What does he mean? Please advice...am rubbish with these things

Don't ususally post relationship stuff here but hey here goes...
I've met a person at University that I quite like. I don't hink 'fancy' is the right term...just have feelings that arn't entirely platonic, I think...if that makes any sense :s:

I'd really like to get to know him better this term. I'm quite old-fashioned in these types of things and so would like to get to know him very well before I decide whether I want to go out with him or whatever. Thing is a) I don't know how to interpret his behaviour... he's quite chatty AFAIK with his friends...but in our tutorials together he's ever so quiet and I find he's always seems very shy when I talk to him. (We are sort of in different social groups so I tend to see him mainly in an academic setting.) AFAIK, he has no idea I think of him in any way apart from in a purely platonic manner. b) Well :redface:

I really don't know how to interpret what I am now goiing to write because it has gotten me so confused. Halfway through term, I noticed that whilst being quiet (as usual!) he was being sort of really nice to me! At first I thought 'aw bless' but then he randomly hugged me (in public :s:

) - AFAIK, he's not a 'hugger' - anyhoo, I just kept thinking 'aw bless'. Then on the last day of term he cornered me after lunch, put his arm round me, asked me when I was leaving and whether he'd see me over the holiday (D'oh he KNOWS I live abroad)...blah blah that he'd miss me. I got pretty embarrassed and said "oh I hope you have a good holiday too, see you' :banghead:

I get tongue tied easily. Well days passed...I decided to Facebook him and say hi...got a nice reply back...Facebooked him again (slightly longer message, but still purely chummy) to wish him a good Xmas.

Well since then I've heard nowt. Should I just assume he's not interested and nip things in the bud? That he found some lush Frenchy when on his skiing holiday? Or can i live in hope? :redface:

Please advice.
xx
Oh and I would have rung him...but it's like 1 quid per min to ring the UK from where I am and I'm cheap. :biggrin:

Reply 1

totally_unique

1

why not wait till you go back to uni? corner him and talk to him then?

keep the hopes high :smile:

!

Reply 2

Wild Thing

11

He likes you. LUcky bitch :wink:

Wish that would happen to me

Reply 3

Whizz

1

Just because he hasn't got in touch recently, doesn't mean he doesn't like you/ want to get to know you/ [insert other here]. Maybe he's busy? Maybe he doesn't want to seem desperate? There are plenty of reasons. Don't give up on something which hasn't even begun yet! Give the guy a chance.

Reply 4

Adam83

12

i think you can live in hope, based on what you have said

Reply 5

Bob123

do you realy want to go out with someone that puts you in difficult situations like that?

Reply 6

good mermington

could be that he just wanted to bang you before you left. You sure he's not the love 'em and leave 'em type?

Reply 7

it sounds just like someone I know.

Reply 8

I think it all sounds sweet, guys never fall for me like this

Reply 9

BobMob

He probably doesn't want to seem to desperate or whatever, plus with the two of you away for holidays he might not have a lot to say for you, no shared experiences recently you know?

Just see what happens when you get back to uni.

Reply 10

minimo

15

culd be that he just wanted to bang you before you left. You sure he's not the love 'em and leave 'em type?

I haven't heard nasty stuff/rumours about him in that regard, and given it's an Oxbridge College, we're at (approx 600 undergrads only) news spreads fast. Plus I am NOT attractive...so he'd have to be well nigh on desperate to do the 'bang em/leave em' thing with me.
Oh well :smile:

Reply 11

minimo

15

culd be that he just wanted to bang you before you left. You sure he's not the love 'em and leave 'em type?

I haven't heard nasty stuff/rumours about him in that regard, and given it's an Oxbridge College, we're at (approx 600 undergrads only) news spreads fast. Plus I am NOT attractive...so he'd have to be well nigh on desperate to do the 'bang em/leave em' thing with me.

Reply 12

culd be that he just wanted to bang you before you left. You sure he's not the love 'em and leave 'em type?

I haven't heard nasty stuff/rumours about him in that regard, and given it's an Oxbridge College, we're at (approx 600 undergrads only) news spreads fast. Plus I am NOT attractive...so he'd have to be well nigh on desperate to do the 'bang em/leave em' thing with me.
Oh well :s:

Reply 13

Anonymous 2: Guys never fall for me. Full stop. That's why I'm confused.

Reply 14

President_Ben

15

wild thing

He likes you. LUcky bitch :wink:

Wish that would happen to me

Well, Phonicsdude and Onearmedbandit seem pretty desperate :p:

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Anonymous

Oxbridge College

Could never have guessed what with the facebooking (and if I was to be even more judgemental, your style of post) :rolleyes:

he'd have to be well nigh on desperate

In fairness... you are at an Oxbridge college and he is male.

Anyway, have a chat. Be frank (because so far you're about as clear as mud to him, probably). It'll help him to help you.

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Anonymous

Guys never fall for me. Full stop. That's why I'm confused.