I cant decide its just as a m8 or not! Hes normally really shy round girls so I dont know!! But yehhh my boyf makes me feel v v special and def aint a player!!

Reply 5

cutie_catty

He didnt know I had a boyf. He is great but I cant decide its just as a m8 or not! Hes normally really shy round girls so I dont know!! But yehhh my boyf makes me feel v v special and def aint a player!!

There you go then your bf has all the qualities this other guy has and some more to, so when you think about it you shouldn't decide more than to get rid of this other guy

Reply 6

OP

yehhhh i guess so!!!!! Maybe he is just an amazingly close friend

Reply 7

cutie_catty

yehhhh i guess so!!!!! Maybe he is just an amazingly close friend

If he was or wanted anything more you would be going out ages ago, and dont make any excuses to avoid the truth on that one

Reply 8

OP

I dont know becuase he changed loads recently and so have I!

Reply 9

cutie_catty

I dont know becuase he changed loads recently and so have I!

Thats not a answer :p:

Unless theres issues going on with you and your bf,
I suggest you pull yourself together and realise/respect what you got with your bf, sorry if i sound harsh but its one of them situations where you gota be blunt

Reply 10

OP

hehe, i do appreciate it!! I dunno just that ive neva had feelings for any of guys since we've been going out I now I do i think

Reply 11

Leigh

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Is everything you and your boyfriend have worth risking over what could be a date/kiss that never works out?

If he's made you feel more special in couple of minutes you spent with him on New Year's Eve, enough to make you question your 18 month long relationship with your boyfriend, I'd worry about your relationship.

One thing that may be good if you do decide to be friends with this guy is make it very clear you have a boyfriend. That way, if he does come onto you (like he was at new year? I don't know) then you can see he doesn't respect what you have and perhaps isn't all that great a guy anyway.

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cutie_catty

hehe, i do appreciate it!! I dunno just that ive neva had feelings for any of guys since we've been going out I now I do i think

Naturally your going to meet other guys from time to time and think "what if i had been with him" especially in teenage years.
But its times like that you gota snap out of it and think
"Shut up ge a grip i gota perfectly good bf in a good relationship, so why risk it with another guy which may never work out"

Reply 13

OP

Yee i guess but what if that relationship might be the one for me

Reply 14

cutie_catty

Yee i guess but what if that relationship might be the one for me

Is your relationship not good enough to the point its worth splitting up and risking it with someone else??
Because if it fails with the other guy and you see your bf with someone else your so going to kick yourself.
Also you say this guy didnt know you had a bf, so if he has genuine feelings about you what was stopping him offering to maybe consider a relationship

Reply 15

OP

he has, he sed did i wanna go out for a meal and see what happens! If thats the thing I do love my boyf! Arghhh i dont no

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cutie_catty

he has, he sed did i wanna go out for a meal and see what happens! If thats the thing I do love my boyf! Arghhh i dont no

Go out for a meal and see what happens???? thats a guys subtle way of wanting no strings fun hunny.
If he was genuine he wouldnt of come on to you and all that until after the meal.
And like you say you love your boyfriend and he treats you right so.

Reply 17

OP

Yeee i mite do!! Just as a m8 though!!! I dont see why he wudnt have tried 2 get off wiv if he was weird!!!
I do love my boyf!! N hes always been there for me etc

Reply 18

cutie_catty

Yeee i mite do!! Just as a m8 though!!! I dont see why he wudnt have tried 2 get off wiv if he was weird!!!
I do love my boyf!! N hes always been there for me etc

No i mean if the other guy was genuine, he wouldnt of attempted to get off with you and more, then suggest a meal and see what happens, he would of invited you to a meal and waited for abit before coming on 2 you
Are you with me yet??? he sounds like his new persona is a player,
if you had any sense you would stick with your bf

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