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Has anyone ever been told by a friend that they were in love with you? How did you handle the situation? Were things horribly arkward afterwards? Are you still friends?

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Reply 1

pumpkin7

hmm i had that happen once. thigsn were awkward for a while, but he got over it and moved on pretty quick.. :smile:

Reply 2

Whizz

Yes.

I couldn't look him in the eye for ages...

No idea how he thought he had a chance - i mean, i even gave him the old "your such a good FRIEND" line.

Anyway, we're not particularly close (not that we were before, but that was more a concious effort on my part). Depends on how much this guy means to you as a friend. If your close, then your relationship will survive it. If your not, then move on baby :wink:

Reply 3

law123

Yeah and they probably still do, it hard at first and it hard not to lead them on because you want to protect them. You get through it in the end, we have managed to maintain best freind status all the way through. Although difficult at times

Reply 4

it happened to me the other week...but i'm worried i didn't handle it too well
basically i'm not sure he got the message but i really don't want to hurt him

Reply 5

law123

I never gave him the message clearly enough, but we have still worked through it. This was over a year ago he still has feelings for me but we still manage to be best mates. It hard but if you want it you can make it work

Reply 6

Leigh

I'm going to take a guess here, but are you the one that's going to be doing the telling? Just the way you asked the questions it doesn't sound like you've experienced it yet and it's not like you can tell when a friend is going to ask you.

If that is the case, then make sure you're doing the right thing; if they have a girlfriend or whatever, it's not worth the risk. If you think maybe it's just an impulse thing, maybe you just broke up with someone else and just need someone to be there for you, it probably isn't a good idea then either. On the flipside, it could be the best thing that ever happened to you, just think real hard first, then be brave second.

If I'm wrong and it's not you doing the telling, then I apologise, I've never been in that situation so couldn't say.

Reply 7

Rapid Hope Loss

it wasn't me doing the asking

on the impulse front though...i had just kissed another guy who is both of our friends so i know thats what caused it...it also caused a fight which didn't make me feel great either

Reply 8

law123

thinking about it this has happened on severl occassions to me and have vairous effects. It depends how much you want the friendship to work as to how successful the aftermath is

Naw, not yet...

I did. it made things ood for a bit, but now it's all ok again. just give it time

Reply 11

Lady Venom

Yep...they got over it quickly enough!

Reply 12

ApeXaviour

Never happened to me. I have nearly done it once or twice when I was much younger. Looking back I'm soo thankful I chickened out. It's naivity plain and simple. Naivity caused by american unrealistic movies that put across this ridiculous notion...

Actually makes me angry quite angry. As a younger teenager they just implant these ludicrous ideas! Oh if you just "say how you feel" to somebody that you obviously have no chance with, they'll magically like you.. Ugh :mad:

saps.

Reply 13

emilyemily

Yes. I made it clear I didn't fancy him and we're still good friends.

Reply 14

MNBStyle

Rapid Hope Loss

Has anyone ever been told by a friend that they were in love with you? How did you handle the situation? Were things horribly arkward afterwards? Are you still friends?

Yes, and i just basically said i didnt see them in that way and i wouldn't want to risk a good friendship, and were still good friends now.

Reply 15

Rach:)

Yep, it happened to me whilst I was going out with his best mate....i thought he got over it, but then a year later he told me he still loved me and couldnt ever see me again because of it. I broke up with my boyfriend recently (nothing to do with him!) and we're still friends....but its kinda weird :frown: