Love?

How many of you have found it?

A few months ago my best mate took up with a guy three years older than her, I was a bit pissed off about this but what can you do? Usually the age gap wouldn't be a problem but he was 18 and she is 15 and to me, that's just said when he needs someone his own age or at least 17+. At the time, I told her I loved her. She gave me the whole, 'we're better as mates' line and I was like, OK.. that never went to plan.

But the thing is, I think I love her but I don't find her attractive. And I'm not sure you can make a relationship work if you don't find the person attractive? This girl is now telling me that she has feelings for me, but mine seem to have faded... I'm not sure if they ever existed, or the fact that we had such a good f/ship is clouding my judgement and making me see and think things that aren't there?

We used to be such good mates, and I don't want nothing to ruin that. Any advice on finding love, or knowing when you have found it would be appreciated.

Reply 1

Mrs_F

15

Not sure if I found it as it wasn't lost and I wasn't looking for it. However, I am in love.

Reply 2

Nakeli

Two of my friends fancied each other, but by the time they both realised it and decided to go out, they'd practically gone off each other, and it really put their friendship under strain.
Maybe you love her as a friend, rather than as someone you lust after, so then maybe it is best if you just remain good friends, rather than jeopardising your seemingly strong friendship...

Reply 3

Lady_Muck

14

I'm in Love, who knows whether it's 'puppy' or not. We've been together for 3 years and I could see it continuing for another 3 :smile:

We've been through so pretty tough **** over the last few years.

I don't think you can have it without physical attraction?

Reply 4

I actually made the stupid mistake of telling her I wasn't ''attracted'' to her, but I'm just a person that tells the truth! I would like us to be together, but maybe I should wait a while because we've got exams and I don't want to get with her if my feeling seem to be fading because then I will be faced with the job of finishing with her which could in turn, ruin the friendship.

Reply 5

Mrs_F

15

Anonymous

I actually made the stupid mistake of telling her I wasn't ''attracted'' to her, but I'm just a person that tells the truth! I would like us to be together, but maybe I should wait a while because we've got exams and I don't want to get with her if my feeling seem to be fading because then I will be faced with the job of finishing with her which could in turn, ruin the friendship.

So you don't find her attractive at all then? That must be difficult. What made you get with her in the first place.
I know there is more to it all than looks, but you have got to find them physically attractive in some way surely?

Reply 6

good mermington

A couple of weeks ago I went out with about 15 of my mates, one of whom is a fembot who used to like me and I used to like me and we...well you get the picture. Anyway after a couple of hours of drinking and dancing and methanphetamines, we were in a right state, and this guy who has tourettes decided he liked me and started trying to grind on my leg. I liked it at first but when I moved away there was a wet patch and I was a bit embarassed for him. Anyway, this girl came and danced with me to get him to go away, and that was fine, until she started getting a bit too close. Now I'm not one to turn down a pretty girl, but I'm in love with this other girl called Feebie, although I don't know if I'll ever get her. I didn't know what to do so I malfunctioned and ran out of there. I haven't spoken to anyone since then.

Sorry for pouring my heart out I can't help it, I'm very melodramatic

dringbot dringbot

Reply 7

Sorry, I don't think I explained right! I'm not actually with her, I was talking about whether I should get with her, and if I did and my feelings continued to fade then I'd be lumbered with the task of ending it, - if it began - and then it could end the friendship, I'm still a bit confused as to whether it's just the fact we had a great friendship and it's making me see things that aren't neccesarily there.

Reply 8

good mermington

I think you should get your end in, then you'll know.

Reply 9

I love a girl. I have to pretend I don't though. And sometimes it's really hard. I just want to tell her, and indeed I have told her (didn't change anything) and she must know anyway. Sometimes I think I should just stop talking to her, but it's impossible.

Reply 10

good mermington

rohypnol?

seriously though, you can't force these things. It takes time, my unloved friends, time. You can't make someone love you. Not without some sort of potion or machine. And until someone invents one of those, we'll all be alone. Unless you're already in love in which case congratulations.

Reply 11

good mermington

I think you should get your end in, then you'll know.

I don't get it

"Love is a four letter word that deceives the air..."

Reply 14

Laursy

10

ive NEVER been in love i told my ex i loved him knowing full well i and him knew we didn;t love each other but we both said it!!

abit screwed up but i just think we got caught up in the moment and all that!!

I have.

im too messed up to love in case it all falls apart before my eyes lol

abit screwed up really!! i am selfish and cant let anyone hurt me!!

Reply 17

Mrs_F

15

Laursy

im too messed up to love in case it all falls apart before my eyes lol

abit screwed up really!! i am selfish and cant let anyone hurt me!!

If it happens, it happens - there's not one damn thing you can do to stop it.

Reply 18

Laursy

10

i know that i just don;t want to have my life shattered but like you say it happens and there is nothing anyone can do like if i fall in love i can;t stop it, if i get hurt i can;t stop it!!

well i just like to be different and be the difficult one lol!!

Reply 19

good mermington

lol!

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