My gf is too stupid for me...

Indus1986

I'm just kidding myself that it is O.K. It is not that she is really stupid, in fact she is above normal but I still find it annoying. I just think I am too intelligent and refined for her and I am wondering should I pull out and hope for the right one....

I still enjoy our time, I like the contrast between us. It is refreshing after a long hard day...

What should I do?...

Ha, the title sounds retarded.

Reply 1

Wild Thing

11

Well I think intelligence is pretty important. I could never go out with a stupid guy. But then it's up to you to see how much she means to you. :smile:

Reply 2

pikaboo

13

You like the time you spend together but you find her annoying? Respect for your partner is vital in a relationship so you should be seriously considering where this is heading. If you find yourself looking down on her often then it'll only turn out bad in the long run. How long have you been with her? Perhaps you're yet to discover a more intellectual side to her...a lot of girls deliberately play dumb sometimes to look cute ( :redface:

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Reply 3

burningwings

1

eurgh.
sorry. fair enough if she's really thick..i (this is horrible so sorry) can't stand really stupid and/or ignorant people. However, if she's above average.. maybe the relationship isnt worth it, and she can get someone who appriciates her more.
I hate arrogance though, so you saying "I think I am too intelligent and refined for her" put my hackles up and put me on her side.

Reply 4

Fire Point

12

If nyou egt along and have a laugh with her I don't see the prob. I've been out with girls less intelligent quite alot but it's abouttheir qualities in myopinion.

Reply 5

happydinosaur

15

If you don't think she is right for you then don't stay with her. Personally I also think intelligence is important and like really clever guys, because it is all about personality and how clever you are is quite a big part of that.

Reply 6

Indus1986

OP

4

She not annoying, far from it. It is just sometime I wish I could talk about the things that interest me (im a bit of a nerd), do u know sometimes i just like to have a philosophical debate or something...

Reply 7

Wild Thing

11

Indus1986

She not annoying, far from it. It is just sometime I wish I could talk about the things that interest me (im a bit of a nerd), do u know sometimes i just like to have a philosophical debate or something...

you have friends for that.

OP

True.

do you try bringing topics up that interest you? she might just not discuss things like that because she doesn't think you want to talk about them with her...

Reply 10

happydinosaur

15

pikaboo

You like the time you spend together but you find her annoying? Respect for your partner is vital in a relationship so you should be seriously considering where this is heading. If you find yourself looking down on her often then it'll only turn out bad in the long run. How long have you been with her? Perhaps you're yet to discover a more intellectual side to her...a lot of girls deliberately play dumb sometimes to look cute ( :redface:

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true...

Reply 11

pumpkin7

13

sheesh man, you have your head stuck up your own ass.

Reply 12

Fruit-cake

9

sparklyteacosie

If you don't think she is right for you then don't stay with her. Personally I also think intelligence is important and like really clever guys, because it is all about personality and how clever you are is quite a big part of that.

i dont think intelligence plays any part in personality. i went out with a guy who was pretty thick, and he didnt have alot of personality as i found out, and i broke up with him because i didnt enjoy spending time with him. they guy im seeing now is quite intelligent yet, i started seeing him before i knew him and now im wondering if he has much of a personality, because he sure doesnt show much. i have friends who arent that intelligent on the other hand who have great personalitys, so i really dont think personality is at all linked with intelligence.

Reply 13

ProfessorFitBoy

2

As long as proper and meaningful communication, conversation and understanding of each other is present in a relationship, 'intelligence' in the narrow sense is generally not that important - but however those who are able to communicate well etc with each other usually are of similar levels of intelligence - hence intelligence often being placed on the checklist for mr/miss right.

I think that intelligence in the restricted sense will only become a factor if you make it one.

Reply 14

Whizz

1

The very fact that your bringing this up means that its obviously something thats important to you (intelligence , i mean), so the option of forgetting about it and carrying on as you are really isn't an option at all.

It seems to me (and i could be wrong here) that you don't see her as equal to you. And if you don't see her as an equal, you can't really respect her in the way she (or anyone) deserves to be respected. Therefore, why don't you just spare her and yourself the misery and heartbreak?

If you enjoy spending time with her, then make an effort to stay friends.

Its better to hurt someone a little bit now that a lot later.

HTH, G Luck! x

p.s. Don't EVER tell her that the reason your breaking up with her is because she's stupid... seriously, just don't.

Reply 15

happydinosaur

15

mini_munchkin

i dont think intelligence plays any part in personality. i went out with a guy who was pretty thick, and he didnt have alot of personality as i found out, and i broke up with him because i didnt enjoy spending time with him. they guy im seeing now is quite intelligent yet, i started seeing him before i knew him and now im wondering if he has much of a personality, because he sure doesnt show much. i have friends who arent that intelligent on the other hand who have great personalitys, so i really dont think personality is at all linked with intelligence.

I am not saying that all stupid people have no personality whatsoever and that all super intelligent people have fantastic personalities. All I am trying to say is that for me, personally intelligence forms a large part of someone's personality because it shapes who they are as a person. I like guys who I can have fantastic conversations with about literature and politics and theatre..and it just so happens that everyone who I have met like this is quite intelligent. If personality is about who you are and your qualities and traits then intelligence is going to come into it somewhere.

Reply 16

Whizz

1

OR (and i just thought of this...)

You could just stop being so damn snooty and get over yourself! :p:

Reply 17

Poica

14

mini_munchkin

i dont think intelligence plays any part in personality. i went out with a guy who was pretty thick, and he didnt have alot of personality as i found out, and i broke up with him because i didnt enjoy spending time with him. they guy im seeing now is quite intelligent yet, i started seeing him before i knew him and now im wondering if he has much of a personality, because he sure doesnt show much. i have friends who arent that intelligent on the other hand who have great personalitys, so i really dont think personality is at all linked with intelligence.

You're an idiot. Everyone has a personality. Whether or not it's one you like is another matter.

I think intelligence is important, as otherwise it's difficult to share interests (He likes chess, she likes flicking herself in the eye and giggling). However, it's not the only thing, there is also a sense of humour, looks, manner, etc. etc. to factor into the attraction in the relationship. Depends how interested in her as a person you really are.