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Being a guy and having a ****ing conscience

I constantly see and hear about guys sleeping with other girls when in a relationship with another. A lot of these girls don't even seem bothered about their lack of morals and some even seem to find that a turn-on.

The majority of people still appear to have some form of morals by following "rules": don't sleep on their first date, if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend you shouldn't sleep with anyone else... but when technically, the rule doesn't apply, they don't seem bothered about sleeping around.

I've only just met this girl and we haven't even said we're a couple. Yet I was planning to see a ****buddy soon and can't do it as if things became serious with this girl, I'd feel totally bad. Most people have told me things like "She's not your girlfriend so do what you like. You won't be doing anything wrong or become a man-whore for doing so".

Why do I have a damn conscience and damn morals?
Reply 1
its called an open relationship if you aren't technically with this other girl then you should be able to do what you please and who you please!!

if this other girl gets annoyed theres no reason to as you aren't together!!

hope that was some help
Reply 2
Anonymous
its called an open relationship if you aren't technically with this other girl then you should be able to do what you please and who you please!!

if this other girl gets annoyed theres no reason to as you aren't together!!

hope that was some help


It's only an open relationship when it's already named a relationship and is open.

We only met recently but I fell for her as soon as I met her and... We haven't had time to define anything.
Reply 3
maybe your just a decent guy who really likes this girl and does not want anything to jeopardise it.
Reply 4
If you'll feel bad about it then don't do it. Simple.
twiga
If you'll feel bad about it then don't do it. Simple.


I agree :wink:
Reply 6
Yeah I used to feel very much this way, but if you try being a bastard you'll probably find it comes quite naturally.

Don't do it if you think she could really be special (I mean REALLY, not a tiny bit!), but otherwise go for it - the consequences may not be as bad as you think.
Reply 7
good things come to those who wait.
Reply 8
silence
good things come to those who wait.


Strike while the iron's hot.
Reply 9
Most guys have consciences... Do you think this girl would be upset if she knew about the **** buddy? You also have to think about the **** buddy... how would she feel if you rejected her?
Reply 10
If you're lookin to get with this new girl then I wouldn't see the **** buddy personally, if not then anything goes I guess.
Reply 11
I was in a similar-ish situation a couple of weeks back - didn't get with the girl and explained that I had a girlfriend (although it wasn't really true at the time I guess), but it turns out that I made the right move coz I'm going out with the girl I really liked from before now, without feeling even an ounce of guilt.
Reply 12
twiga
If you'll feel bad about it then don't do it. Simple.
Common sense prevails again :rolleyes: