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Your parents- ok with you having sex?

Just wondered, how are everyones' parents here about you having sex/talking about sex?
Are they very open about it, do they not mind?
Or, are they the type who would prefer you didn't but say: 'Just be careful!'?
Or, are they the type for whom it is a bit of a taboo, they think you are too young to be initiating in such activity and pretty much forbid you to (obviously very hard, but try to)?

For me it's the latter. My dad doesn't mention it at all, but my mum is always going on about the wrongs of sex, how I'm too young- (I'm a 17, nearly 18 yr old girl) and she tries to scare me by going on about teenage pregnancy etc, fair enough. However, I have a boyfriend and we've been having safe sex for 1.5 yrs. My parents don't know a thing. It really gets to me, I wish my mum atleast was open about it and I could talk to her/get her advice.

Can you talk to your parents about it easily??

I think there's definitely a difference between how parents treat their girl or boy about this, and religion can also come into it. D'you agree?

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Reply 1

Peter North

well my parents are christians, and dont belive in sex before marrige etc, they wouldnt like it

Reply 2

Segat1

My mum, who is Catholic, was always very open with me about it all. I could ask her questions and she was brill at answering them. Always emphasised the need to be safe, sure it was the right decision and she put me on the pill when I asked to be. I loved my mum for that, that she didn't impose her beliefs on me for a personal issue. Some of my mates feel so guilty about sex, cos thier mum told them it was dirty - so sad!

Reply 3

The Albatross

lol at your sig CrouchMagic^

my parents are really open about it, so i'm lucky i guess. my boyf and i sleep together when we stay at my parents, and my mum and i talk about it fairly often. at first it was just - be careful, but a year on, we are now swapping tips!
my boyfriend is taiwanese and i was worried that when we went over there in the summer his parents might have issues, but thaey were completely fine with it too! we slept in a real double bed for the first time, and it was great!

Reply 4

mtbab

my mom was really open about it too me, she told me about sex when i was like six, so i was never really rebelious about it, lol, we dont talk about it now coz theres nothing to talk about, but shes a nurse and the other day she was at some conference and they gave everyone these goodie bags and there were about 20condoms in them and she just gave them to me and sed here you go, and that was it lol that was kinda awkward.

Reply 5

Never mentioned at all..
im 17 and my mum acts as if ive never heard of it before - eg. a cousin was pregnant and she couldnt even bring herself to say that :rolleyes:

In our family if its anything even sexual its like AVOID AVOID AVOID :redface:

Reply 6

leona

My mum would LOVE to be really open about it, which is great I suppose. She is really open and laid back about that sort of stuff. Sometimes a little too much though...

Reply 7

JonnyB

My mum's always been a bit of a laugh about it, the closest she's got to warning me is "I don't want to come home to find a screaming baby"

Cheers mum. :smile:

Reply 8

Exoskeletal

my mum and i have always been able to talk about it.
i think my parents always assumed i was having more sex than i actually was.

Reply 9

Beelzebub

My parents know I'm doing it, but don't want to hear about it. If I had a real problem and didn't know how to deal with it though, I know I could talk to my mum about it, she's just not interested in the ins and outs (as it were) of my sex life.

Reply 10

Catski

I really have no idea about my dad, as we don't really talk about sex, natch. My mum's open in that she accepts its something I do and knows I'll always be careful. We're close enough, and have discussed it enough, that she knows for me it'll never be casual or unprotected so she doesn't worry about it.

Reply 11

huangxiaoxia

my mum is also a christian,and my parents never talk with me about sex.now i'm 22.
both of them believe in sex before marriage,they'll have no happyness in future .

Reply 12

Tyler Durden

JonnyB

My mum's always been a bit of a laugh about it, the closest she's got to warning me is "I don't want to come home to find a screaming baby"

Cheers mum. :smile:

Reply 13

pink_lucie

i dont really think my parents are, i dont even remeber my mum telling me about sex, it was my older sister who did that. i learned all about bj etc cos my sister was like lucy! your 13! its time to tell you everything :redface:

but i did somehow know about sex before that.

Reply 14

amie

huangxiaoxia

both of them believe in sex before marriage,they'll have no happyness in future .

What do you mean by that? :confused:

Reply 15

pikaboo

My mum isn't comfortable with it but she just tells me to be careful. My dad couldn't care less.

Reply 16

Bexxxx

My parents dont talk about it that much. My dad once found some private conversations on the computer from my msn, i think i must have been discussing something sexual, so my mum asked if i was still a virgin. - but a bit more disceetly. I think she asked if i was being safe when i slept over boys houses. That was when i was like, 15 :rolleyes:

But we dont talk about sexual stuff, im at uni anyway so she doesnt have to know everrrything. :smile:

(but mothers always do.)

Reply 17

Dee27

My parents pretty much avoid the whole topic. Especially since they grew up in china, it's a bit of a taboo. Don't know what they thought when I was with my ex though, think they just blanked it out, with him as "my friend". His parents were the total opposite though, lol. Was quite interesting.

Reply 18

ciara

My parents have never discussed it in relation to me personally, but I think they probably know I do it as I sometimes get a "be safe" and a knowing look when I'm off to my boyfriend's house. Maybe they mean just safety in general but I don't think so...

However, I am not allowed my boyfriend (or any other boy for that matter) in my room without the door open, even now I'm at university, which is possibly the most ridiculous rule ever and kinda exposes their "not under my roof" attitude. It annoys me a lot, especially since we live in a bungalow so leaving my door open actually exposes me to the entire living room (we have a glass door), and as we only have 2 bedrooms my boyfriend can't stay over unless he wants the sofa bed. Yet my parents realise that at my boyfriend's house I stay in his bed! My mum always says, "it's not you we don't trust, it's men", but my parents love my boyfriend and we've been together over a year. She also knows I'm on the pill so there is very little chance of pregnancy.

Ah well, parents will be parents :rolleyes:

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Cxx

Reply 19