Parting ways with people :(

Wow this is a difficult one to help with.

we all know that parting ways with people is a part of life we can't avoid, and never is a good thing to think about.

Normally in these situations the "old group" are under the impression that you have left them and would rather be elsewhere... as if you have rejected them by going on to better things than them. Remember humans are instinctly jelous, and communication from you is seen as pity calls.

So what can you do?

See them. Seeing them in person brings back old feelings of familiarity.

Hope that helps

reading your story has made me upset too in a few months i will be leaving friends and co as we will all go our seperate ways to university it sucks and i think it will take me a long time to come to terms with the fact that the ppl i c day in day out at the moment i will never eveer c again no matter how hard we try to keep in contact
but i know i will meet new ppl some better some worse it is part of life and it is a bitch!

wow crrazy sussex uni is 20 mins away from me by drive, its lke nr brighton, and though i think brighton is pretty lame, so many ppl like it, so who knows u cud be meeting sum quirky ppl in brighton

( yeah same I'm going to university as a total loner as I said before my friends all left me at school and the girls I hang around with now don't seem like they want to go any further than sixth form - sussex uni here I come no baggage xoxo

lol I've never been but a friend of mine is going to chichester so I suppose it isn't that bad

Brighton is a great place and a very good friend of mine is at Sussex Uni... you'll have an awesome time!

I feel for you as I was in a similar situation last year... nothing to do with my friends hating me or anything, but they all went straight off to uni and I stayed behind, working on my Gap Year. Felt pretty rubbish for a while as they were always telling me what a great time they were having, new friends they were making blah blah blah. Didn't really see or hear from them at all for the rest of the year. But now I'm also at Uni, I have a much better time when I do meet up with them, have more to talk about, stories to share and so on. This christmas holiday was great, just like the good old days of 6th form

I started Uni in October and I didn't know anyone else who was going there... I wouldn't have wanted it any other way to be honest. You should see it as a fresh start. You'll appreciate your old friends more when you eventually see them again, but if they are still being nasty to you, who cares? You'll have millions of new friends.

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I'm typing this live from Chichester as we speak! Small world...

My sister is at Chi Uni doing creative writing and loves it, sure your friend will too... it's a lovely city.

Ok I'll just get to the point - Me and my friends all broke away last summer firstly because we really didn't live close and secondly because they left to go to a technical college to do hairdressing and beauty therapy. Now me and these girls would have kept contact occasionally - went out clubbing together they were still my best friends but all of a sudden recently no one wants to know me or wants anything to do with me. I don't know why and its really getting me down - one girl who I would have seen as a 'true friend' keeps on ignoring my phone calls or text messages and I really don't know what to do....walk on and leave them out of my life or try to consolidate things with them? I really don't know what to do - any advice? xoxo

Awww hunny I know how you feel Friends move on and they get different lives and sometimes, you feel like you aren't a part of it, but you always will be, in memories but also because you haven't fallen out with them, so its entirely possible that they've just been busy I mean it's been Christmas and New Year, they've probably been busy buying Christmas pressies and trying to get work handed in, they probably got your messages and kept it thinking 'I'll get back as soon as I have time' then it's just got longer and longer.

I think Wolfgang gives good advice Just go and see them Or you should organise a proper get together, like a little party when you give everyone enough notice to make sure they can come and just have fun! I know a couple of my mates went abroad one Summer so we didn't see them for ages, then when they came home, they organised a 'Greek' themed party with loads of notice and we all came in beach wear, drank cocktails and had such a fab time! It was great!

As for Uni, Good Luck - not that you'll need it - when you get there you'll meet some fab people and they'll be friends for the next 3 years and for life! You'll have such a good time! But really, what I'm saying is, don't worry and don't think it's something you've done, you're fab and things will work out