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You know what I can't stand?

Girls who say guys "used them". Okay, so in some contexts this is fair enough - when guys lead girls on, telling them they want a relationship, shagging the s**t out of them and sodding off, but when people say they were "used" this is rarely the case. It's so annoying, because it does take two to tango, and, assuming the girl wasn't raped, no one forced her to do it. It was of her own volition. If she is someone who'd be hurt by getting a pull then the guy not wanting the relationship to go further, don't pull a guy before you know him!!

Why not do what the majority of blokes do when they get lead on? Suck it up, and get on with it. Although I suppose, what with guys being sex crazed, cock-centred maniacs, guys enjoy getting used, right? Girls aren't any different to guys - and if this DOES really affect girls more than blokes, then girls must be bloody useless - no wonder everyone hates feminists.

Discuss.

(For the record, i'm not bitter - i've never been accused of using anyone, though I know many who have. It's just reading posts on here really pisses me off a lot of the time, seeing girls whine on about s**t that's just as much their fault as the horrible, disgusting bloke they're talking about.)
Reply 1
DanGrover
Girls who say guys "used them". Okay, so in some contexts this is fair enough - when guys lead girls on, telling them they want a relationship, shagging the s**t out of them and sodding off, but when people say they were "used" this is rarely the case. It's so annoying, because it does take two to tango, and, assuming the girl wasn't raped, no one forced her to do it. It was of her own volition. If she is someone who'd be hurt by getting a pull then the guy not wanting the relationship to go further, don't pull a guy before you know him!!

Why not do what the majority of blokes do when they get lead on? Suck it up, and get on with it. Although I suppose, what with guys being sex crazed, cock-centred maniacs, guys enjoy getting used, right? Girls aren't any different to guys - and if this DOES really affect girls more than blokes, then girls must be bloody useless - no wonder everyone hates feminists.

Discuss.

(For the record, i'm not bitter - i've never been accused of using anyone, though I know many who have. It's just reading posts on here really pisses me off a lot of the time, seeing girls whine on about s**t that's just as much their fault as the horrible, disgusting bloke they're talking about.)


Wow.... you're scary *runs away*

No, seriously, if you are used thats horrible. Guys and girls are similar. Of course no=one likes getting used. However the difference is (which you have identified) that boys iternalise and "suck it up", being brave etc whereas girls express thier dissapointment and get angry at themselves for being idiots. The girls on here whinging (I'm one) need to get it off thier chests, and get others opinions. And its a learning process. Its only taken 25 years for me to work it out.
Reply 2
DanGrover
Girls who say guys "used them". Okay, so in some contexts this is fair enough - when guys lead girls on, telling them they want a relationship, shagging the s**t out of them and sodding off.


You have just completely contradicted yourself.

And guys use girls, and girls use guys. It's a simple fact. Yeah some people may have been stupid enough to get involved, but what about those who didn't know they were being used, and really thought the person they were seeing wanted to get involved?

And I am talking from personal experience.

Until you have been hurt in this way, you have no right to comment really.