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I think I'm pregnant!
Hello,
I can't talk to my mum as she is at work and nobody is in the house and I can't phone anyone to talk to, so I'm just going to write it down and get it out!
My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for about 10/11 months, we've always been good friends and went to the same high school. We love each other lots. He's in the navy now and works down in Plymouth. I still live up north and am in my second year of college doing my A levels, hoping to go to uni... this year!
Right so, we first had sex on Chritmas Eve, we took all the precautions, used protection (condoms). All was fine. We have then had sex a number of times after that. One night (Boxing day) he had, had a few pints but wasn't drunk. I hadn't had anything to drink! So we got carried away etc. (we hadnt had penetrative sex at this next stage). We were using a condom while I pleasured him (because when he ejaculates it goes all over...)
Anyway, I took the condom off because I thought it might make it feel better. When he came it went all over, but it was dark so I don't know if he had it on his hands. Anyway he pleasured me with his hands after that. (That's the bit I'm unsure about!) After that when we had penetrative sex we used a new condom... so all was ok... so i thought!
The day after I started getting paranoid and thinking about it, whether you could get pregnant if he fingered me after what had happened. I thought there was a good possiblity. We talked about it, me all worried. He wasn't sure what had happened, neither was I. So I decided I'd get a pregnancy test the day after. (I was going to take the morning after pill but I find it hard taking pills)
After talking about it some more and reading, i didn't think it would detect a pregnancy so soon afterwards. Also we took all the precautions etc!!
So we carried on having sex (we used protection everytime). Now about a week on, I'm starting to worry again. Last night I had wind, and my breasts seem larger. Which are possible signs I suppose. It may be psychological, but I'm not sure. My periods are all over the place anyway, so judging it from them would be tricky!
My boyfriend has gone back to work and we are both depressed becuase of that. I have exams next week and I'm all stressed out!
I was thinking of buying a pregnancy test today but I don't know whether it would register!... I'm just feelling like rubbish basically!
I don't know who to talk to, of course my boyfriend but I can't ring him until tonight. I'm in two minds whether to talk ot my mum about it (we are close but I don't know if I have the guts to tell her this.) My best mate is back at school and isn't so easy to contact as she lives in a different county. Hmmmph!
Please would anyone give me any advice or anything!? Please don't judge and think I'm another stupid teenager who didn't think responsibly, because I've always been thought as one of the most mature/responsible people in my friendship group. I never rushed into having sex, it was what I wanted to do, and yes we used protection and everything... maybe we're in the unlucky percentage!
God... I really hope I'm just getting worried over nothing!
Hannah x
I can't talk to my mum as she is at work and nobody is in the house and I can't phone anyone to talk to, so I'm just going to write it down and get it out!
My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for about 10/11 months, we've always been good friends and went to the same high school. We love each other lots. He's in the navy now and works down in Plymouth. I still live up north and am in my second year of college doing my A levels, hoping to go to uni... this year!
Right so, we first had sex on Chritmas Eve, we took all the precautions, used protection (condoms). All was fine. We have then had sex a number of times after that. One night (Boxing day) he had, had a few pints but wasn't drunk. I hadn't had anything to drink! So we got carried away etc. (we hadnt had penetrative sex at this next stage). We were using a condom while I pleasured him (because when he ejaculates it goes all over...)
Anyway, I took the condom off because I thought it might make it feel better. When he came it went all over, but it was dark so I don't know if he had it on his hands. Anyway he pleasured me with his hands after that. (That's the bit I'm unsure about!) After that when we had penetrative sex we used a new condom... so all was ok... so i thought!
The day after I started getting paranoid and thinking about it, whether you could get pregnant if he fingered me after what had happened. I thought there was a good possiblity. We talked about it, me all worried. He wasn't sure what had happened, neither was I. So I decided I'd get a pregnancy test the day after. (I was going to take the morning after pill but I find it hard taking pills)
After talking about it some more and reading, i didn't think it would detect a pregnancy so soon afterwards. Also we took all the precautions etc!!
So we carried on having sex (we used protection everytime). Now about a week on, I'm starting to worry again. Last night I had wind, and my breasts seem larger. Which are possible signs I suppose. It may be psychological, but I'm not sure. My periods are all over the place anyway, so judging it from them would be tricky!
My boyfriend has gone back to work and we are both depressed becuase of that. I have exams next week and I'm all stressed out!
I was thinking of buying a pregnancy test today but I don't know whether it would register!... I'm just feelling like rubbish basically!
I don't know who to talk to, of course my boyfriend but I can't ring him until tonight. I'm in two minds whether to talk ot my mum about it (we are close but I don't know if I have the guts to tell her this.) My best mate is back at school and isn't so easy to contact as she lives in a different county. Hmmmph!
Please would anyone give me any advice or anything!? Please don't judge and think I'm another stupid teenager who didn't think responsibly, because I've always been thought as one of the most mature/responsible people in my friendship group. I never rushed into having sex, it was what I wanted to do, and yes we used protection and everything... maybe we're in the unlucky percentage!
God... I really hope I'm just getting worried over nothing!
Hannah x
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Reply 1
If it went everywhere, then yes, there's a chance you got unlucky. Check if you're paranoid. Those little bastards will do anything to get to your egg - they don't have to be released in - just near.
Reply 2
i wouldnt worry about it...your probably ok but i suggest in the future just be a bit more careful with the finguring etc......if worse comes to worse you can always have an abortion. For now i suggest you concentrate on your exams first and get them over with (at least that'll take your mind of things) and anyway other signs of pregnancy are vomiting aint they ?
I doubt your pregnant. Its very phsychological, sometimes you convince yourself.
Take a pregnancy test in a weeks time. I wouldn't worry at all at this stage, and for your breasts to grow larger within a week is pretty damm quick.
If you are, the first person to talk to is yhour boyfriend.
Take a pregnancy test in a weeks time. I wouldn't worry at all at this stage, and for your breasts to grow larger within a week is pretty damm quick.
If you are, the first person to talk to is yhour boyfriend.
iceman_jondoe
i wouldnt worry about it...your probably ok but i suggest in the future just be a bit more careful with the finguring etc......if worse comes to worse you can always have an abortion. For now i suggest you concentrate on your exams first and get them over with (at least that'll take your mind of things) and anyway other signs of pregnancy are vomiting aint they ?
you be pregnant without all/any of the symptoms.
To the OP - Do a test to be sure it should be quite conclusive at this stage although I would imagine it highly unlikely there is v. slim possibility. Have you considered other forms of contraception - you're being responsible obviously as you're using condoms but a little exyta piece of mind never hurt anyone! If you don't like tking pills (as you've suggested) there are other forms of contraception you could try...........have a read of the contraceptive sticky at this top of this forum - and arrange to see your doctor/familiy planning clinic to discuss your options
Ok cheers, I think a lot of it is psychological. I'm going to nip to the chemist now and see about getting a pregnancy test.
I thought it was highly unlikely that I could be pregnant, as I've know silly people to have sex without ANY form my contraception and not be pregnant. But there are always the unlucky ones!
Thanks for putting my mind at rest a bit more!
I thought it was highly unlikely that I could be pregnant, as I've know silly people to have sex without ANY form my contraception and not be pregnant. But there are always the unlucky ones!
Thanks for putting my mind at rest a bit more!
Reply 6
i think the chances of you being pregnant are very, very slim but for your own piece of mind def go and do a test! you dont want to mess up in ur exams because of the stress. i hope everything goes well hun, let us know what happens.x
Reply 7
i know exactly how you feel hun!!! the same thing happened to me with my first boyfriend and i got so paranoid about it that it ruined a family holiday!! firstly i'd tell you to act RATIONALLY! it's very unlikely you are pregnant!
secondly you need to calm down and realise it's just a big panic and it's in your head really.
thirdly, the only thing that will put your mind at ease is a pregnancy test, which i think if you get the right kind work 1 week or so before your period is due.
fourthly, well done for being so sensible!! it's not every girl that has a mass panic about this! as you said you know people that have had sex without any protection at all.
fifthly i think you should think about going on the pill.
secondly you need to calm down and realise it's just a big panic and it's in your head really.
thirdly, the only thing that will put your mind at ease is a pregnancy test, which i think if you get the right kind work 1 week or so before your period is due.
fourthly, well done for being so sensible!! it's not every girl that has a mass panic about this! as you said you know people that have had sex without any protection at all.
fifthly i think you should think about going on the pill.
Reply 8
What do you mean "you think"? Get a test FFS.
Reply 9
Don't worry about your boobs getting bigger and feeling a bit funny, could just be coming up to your period- water retention and all that jazz, I always feel a bit dodgy.
Most important thing is to RELAX. If you need to get a pregnancy test for that, then I'd suggest doing it. If you're stressed it can delay you coming on, and then you get more stressed and you don't come on and the whole horrible cycle continues. Look out for signs you're coming on- e.g. my skin always gets really bad just before my period, so if I'm a bit worried then I look out for spots (Yay.
).
Would also recommend the pill if you're having sex regularly- or to make your periods more regular- if you don't feel comfortable about telling your mum/ folks that you're on it for contraceptive reasons, then tell them that's why you want to go on it. I went on for bad period cramps and it has helped a lot.
Good luck! xxxx
Most important thing is to RELAX. If you need to get a pregnancy test for that, then I'd suggest doing it. If you're stressed it can delay you coming on, and then you get more stressed and you don't come on and the whole horrible cycle continues. Look out for signs you're coming on- e.g. my skin always gets really bad just before my period, so if I'm a bit worried then I look out for spots (Yay.
). Would also recommend the pill if you're having sex regularly- or to make your periods more regular- if you don't feel comfortable about telling your mum/ folks that you're on it for contraceptive reasons, then tell them that's why you want to go on it. I went on for bad period cramps and it has helped a lot.
Good luck! xxxx
Firstly, well done for not using the Anonymous thing, so many people use it un necessarily, so good. Secondly, I would take the test if you like, because if it does say positive and you start taking the pill, you might feel differently, however, if you don't want to believe you may be pregnant just take the pill regardless- i'd do that, there maybe a case of what if, but that's all it'd be, so in fact, I'd stronly advise against a pregnancy test and just go straight to the pill and then it should be fine, you seem to be using protection all the time anyway, I shouldn't worry about it much, just keep using the protection and get the pill.
rich_
Firstly, well done for not using the Anonymous thing, so many people use it un necessarily, so good. Secondly, I would take the test if you like, because if it does say positive and you start taking the pill, you might feel differently, however, if you don't want to believe you may be pregnant just take the pill regardless- i'd do that, there maybe a case of what if, but that's all it'd be, so in fact, I'd stronly advise against a pregnancy test and just go straight to the pill and then it should be fine, you seem to be using protection all the time anyway, I shouldn't worry about it much, just keep using the protection and get the pill.
JackieS
strgonly advise AGAINST a pregnancy test?! Are you crazy?If she's already pregnant then going on the pill isn't going to help her - don't give such stupid advice
Yeah, woops, a bit silly, I thought the pill would just terminate it if she was pregnant at this very early stage. Now I know it doesn't, then yes, sorry, definitly get a test done. Excuse me for my wrong advice
iceman_jondoe
i wouldnt worry about it...your probably ok but i suggest in the future just be a bit more careful with the finguring etc......if worse comes to worse you can always have an abortion. For now i suggest you concentrate on your exams first and get them over with (at least that'll take your mind of things) and anyway other signs of pregnancy are vomiting aint they ?
Reply 16
theres nothing you can do at this stage really cos you cant get a reliable pregnancy test until your periods late or a couple of days before i thiiink? best thing to do is relax, while its technically possible its so unlikely that you're pregnant and youre just stressing yourself out thinking about it which could make your period late in itself. try not to worry, wait until your period and go and get the pill, or if you dont like taking pills get the injection and keep using condoms. that will stop you worrying in future. hope its all good x
Reply 17
ok, you're obviously very careful when it comes to safe sex which is great, but maybe you're just overeacting a teensy bit?
I very much doubt you are pregnant - firstly, even if there was sperm on your boyfriend's hands and he fingered you, its very unlikely that the sperm would have got to an egg, as there was no...er...'driving force' from an ejaculation. I suggest taking a pregnancy test just to make sure, it will be long enough afterwards now to be pretty accurate.
You might wanna do two or three from different brands, just to make sure
I very much doubt you are pregnant - firstly, even if there was sperm on your boyfriend's hands and he fingered you, its very unlikely that the sperm would have got to an egg, as there was no...er...'driving force' from an ejaculation. I suggest taking a pregnancy test just to make sure, it will be long enough afterwards now to be pretty accurate.
You might wanna do two or three from different brands, just to make sure
Reply 18
If you aren't very good at taking pills perhaps you should find out about some other similar type method.
Anonymous
If it went everywhere, then yes, there's a chance you got unlucky. Check if you're paranoid. Those little bastards will do anything to get to your egg - they don't have to be released in - just near.
Actually, they're really quite rubbish at it. It's highly unlikely that you're pregnant. But definitely get a test and consider some hormonal contraception.
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