Crush On Lecturer, Ohhhhh What To Do...

I feel like a a 13 year old again,(althouhgh im 21), Im in the final year of uni and have had a huge crush on my lecturer for well...2 years. Now his not an 50 year old, if that makes the situation sound a little better, his 30.

oh how i dream of knowing that also has a crush on me...*~he probally knows I fancy him, I kind of fall into a daze while he lectures......*~but reality bites. Its probally never gonna happen :frown:

has anyone been in a similar situation. Should I hold ever profess my love for he.
Sorry a little poetic, but its how I feel right now

Reply 1

MNBStyle

9

Anonymous

I feel like a a 13 year old again,(althouhgh im 21), Im in the final year of uni and have had a huge crush on my lecturer for well...2 years. Now his not an 50 year old, if that makes the situation sound a little better, his 30.

oh how i dream of knowing that also has a crush on me...*~he probally knows I fancy him, I kind of fall into a daze while he lectures......*~but reality bites. Its probally never gonna happen :frown:

has anyone been in a similar situation. Should I hold ever profess my love for he.
Sorry a little poetic, but its how I feel right now

Well you admit its a crush so you will get over it eventually, and it will never happen anyway and anyway it wouldnt be fair to have him risk his job would it now

Reply 2

afhstingray

1

21 and 30 isnt THAT bad i guess.....

but both of you could get in trouble if you had a relationship. he might get fired or something if people found out.
guess you could wait till you finish your course, but i think you'll probably move on by then. just enjoy the crush but dont let it get out of hand....that way lessons will be fun

Reply 3

your right, facing reality really does hurt though

Reply 4

MNBStyle

9

Anonymous

your right, facing reality really does hurt though

Of course it will but the sooner the better, you could be missing out on a real nice guy you can have while your stuck in this fantasy

Reply 5

afhstingray

1

MNBStyle

Of course it will but the sooner the better, you could be missing out on a real nice guy you can have while your stuck in this fantasy

yep, thats why i recommend you dont wait till you finish your course to have a shot at this lecturer.

try going to more student parties/gatherings at the student halls or something. thats a good place to meet people. if you stay in uni residence, the quiz nites are fun too!

Reply 6

MNBStyle

9

afhstingray

yep, thats why i recommend you dont wait till you finish your course to have a shot at this lecturer.

try going to more student parties/gatherings at the student halls or something. thats a good place to meet people. if you stay in uni residence, the quiz nites are fun too!

Agreed but dont rush into finding another guy in a attempt to make your crush go away quicker as this will cause more problems.
Its something that will work out intime

Reply 7

Leigh

15

If he values his job, he wouldn't dream of dating a student I'd say.

Like you said, it's a crush and it may pass (ok, it hasn't in two years). I'd say you do whatever you've done for the last two years to cope with it until the end of your course. If you still like him afterwards, ask him when you graduate. I don't know how close you are; if he knows your name or whatever, if he does you could ask for his number/email when you leave so you can "stay in touch", or just be bold and come out with it, doubt you'll see him again so you have little to lose!

Reply 8

Laursy

10

i bet most tutors and people of authority get girls and guys having crushes!!

you need to think if it is really what you want!!
otherwise its just not worth the hassle!!

that might be totally rubbish advice but hey!! i had to put my two pennys in!!

Reply 9

lone_rider2007

hmmmm maybe ill try calling/ email him once i graduate and post failure/embarassment ect flee the country. Solved

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afhstingray

yep, thats why i recommend you dont wait till you finish your course to have a shot at this lecturer.

try going to more student parties/gatherings at the student halls or something. thats a good place to meet people. if you stay in uni residence, the quiz nites are fun too!

I do go out ect and meet charming people, I think his put a spell on me or something... no one eles seems quite as attractive.

Reply 10

MNBStyle

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qmulstudent

hmmmm maybe ill try calling/ email him once i graduate and post failure/embarassment ect flee the country. Solved

Then when nothing comes from it youll regret not looking for someone you can have before,
you know its a crush so why waste your time thinking what if what if, plus chances are he has a partner anyway

Reply 11

I have meet loads of lovely people, I swear his put me under a spell or something, lol noone seems to match him..now im dreaming again

Ill probally try the phone/email thing after graduation, if i was to do anything now id probally end up with the following options, post failure = go into hiding, flee the country, change identitity....

Reply 12

MNBStyle

9

Anonymous

I have meet loads of lovely people, I swear his put me under a spell or something, lol noone seems to match him..now im dreaming again

Ill probally try the phone/email thing after graduation, if i was to do anything now id probally end up with the following options, post failure = go into hiding, flee the country, change identitity....

I really really wouldn't go for your option if i was you :rolleyes:

but still im not you so i can only advice you

Reply 13

Spiral Architect

1

If you are going to ask him out at least do it while he still teaches you. At least then there is a chance of increased end of semester grade.

Reply 14

Well, if it's just a crush.. There 's no harm for being a secret adimirer i'd say.. You can give him a present for his birthday or something..Just to open his eyes to tell him that someone in university likes him.

I had a crush on my geography teacher when I was on form 3.. I regret not telling him though! If I could turn back time I would send him an anonumous letter or something!

Reply 15

MagicNMedicine

20

To be honest what is so immoral about a lecturer/student relationship?

It is not as though he would be taking advantage of a child, she's 21.

Reply 16

theres no law against it, most universitys have a code of conduct saying lecturers need to inform the Uni Dean, the fear is favouritism/ cheating that sort of thing

Reply 17

Ferrus

19

Anonymous

theres no law against it, most universitys have a code of conduct saying lecturers need to inform the Uni Dean, the fear is favouritism/ cheating that sort of thing

Yeah exactly, do what's best but tread carefully lest you want to spend the rest of your lectures with him desperately trying to avoid his gaze.

Reply 18

Alexander

12

If the OP and the lecturer did get into a relationship then it wouldn't mean the lecturer would lose his job! It's not uncommon for students and tutors/lecturers to have legitimate and open relationships -- in fact I know someone who married her university tutor!

Reply 19

Segat1

16

It happened to one of my friends. They are now getting married.

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