Jealous

I live a fair bit away from my girlfriend and we only see eachotther at weekends, for the last few months i have been getting really jealous of her and driving myself mad when she goes to her friends and think i bet she aint at her friends ect.. How do i get over this!?

Reply 1

WaW™

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Anonymous

I live a fair bit away from my girlfriend and we only see eachotther at weekends, for the last few months i have been getting really jealous of her and driving myself mad when she goes to her friends and think i bet she aint at her friends ect.. How do i get over this!?

IT IS PRETTY NORMAL TO HAVE THESE KIND OF FEELINGS AS ALL GIRSLA AND BOYS GO THROUGHT THEM. i think the answer is that you feel insecure and feel that she could leave you at any time for someone better loonking or someone more fun etc etc the thing is if you both care for each other and want it to last then all will be well if not then..... :frown:

Reply 2

We have been together for 2 and a halfyears and we have done stupid things to eachother but it just drives me crazy when i'm not with her and i have never felt like this before.

Reply 3

WaW™

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Anonymous

We have been together for 2 and a halfyears and we have done stupid things to eachother but it just drives me crazy when i'm not with her and i have never felt like this before.

maybe your in love????? :love:

maybe just maybe you should talk to her about it. if you have been going out for soooooo long i think it would be good to have a nice chat. :biggrin:

Reply 4

Mrs_F

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Most people get twinges of jealousy, afterall it's only natural. However, some people can go over the top and jealousy actually split me and my ex up. He went on stupid with me and I let him for 10 months until I came to my senses and realised that there was no way I could put up with that forever. My fiance is the total opposite, he totally trusts me and therefore has to reason to get jealous. Or at least he doesn't show it.

You should really talk to her about the way you fell otherwise it might end up driving her away from you.

Reply 5

lil_lisa86

i was with my bf for 2 and half years. we had a long distance relationship, and then i ended up at the same uni as him (only because it was the best uni for the course i wanted to do). ever since i got 2 uni, he became really jealous of me and what i was up to. in the end he pushed me too far and now its over. in 11 weeks our relationship went from being completely stable to being over because of jealousy. dont let it happen to you

Reply 6

Akhoza

Anonymous

I live a fair bit away from my girlfriend and we only see eachotther at weekends, for the last few months i have been getting really jealous of her and driving myself mad when she goes to her friends and think i bet she aint at her friends ect.. How do i get over this!?

If im you, i'll stalk her one night and i'll find out :wink:

Reply 7

Mortimer - i do love her.

lil_lisa86 & lynseyweth - is this something i can get over by myself?

Akhoza - i dont think that is the answer :rolleyes:

You cant

IMHO jealousy is a two way street.

- It can range from one partner acting in such a manner as to incite jealousy in their partner..
- To them simply not being sensitive enough or doing enough to allay their partners feelings of insecurity..
- Or to simple OTT irrational jealousy from the other partner.

The first one I have personal experience with a friend of mine who's girlfriend seems to be deliberately flirtatious with me infront of him. I'm quite sure it drives him mad though he'll never say it. I won't either as it would come across as cocky.

The second I also have personal experience with my ex. I feel justified in putting myself into this category and not the third as she actually ended up dumping me for the person I was jealous of. The person who I was told "was like a brother to her" and she "could never think of him in that way". I thought there was a bit of an undercurrent with them, turns out I was right :frown:

Never been that way with any other partner... so yeah, two-way street.

Reply 10

El Scotto

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Anonymous

I live a fair bit away from my girlfriend and we only see eachotther at weekends, for the last few months i have been getting really jealous of her and driving myself mad when she goes to her friends and think i bet she aint at her friends ect.. How do i get over this!?

What jealousy really going to do to you?

The only thing jealousy can do is drive a relationship apart.

If someone wants to be with someone, they will be.

If they're gonna cheat, they'll cheat.

Theres nothing jealousy can do to change or prevent either of the above.

I'd just knock it on the head if I were you mate.

Reply 11

Tarts_n_Vicars

13

Put up with it or get over it. If she's never given you reason to doubt her you know the problem is yours so you either rise above it or break up.

Reply 12

lukeharmz

El Scotto- Trust me i trying to knock it on the head, the only thing it will do will be us splitting up.

Tarts_n_Vicars- Well she said she was out with her girl mates but she was out with load of blokes!
The way i see it is there is something to hide because she lied to me!

Reply 13

El Scotto

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anonymous

El Scotto- Trust me i trying to knock it on the head, the only thing it will do will be us splitting up.

Tarts_n_Vicars- Well she said she was out with her girl mates but she was out with load of blokes!
The way i see it is there is something to hide because she lied to me!

ever thought that she could of lied to you because she knew you'd get all jealous and react badly?

Play it cool,

I used to have a nuts ex girlfriend who was jealous all the time, so I used to lie to her out of habit just so I didnt have to put up with the jealousy, she'd then catch me out lying and think I was upto something when I wasnt, and I'd get even more grief!

Reply 14

El Scotto- Trust me i trying to knock it on the head, the only thing it will do will be us splitting up.

Tarts_n_Vicars- Well she said she was out with her girl mates but she was out with load of blokes!
The way i see it is there is something to hide because she lied to me!

ever thought that she could of lied to you because she knew you'd get all jealous and react badly?

Play it cool,

I used to have a nuts ex girlfriend who was jealous all the time, so I used to lie to her out of habit just so I didnt have to put up with the jealousy, she'd then catch me out lying and think I was upto something when I wasnt, and I'd get even more grief!

I do play it cool and i dont show my feeling to her.

Reply 15

never take any crap from any women. Is the way to live your life by.

Reply 16

Mrs_F

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Anonymous

lil_lisa86 & lynseyweth - is this something i can get over by myself?

You have got to learn to trust her. Do you have reason to distrust her?

Reply 17

lil_lisa86

Anonymous

lil_lisa86 & lynseyweth - is this something i can get over by myself?

tell her how you feel. my bf didnt tell me he was jealous until it was too late. i knew there was something wrong and wanted to help, but he wouldnt talk 2 me. if you tell her she may be able to help you get over it.

Reply 18

CherryGarcia

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oh, I have distance relationships now, and my BF is currently in Italy now, I have been there with his family last week, next week he is comming back to Uk, but I odnt know why but I am going mad when he tells me he wants to go out, I know I trust him for 100%, and i know he never cheats, and he would never do smth like that to me. I met all his friends,but still I want him to sit home, closed in room and talk to me, I know this is madness and I dont show it to him...but this is the way I feel, i think i am just to in love, and now I became like too possesive, but I behave myself and dont let this madness influence us in a bad way...but poor my BF..today his friends invited him out and he told no, I asked why and he told, coz I knew u would not feel comfortable, i tried to make him go, coz know that he sees his pals for the first time in 5 months, but he didnt go...poor him... :frown:

Reply 19

CherryGarcia

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if you think that talking to her just will split u up with her, then I dont understand what kind of relationships you have, I mean after 2 year being together you still cant be totaly honest and open with each other? it is your feelings, you must be able to talk about your feelings to yuor partner, or am i wrong here? If not her, who else can help you?

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