Was She For Real?

Spent a year with my x and then she broke up with me using the reason family. After the breakup we contacted each other allot on the phone and net until the last 1 month, she decides to cut communication to a minimum.

Now I ask her a month down the line, after my attempts you still dont talk to me even as a friend. She said shes just busy and when she does its just weird and dont know what to say. She also said in the text that I need to realise that shes moved on and so do I.
I have moved on allot but what I dont get is, if some 1 is forced to stop loving some one due to family shouldnt they still have somthing for that person as they were told not to carry on in that relationship.

Her family means the world to her and at one point so did I (according to her).
What does this all mean?
She said she can trust me more then anyone yet in terms of chatting she cant?

Reply 1

strawberrie

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Reply 2

ApeXaviour

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Anonymous

Spent a year with my x and then she broke up with me using the reason family.

What family reason? Please elaborate..

It sounds like she is for real. The only way to completely get over somebody is to cut off all contact with them. You can't blame her for that. What do you want from her? Friendship? To rekindle something? Be honest with yourself..

Reply 3

I miss the friendship allot and yeah mayb rekindle.
I just asked her when she stopped wearing my necklace I got for her as its been 3 months since the split.

She said she wears it everyday and still does.

Reply 4

jointhedots

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Anonymous

I miss the friendship allot and yeah mayb rekindle.
I just asked her when she stopped wearing my necklace I got for her as its been 3 months since the split.

She said she wears it everyday and still does.

I don't mean to sound harsh, but I still wear jewellery that my ex's have got me and it doesn't mean I still feel anything more than friendship towards them...

It sounds to me like she is 'for real'. It is kind of hard on you that she's decided to totally cut communication...But it's never easy choosing to end a long term relationship, and if this is what she feels she needs to do then you need to respect that for now.

She might well decide she can handle being friends a few months down the line...She might even decide she wants to get back with you. But I know when I've ended relationships the most overwhelming emotion once I'm through the initial sadness is guilt.

She might be feeling like that, and if so then she needs to distance herself from you in order to get through it, and be able think about what she really wants for yours and hers futures.

Reply 5

Bob123

There plenty more fish in the sea!

Just get on with your life, get yourself a brand spanking new girl :smile:

Reply 6

yo_dude

Yeah dude, you're still attached to her.. you need to move on as said before.

Reply 7

huangxiaoxia

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i split up with my first boyfriend,and i don't cut off all contact with him .
at least ,i know his mobile phone number.there are many reason leading us to break up.
but i still remeber the happy moment we have.now i know he has been with his girlfriend for 3 years.so do i. i hope him have good time with his girfriend.it's silly maybe.

Reply 8

El Scotto

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Anonymous

Spent a year with my x and then she broke up with me using the reason family. After the breakup we contacted each other allot on the phone and net until the last 1 month, she decides to cut communication to a minimum.

Now I ask her a month down the line, after my attempts you still dont talk to me even as a friend. She said shes just busy and when she does its just weird and dont know what to say. She also said in the text that I need to realise that shes moved on and so do I.
I have moved on allot but what I dont get is, if some 1 is forced to stop loving some one due to family shouldnt they still have somthing for that person as they were told not to carry on in that relationship.

Her family means the world to her and at one point so did I (according to her).
What does this all mean?
She said she can trust me more then anyone yet in terms of chatting she cant?

Keep 'em mean, keep 'em keen.

Lay of contacting her, and If she does still feel anything for you (which I doubt) she'll start calling you more often because she'll wonder why you arnt contacting her. Sounds like shes got a new boyfriend to be honest.

I think no contact would be good for you, In fact its good for anyone splitting up till the raw emotion subsides, then If you can think about being friends a lot further down the line when you dont care so much about the previous.

Reply 9

chris101

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Reply 10

misslibby

I don't mean to sound harsh, but I still wear jewellery that my ex's have got me and it doesn't mean I still feel anything more than friendship towards them...

This wasnt any jewellery, it was a necklace I bought her the first day me and her starting going out which was the same day as her b/day.
It was a heart shaped one which expressed my love for her in a way also.
She always said she would wear it as she loved me so much, so the answer I got 'I always wear it' and nothing more or less kind of hinted to me the love is still there.

Reply 11

El Scotto

Keep 'em mean, keep 'em keen.

Lay of contacting her, and If she does still feel anything for you (which I doubt) she'll start calling you more often because she'll wonder why you arnt contacting her. Sounds like shes got a new boyfriend to be honest.

I think no contact would be good for you, In fact its good for anyone splitting up till the raw emotion subsides, then If you can think about being friends a lot further down the line when you dont care so much about the previous.

Its been 3 and a half months since the split, in the 1st month for 2weeks we kept off contact. Then the third week I contacted her every night and we would talk and get close. That lasted on and off for for 2 months.
Then towards the end of november she said she cant do this no more and doesnt want it esculating.
So december till this day forward we have barely spoke on the phone, just few texts and 2-3 phone conversations lasting no more then 20mins in total.

The most nc has been around 4-5 days so far, and she texted me saying 'hope your ok'. Then a week or so ago I tried calling her and then 2-3 days later at around 12:40am she texted me asking for me to call her.
I called her but she didnt know what to say and yesterday in the text she said the reason why I cant talk to you hardly on the phone is it feels weird and just dont know what to say.

She has empthasised that things have changed and will not be the same again.
I made it clear to her that I wanted the friendship we had, were we would have a laugh and be happy but she said shes happy how it is now.

I really dont understand and if it is another guy then why after she broke up with me, did she tell me that if she had the option of going out with any guy she would never of left me.
Her family are old fashioned and dont want her to be dating until after her degree.

Reply 12

Katia

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Anonymous

This wasnt any jewellery, it was a necklace I bought her the first day me and her starting going out which was the same day as her b/day.
It was a heart shaped one which expressed my love for her in a way also.
She always said she would wear it as she loved me so much, so the answer I got 'I always wear it' and nothing more or less kind of hinted to me the love is still there.

The love's bound to still be there!
I agree with the "treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" thing..it really works :biggrin:

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