my boyfriend, and drugs...

Hmm this is a very tough one. Do you know how often he does it?

I dont agree with the people who say to give him an ultinatum of 'me or drugs' because theres not a whole lot of reason to if the drugs arent affecting him or the relationship negatively. From what you say (he did really well in college etc) he seems to have a good head on his shoulders. I have quite a few friends who use class A drugs and they know what they're doing, the risks involved and have a great time doing it. Like other people said, the main problem with coke is its addictive properties. If the addiction is under control then dont just rashly end the relationship.

DEFINITELY talk to him about it though, its obviously something that is quite an important issue to you. If anything, he will give you peace of mind that he knows what hes doing. I would get worried however if he responded to your talking to him (as long as you dont approach it in an aggressive or negative way) by refusing to talk about how often he does it, how much hes spending and whether he knows the risks involved. He should feel comfortable enough and open enough with you to tell you things like that.

I've learnt about it's effects the hard way.

I wish some of my mates who knew i was doing it tried to encourage me top stop.

Don't turn a blind eye, tell him it's causing you a problem, and that it will cause him a problem if he continues to use!

Just say NO like Zamo!

im just waiting till i see him face to face to have a proper chat about it

I know perfectly 'normal' people who do coke.

... he can do it with his friends as long as he doesnt do too much

So he will just do it when you are not around and lie about how much drugs he is using.

Sounds like he won and you lost.
Of course, in the long term, he is a big time loser. Junkies always are.

If they are in an honest trusting relationship, there will be no reason to lie about how much hes using.

Its also not about 'winning and losing' as you seem to think it is.

And with occasional drug use, you're not automatically a junkie as you seem to think. But then I doubt anyone can change your views on these kind of matters.

Pete Doherty does cocaine (yea yea and heroin..) and look at what HE turned out like.

You or the drugs I say.